Baroness Stern and false allegations

I would like to place a male perspective here - being a husband and father who has been married for 25 years and now going through a separation - whereby my wife has recently left the marital home and inexplicably made an allegation to the police that I raped her for a period of 10 years until just before the separation.
I have not been the best husband in the world and I understand that there was a huge amount of bitterness in my actions over the course of the marriage, but the allegation of rape is beyond all comprehension - my wife was in control of our sex life and not once in 25 years did I force myself on her.
Is she chronically depressed over my actions and her mother's recent bereavement, does she want to destroy me, would she want to stand up in court and be grilled by the defence team when there is no shred of evidence that the allegation is true?
I am desperate to apologise to her for my actions in the marriage and reassure her that I still have loving feelings for her and will sort her out financially etc.
I would have her back tomorrow if she wanted or am I being delusional?
Or is this a ploy to weaken my position in any divorce settlement?

Can you offer any hard evidence?

The evidence of the incidence of false rape allegation is from that well-known bastion of militant feminism, the police.

They say roughly 4%.

What is your evidence?

"have a biscuit, Dave"
Thank you mucho.

"he is a man, HB, and remember a man's opinion is worth twice as much as a woman's peer-reviewed published research."
Never implied that so stop putting words in my mouth. Just like yourself I'm human.

"Can you offer any hard evidence for this absurd assertion"
Are you going to pull a figure out your ass and say only 1% of rape accusations are false? They are becoming common and you know it.

come to think of it he may not be a man - this is the internet after all. He may be an otter. Or a wallaby.

he is a man, HB, and remember a man's opinion is worth twice as much as a woman's peer-reviewed published research.

have a biscuit, Dave

"It is my opinion false accusations are increasing and the accusers are in perfect mental health but know they will get off scot-free. In court women are always believed over men, if it wasn't for CCTV there would be even more innocent men in prison"

Can you offer any hard evidence for this absurd assertion, or are we all supposed to revere your opinion as quite enough evidence?

oh btw, women kill their husbands as well. And before you give me the "men are stronger" free card, women can (and do) easily compensate for lack of physical strength by use of a weapon and striking from behind/while her husband sleeps/element of surprise.

A true fact feminists like to sweep under the carpet.

Just thought I should give a male perspective on the topic..

It is my opinion false accusations are increasing and the accusers are in perfect mental health but know they will get off scot-free. In court women are always believed over men, if it wasn't for CCTV there would be even more innocent men in prison.

I find it disgusting some of you don't want anonymity for those accused. That you think evidence isn't needed and the accused should be guilty until proven innocent.

I really do think false accusations make it harder for genuine victims to come forward, but unless we make an example of the liars then many more will lie about rape and take unfair advantage of the special protection women now have.

Do you realize what happens to a man falsely accused of rape? He often loses his job, he gets abuse shouted at him in the street, his neighbours start a hate campaign against him forcing him to move home, his friends abandon him.. and if he is in prison sex offenders are among the most risk of harm. But I've never once heard a feminist see this as a problem.

Any guesses why most men don't support your little feminist charades??

LondonSun, that's so sad from Gail Sherwood. A mother's nightmare

ISNT there is no way I'd report a rape now. It's just too big a risk.

Who was it who said on another thread that we need a black panthers for women? It's horrific to think how unprotected we are by the law.

The media is so biased, I think all of it's propaganda. YOu get so used to it, though you end up believing the skewed perspective of the world. I'm still trying to get over the shockingly high murder rate of women at the hands of their spouse. We hear nothing about that and yet lots of reports about women making false allegations of rape

The media is so biased, I think all of it's propaganda. YOu get so used to it, though you end up believing the skewed perspective of the world. I'm still trying to get over the shockingly high murder rate of women at the hands of their spouse. We hear nothing about that and yet lots of reports about women making false allegations of rape

There have been a lot of these cases in the papers lately.

I think that many women reading the papers would be put off reporting an assualt in case they end up in prison. There aren't ay incentives to report rape even without this threat on top.

One of the comments on the website said the usual ie she should have been given the death penalty.

Londonsun: I came late to this too but wanted to say how much I admire the work you're doing. It's inspiring and incredingly informative too. The whole situation is absolutely shocking; the more I read, the more I despair.

It's not the same thing at all, but I was part of a horrendously sexist selection panel a few weeks ago (one female candidate being called a 'ball breaker' in informal discussion) and I felt utterly and shockingly powerless. I can't even imagine what this is like for women in much, much more serious and devastating situations like your own. It seems that actually being raped isn't enough, women have to be punished for daring to complain about it

horrible!
and medical evidence to support the attack!
after looking at the links ive noticed that-
the women who have pleaded guilty to false allegassions-have got less sentences!!
she obviously didnt plead guilty-so got more!
so really-if you get attacked but is not believed-you get more for standing youre ground!
[this sort of case where someone fabricates a allagation.........and continues with that allagation is rare...........]

could this be because she wasnt lying!!