would you have a niece to live with you if they were in need?

[materialgirl]

just wanting some views/experiences on this type of thing if possible, have name changed as sensitive subject.

basically, i have a niece who, for many reasons, is having lots of trouble at home. some their fault, but mostly is caused by the (divorced) parents.

dh is feeling obliged as he is both uncle and godparent, to think about stepping in to help. i don't mind the stepping in to help, but am a bit ok a lot more reluctant to offer for them to come and live with us.

has anyone been in this situation and given a home to a close, young relative? she's 13.

Yes, definitely. Either my own or DH's (iyswim).

But some great advice on here re boundaries etc.

One of my nieces, yes, she is lovely, everybody likes her.
My other niece was always a handful, I didn't really know her, I would be loathe to take her on.

I have 2 nieces. I would have no hesitation in having either or both of them to live with me and they wouldn't either.

Well, the trouble is that if you take her to live with you and it does not work out and you want her to leave, it will be devastating for her. This can put the hell of a lot of pressure on your family.
Offer to take her on holiday or to spend some week ends with you, she 'll get a bit of time off and this might be enough.
To be fair, unless the parents are REALLY useless, I really don't think it's a good idea for her to leave home. I appreciate her situation is difficult but 13 years of age is also a challenging time for most people.

I would really think about this - depends a lot what you have got going on yourself and be prepared for the "trouble" to come with her - may be caused by parents but won't necessarily stop if she moves out
I think some weekends/holidays might be the way forward at least in the short term and make sure she knows that you are there for her - bed for the night after a row etc - that you love her etc