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Civil service bans men from women’s spaces? Leaked guidance

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LadyHelenaThistle · 16/10/2026 08:03

Can anyone in the civil service confirm this? From the leaked document:

Access to facilities
11. The Department is responsible for managing access to workplace facilities and ensuring that arrangements are lawful, appropriate, and meet the needs of all employees. An employee cannot independently make a decision about which facilities they will use, but must follow the Department's policy and guidance.

  1. Employees are not required to disclose their gender identity. However, it will help the Department to fulfil its responsibilities to you as an employer if you do choose to share information about your circumstances. Neither are you required to disclose if you have a GRC. Although a GRC changes your legal status in certain respects, it does not alter your sex for the purposes of accessing single-sex facilities.

  2. You may not elect to use facilities of your affirmed gender which are designated as single-sex. Where provision of facilities is limited, interim facilities access arrangements may need to be put in place. Your line manager will work with you and the departmental Estates team to consider the options available within your workplace while any longer-term facilities provision is arranged.

  3. Depending on the facilities available in your workplace and as defined in the Policy's Glossary of terms, the facilities available to you are most likely to be:

  • facilities which are designated as unisex or universal, including a unisex accessible toilet
  • facilities of your sex which are designated as single-sex. If you are content to use these, this may be possible in some circumstances. However, your line manager will not require you to use or continue to use these.
15. If you work from locations other than your base office, you may find that the facilities provision is not the same. If you are not sure what facilities you should be using when visiting those premises, you should raise this with your line manager or contact the designated Estates mailbox.
  1. All arrangements on access to facilities may need to be reviewed with your line manager from time to time so that the Department, as your employer, can ensure legal compliance e.g. when there is a change in legal interpretation or any relevant statutory guidance about use of facilities.

  2. All employees are expected to follow this guidance and associated policy, regardless of whether they choose to disclose information about their gender identity.

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AlexandraLeaving · Yesterday 05:55

Tears0fTheMushroom · 16/10/2026 16:31

Lots of "threats" to quit work.
I don't suppose they'll be missed much judging from their entitled attitudes on that thread.

Indeed. And other threats too. I can’t understand how they are allowed to get away with saying things like this (photo incoming):

Civil service bans men from women’s spaces? Leaked guidance
JellySaurus · 16/10/2026 23:15

LadyHelenaThistle · 16/10/2026 19:05

Agreed! Sorry if not clear, I was posting an exchange from Reddit supporting the point that handmaidens will always be there to give away other women’s rights for clout - intra-group social jockeying, as I’ve heard it called. I pasted the text into my message bc it didn’t look as if the screen shot was showing up.

Your post was completely clear. I was commenting on the comment you quoted.

lcakethereforeIam · 16/10/2026 19:42

Tbh I think escalating incidents to managers is probably good advice. Does the guidance say anything about what the next step should be if the manager ignores the complaint or if the person is the manager.

I've read a couple of the articles about the CS who was apparently holding 5 jobs simultaneously. It seems very, very difficult to do anything about bad staff in the CS.

LadyHelenaThistle · 16/10/2026 19:11

IwantToRetire · 16/10/2026 18:59

Assuming this is the same guidance as in OP the Telegraph has a rather different attitude.

Don’t challenge trans women in lavatories, Civil Service tells staff
Confronting someone who might be in wrong facilities for their gender could be ‘unlawful harassment’
https://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/2026/10/16/dont-challenge-trans-women-in-lavatories-civil-service-tell/

also at https://archive.is/zU5pj

I agree with the Telegraph’s take here - I didn’t copy the whole doc into my messages and probably ended up giving a more optimistic slant than is fully warranted. The civil service guidance seems to me much more grudging and problematic than the NHS guidance, as it seems to leave realistic employees open to the Bananarama defense - you can not believe a man is a woman, but you need to be very careful about how you express that.

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LadyHelenaThistle · 16/10/2026 19:05

JellySaurus · 16/10/2026 16:58

As a woman, you dont speak for me. Anyone who identifies as female is welcome in the bathroom with me.

