@CobraChicken
Basically, with the amount of shared DNA with you and your brother, I'd be very, very surprised if they're not a full 1st cousin. I'd be double checking your conclusion about them not having any of your maternal grandfather's DNA before going any further - unless they have a D.O.B. that really doesn't make sense for that relationship.
Thanks very much for replying,
@CobraChicken. Yes, we have based most of our assumptions on shared matches and maybe that’s sent us down the wrong track. The dates do make sense for the mystery woman (Brenda) to be the child of one my mum’s sisters – mum had three sisters in their late teens/early twenties at the time Brenda would have been conceived, and they were all single and living in England at the time (so there could easily have been a pregnancy that the family in Ireland didn’t know about).
But there are two things that don’t seem to fit. We have a half-cousin who has had her DNA analysed (her mum was my granny’s child, but not granda’s). She doesn’t match with Brenda at all, which implies that Brenda isn’t our cousin on granny’s side.
And Brenda has a nephew (her brother’s son) on Ancestry. I have a 7% match with him, which suggests that both Brenda and her brother are closely related to us, which is confusing. We’ve discussed this with the nephew, and he thinks that my grandfather fathered Brenda’s MOTHER. Granda would have been 18 at the time, so it’s possible, but the DNA percentage seems too high for this.
I just can’t make sense of it, and I’m wondering if it’s possible for some ’quirk’ to throw up a high cM match that implies the relationship is closer than it really is? I really hope it’s not the case, but if a child’s parents were closely related, could that double up the DNA similarity?