Today I discovered that Hinge can delete your account if as a straight male you complain about males appearing in your dating queue…

But I thought you couldn't tell the difference! How can you possibly be reporting them as male when they look the same as (if not better) than biological women???

Not to answer for the other person, but nobody is entitled to attention or attraction. It isn't discrimnatory to not be attracted to someone. Furthermore, nobody knows you scrolled on by so literally nobody can be hurt by it.

What someone could be hurt by is if you messaged them abuse for showing up in your feed. Many of my female friends have got that from men who have swiped positively on them just to send an abusive message about their presence on the site.

It's not intolerant to only want to date the opposite sex. To say anything different is rape culture.

OK, so its not transphobic if a transwoman claims he's straight (ie into men) and Hinge started to give him profiles for women because he can just scroll past and it doesn't matter that it invalidates his claim to be a straight woman - you'd say exactly the same right? No big deal, just scroll on by?

Okay imagine if OP could tick a box that meant he didnt see only saw straight women, would that solve his issue with seeing trans women in his feed?

Or would that just mean that he only saw women (and trans women) who say they are straight?

I think the latter. He would see anyone who says they are a woman and are only attracted to men.

So who he would exclude is anyone who says they are a woman but are attracted to men and women (and perhaps other GIs, too). Some of those would be bisexual biological women. I don't think OP necessarily wants to omit this group (bi biological women) from his searches.

What would solve OP's problem is the ability to see only biological women. If the site wants to, it could achieve this by ensuring members record both their biological sex and their GI and to punish users who aren't true to their word. With this feature, OP would be able to filter out trans women which is what he wants to do.

Brighton?

In what world does the sexual orientation’ ‘straight’ denote ‘attracted to people of the same sex’?

Yes I know. Again, all I have said is that sexual orientation is not what the OP is concerned about. It was in response to a comment where someone suggested it was.

A bisexual woman is still a woman, to whom he may be attracted and may be attracted to him. Presumably he’s not seeing transwomen who claim to be lesbians. Or gay men. (I’ve no idea, this really isn’t my area).

You can always tell by looking anyway.

Sure, but OP hasn't said that bisexual women are also people he doesnt want to see. So his issue is not that he wants to filter out bisexual people and cannot. His issue is that he cannot filter out trans women.

I think that OP can date whoever he wants, and he can simply swipe any people he thinks are transgender. It's really not hard. I know that gender critical people have redefined sexuality as part of their protected belief - but Hinge hasn't.

So, swipe, or use another service.

That's irrelevant.

I can understand why anyone might want to specifically filter their search to people they actually want to date. Apps don't let you though.

Isn’t sexual orientation, by definition, based on sex?

Why would they if not interested in a relationship with them?

Sure.. but again, it isnt about sexual orientation, is it? It is about trans women. You don't care if the trans woman says they are straight or bi. And you havent reported to care about whether women are straight or not. So it isn't about their sexual orientation, you just dont want trans women to show up in your searches for available women.

But they made it clear they would do that to users who attempt to report profiles who are trans just for showing up in your searches. What grounds would you have?

Do you realise that you have just called me a name and that I will have to report another of your posts where you attack women who challenge you?

I'm surprised he hasn't slipped into anyone's DMs or vice versa tbh. Seems like a great place for like-minded singles to meet

All you'd have to do is ask users what sex they were declared at birth and ban any user who is found to lie about that. You could then also omit the option to declare any other identity in relation to sex/gender.

Just to add, I got banned from Hinge, appealed it, and lost, all because, I was chatting to someone, in a private chat, and they asked what my most controversial thought was. I said that I didn’t think men that say they are women, should be allowed to compete in women’s sport, I then said, it wasn’t a controversial thought a few years ago. I said it just like that, no nastiness, woke up the next day and my profile had been deleted, appealed, but they upheaved the ban. They also own most of the other dating sites, e harmony, match, etc, so I was effectively banned from them all. Haha, maybe I should date the OP 😂😂. What I found most upsetting was the person I was talking to was that snide, disagree with me all you like, unmatch me, but to get me banned seemed so mean spirited!

He can specify his sexual orientation. This has nothing to do with sexual orientation! It's to do with trans people being easily identified and therefore easily excluded from his searches for available women.

Do.you think you're going to sue a dating site because they won't use a feature you want? That feature being to distinguish trans women and potentially exclude them from your searches?,

To be super clear, if a man specifies his sexual orientation as straight and then gets paired up with a load of men, he’s got a legitimate cause for complaint