Equally, you don’t speak for me. You are welcome to pee with men if you want. You are welcome to go ‘in the bathroom’ with ‘anyone who identifies as female’, but you’ll have to go in their bathroom, ie the Mens’ or the Unisex one, not the Ladies’.

Agreed! Sorry if not clear, I was posting an exchange from Reddit supporting the point that handmaidens will always be there to give away other women’s rights for clout - intra-group social jockeying, as I’ve heard it called. I pasted the text into my message bc it didn’t look as if the screen shot was showing up.

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IwantToRetire · 16/10/2026 18:59

Assuming this is the same guidance as in OP the Telegraph has a rather different attitude.

Don’t challenge trans women in lavatories, Civil Service tells staff
Confronting someone who might be in wrong facilities for their gender could be ‘unlawful harassment’
https://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/2026/10/16/dont-challenge-trans-women-in-lavatories-civil-service-tell/

also at https://archive.is/zU5pj

JellySaurus · 16/10/2026 16:58

LadyHelenaThistle · 16/10/2026 16:38

Answer on TheCivilService subreddit to someone asking about transitioning at work two days ago. I like the cut of Exotic’s jib.

ExoticWhereas5687

You will be fine, just remember to obey the law and don't intrude upon women's toilets :).

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GeneralEffective

As a woman, you dont speak for me. Anyone who identifies as female is welcome in the bathroom with me.

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As a woman, you dont speak for me. Anyone who identifies as female is welcome in the bathroom with me.

Equally, you don’t speak for me. You are welcome to pee with men if you want. You are welcome to go ‘in the bathroom’ with ‘anyone who identifies as female’, but you’ll have to go in their bathroom, ie the Mens’ or the Unisex one, not the Ladies’.

Wishesandhorses · 16/10/2026 16:56

Tears0fTheMushroom · 16/10/2026 16:31

Lots of "threats" to quit work.
I don't suppose they'll be missed much judging from their entitled attitudes on that thread.

If they are unwilling to follow policy then ok, their decision. Plenty of people looking for work.

It is going to need to be written into contracts, the following of policy.

My GOD the effort in 2026 to get women permitted their actual, existing rights.

Wishesandhorses · 16/10/2026 16:51

Sigh.

The passionate and desperate to be with men will be fine in the gender neutrals, won't they? They can pee with men to their heart's content. They merely cannot destroy other women's needed provision to demonstrate their political purity. I get that not getting to wreck the rights and access of women to some people is utterly heart breaking, thoughts and prayers etc.

I would be wary about some well meant campaign however to don t shirts and lanyards declaring I Am The Right Sort Of Woman Who Will Pee In Mixed Sex Spaces To Comfort Men as it's unfortunately going out the male users. Better to just use them quietly and stop faffing.

Coatsoff42 · 16/10/2026 16:48

Tears0fTheMushroom · 16/10/2026 16:31

Lots of "threats" to quit work.
I don't suppose they'll be missed much judging from their entitled attitudes on that thread.

The vast legions of women who keep their mouths shut and their heads down because they have families to support and bills to pay, but in Reddit land they’re free as a bird to flounce off onto benefits. It’s very speaking about who carries the responsibilities in society, and who is all hot air and ego.

LadyHelenaThistle · 16/10/2026 16:38

lcakethereforeIam · 16/10/2026 11:07

I suspect the shock troops will be the handmaidens. Progress lanyards, pronouns, 'you can pee with me', all the performative bullshit. Obviously they can strip off in the mixed sex changing rooms and shower with the other...girls if they wanted to validate they/them. Let the nonconsenting bigots women have the single sex facilities.

The problems lie when the handmaiden is quite senior. It may still be difficult for women to speak up if their line manager, in their own little fiefdom, just (at best) plays lip service and the fragrant Brenda is given a nod and a wink. GC women have been winning their cases but it's a minority who've had the strength, funds and stamina for the fight. Their wins have come a tremendous personal and actual cost. There seem to have been no repercussions for the colleagues and managers that made their actions necessary.

