I knew someone who was dying of cancer. He had been brought up a Christian and was led to believe that his faith would pull him through. His cancer was a test of his faith, and he genuinely believed that and that God would bring healing.
So his partner asked for prayer from his congrigation, his friends, etc, and the responses came back and were about how God would be granting healing to him, because he was one of God’s children. As time went on he became sicker and sicker, it was inevitable because he had a terminal diagnosis. And the sicker he became, the more he believed that his faith in God couldn’t be strong enough because God hadn’t granted him healing.
And then he died. And after he died, whereas before his wife had received hundreds of messages of support, she now received none. Because his faith wasn’t strong enough, and as such God didn’t grant the healing.
He, fortunately, had lost his faith weeks before he died. But she is left with the doubt of others that the reason he died was because he didn’t give enough of himself to God.
The thing is, if Christians don’t agree with this stuff or believe in it then they need to start speaking out against it. Because the overriding message of the churches is currently one of intolerance and judgement.
If your religion tells you to go and spread the word of God you can’t blame people for not wanting to know when the churches you are calling them to are putting conditions on them wanting to belong.
So while you *meaning the general you rather than the OP specifically) don’t want to be that kind of Christian, the reality is that it’s that kind of Christian which is being pushed to the fore and sold to the masses, and as such it’s little wonder that people don’t want to know.