This guidance, if it's real, is a big step in the right direction. There needs to be actual consequences for ignoring it.

I wonder what the reactions of the unions will be? I'm desperate for someone to take on a union like Unison who are explicitly twaw like Sandie Peggie did with the nursing Union.

Answer on TheCivilService subreddit to someone asking about transitioning at work two days ago. I like the cut of Exotic’s jib.

ExoticWhereas5687

You will be fine, just remember to obey the law and don't intrude upon women's toilets :).

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GeneralEffective

As a woman, you dont speak for me. Anyone who identifies as female is welcome in the bathroom with me.

+21

Civil service bans men from women’s spaces? Leaked guidance
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Tears0fTheMushroom · 16/10/2026 16:31

SingleSexSpacesInSchools · 16/10/2026 10:19

Lots of "threats" to quit work.
I don't suppose they'll be missed much judging from their entitled attitudes on that thread.

Keeptoiletssafe · 16/10/2026 16:01

hholiday · 16/10/2026 14:54

Good (albeit belated) news for the NHS and civil service but we also need a return to proper single sex spaces at schools and local authority facilities. As in a recognition that solely providing mixed sex spaces is unacceptable and discriminatory. I have been looking at secondary schools with mine and almost all of them have full-length locked doors - male and female right alongside each other - just opening out into a corridor. I remember being a teenage girl when periods went wrong or sometimes fainting. To lock a girl away behind a full-length door and expect them to emerge on to a busy corridor at that time of their life is cruel.

The change in toilet designs in schools was the impetus for me starting my campaign to keep toilets safe. There’s been so many problems that should serve as a warning.

What everyone seems to be promoting is adding completely private mixed sex toilets to cater for a very few people. If anyone had done a risk assessment on adding completely private, resistant to sound spaces to public areas, especially retrospectively in unsuitable areas, they would understand the cost often outweighs the benefit. I hope this is properly thought out. Adding a poorly designed enclosed space is discriminatory because it affects certain groups more than others.

MrsOvertonsWindow · 16/10/2026 15:58

Boiledbeetle · 16/10/2026 15:52

The TRAs must be so pissed that after years of Conservative rule it is Labour in power as all these wrongs get righted.

Yes - it's also a labour govt who placed gender questioning children firmly under safeguarding guidance. Which suggests that there must be hidden data from the NHS, the police, education etc that highlights the appalling impact that both social transitioning plus dodgy use of PBs etc on developing minds and bodies.

They've been so captured by the trans lobby they would never have done it unless they knew what was coming down the line.

MrPrettyDamnCosmic · 16/10/2026 15:56

ProfNebulousDeadline · 16/10/2026 15:47

Once again that isn't the PCS union but this time it's PCS Proud which is another ginger group of PCS members.

MrPrettyDamnCosmic · 16/10/2026 15:54

Hoardasurass · 16/10/2026 15:28

@MrPrettyDamnCosmic a "ginger group"?

A ginger group is a formal or informal group within an organisation seeking to influence its direction and activity. The term comes from the phrase ginger up, meaning to enliven or stimulate.

In political terms you could describe Momentum or the Monday Club as ginger groups for Labour & Tories respectively.

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ginger_group

Boiledbeetle · 16/10/2026 15:52

The TRAs must be so pissed that after years of Conservative rule it is Labour in power as all these wrongs get righted.

ProfNebulousDeadline · 16/10/2026 15:47

MrPrettyDamnCosmic · 16/10/2026 15:06

That's not from the PCS union but the PCS Independent Left who are a ginger group of PCS members. This is how they describe themselves.

We are the PCS Independent Left (IL), a democratic organisation of socialists within the PCS union.

Yes but PCS isn't neutral either.

www.pcs-proud.org.uk/emergency-pcs-proud-members-meeting/

Hoardasurass · 16/10/2026 15:28

@MrPrettyDamnCosmic a "ginger group"?

MrsOvertonsWindow · 16/10/2026 15:18

hholiday · 16/10/2026 14:54

Good (albeit belated) news for the NHS and civil service but we also need a return to proper single sex spaces at schools and local authority facilities. As in a recognition that solely providing mixed sex spaces is unacceptable and discriminatory. I have been looking at secondary schools with mine and almost all of them have full-length locked doors - male and female right alongside each other - just opening out into a corridor. I remember being a teenage girl when periods went wrong or sometimes fainting. To lock a girl away behind a full-length door and expect them to emerge on to a busy corridor at that time of their life is cruel.

The new KCSIE (Keeping Children Safe in Education) guidelines is very clear. No mixed sex changing, toilets, sleeping. Schools must record biological sex and in any cases where there are any elements of social transitioning (and there are suggested limits and conditions for this) the school must explain that:

"supporting any degree of social transition will not include allowing access to toilets, changing rooms or boarding or residential accommodation designated for the opposite sex, and will not include allowing children to join PE classes designated for the opposite sex where there are safety reasons..."

The SC judgment suggested that failing to provide ss facilities could discriminate against girls / women. We'll no doubt need more bloody court cases, but finally stopping schools dabbling in socially transitioning children outside their professional expertise (that's pointed out in the guidance) will hopefully stop many children from getting caught up in all this.

See paras 254 onwards in KCSIE guidelines link:

https://assets.publishing.service.gov.uk/media/6ac3c09c11ed58342ad8e4ac/Keeping_children_safe_in_education_2026.pdf

https://assets.publishing.service.gov.uk/media/6ac3c09c11ed58342ad8e4ac/Keeping_children_safe_in_education_2026.pdf

MrPrettyDamnCosmic · 16/10/2026 15:06

ProfNebulousDeadline · 16/10/2026 12:53

https://pcsindependentleft.com/2026/10/14/the-urgent-fight-to-defend-trans-and-non-binary-workers/

There is also as PCS petition should be searchable on usual sites "transphobic"

That's not from the PCS union but the PCS Independent Left who are a ginger group of PCS members. This is how they describe themselves.

We are the PCS Independent Left (IL), a democratic organisation of socialists within the PCS union.

hholiday · 16/10/2026 14:54

Good (albeit belated) news for the NHS and civil service but we also need a return to proper single sex spaces at schools and local authority facilities. As in a recognition that solely providing mixed sex spaces is unacceptable and discriminatory. I have been looking at secondary schools with mine and almost all of them have full-length locked doors - male and female right alongside each other - just opening out into a corridor. I remember being a teenage girl when periods went wrong or sometimes fainting. To lock a girl away behind a full-length door and expect them to emerge on to a busy corridor at that time of their life is cruel.

JellySaurus · 16/10/2026 14:38

LadyHelenaThistle · 16/10/2026 08:08

  1. Intentional or repeated deadnaming and/or misgendering can also happen for other reasons e.g. a neurodivergent condition or memory issue, which should be established before any action is taken. However, deliberate deadnaming or misgendering to deny, mock or invalidate a person's transgender identity is unacceptable and should be investigated as potential misconduct.

Does using sex-accurate pronouns ’deny’ the trans IDed person’s beliefs, or express the speaker’s beliefs? Why is denying someone’s beliefs a bad thing? If a Jewish person says, “Jesus was not the Messiah”, or a Christian person says, “The NT supersedes the OT so it’s fine to eat pork” they deny the other person’s beliefs by expressing their own. Whats wrong with that?

If I see, hear, smell a man, why should I be denied the right to express my experience and my belief?

murasaki · 16/10/2026 13:15

Yes, I did this at work with a trans student, just used the chosen name when talking about them. Clunky, but safe.

StSpiridian · 16/10/2026 13:11

Re the wrong sex pronouns. The above draft says people can choose wrong sex pronouns for themselves but also recognises others may not believe in GI beliefs/ nonsense.

The draft does not require non believers to believe in GI- as that would be illegal- so it needs to clarify the employer will accept other polite ways of speech eg that they don't require lying about someone's sex.

eg using someone's chosen name repeatedly not a wrong sex pronoun. It's just awkward, but the best way to respect both people.

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