Today I discovered that Hinge can delete your account if as a straight male you complain about males appearing in your dating queue…

I don’t and I did wonder if that is the source of our mutual lack of understanding

I’m still at a loss as to why it would be sensible to match a man looking for women with men, but given that you seem to be pretending men in skirts are women, I don’t think we’re going to see eye to eye on that point

True on how Hinge markets itself. They should probably have more features that allow you to filter your matches than fewer for that reason.

And yet, she just compared them. Mind-fuck!

Well Hinge claims to be about long term relationships. Even if it weren’t. There would be nothing compelling straight men to exclude transwomen. I’m sure no transwoman would want to be ‘dated under false pretences’ anyway.

Edited to repeat. What polling there is suggests the percentage of straight men sexually interested in transwomen is tiny.

Do you understand how search filters work on such apps?

Those are not remotely comparable situations

I think there are quite a few men sexually interested in trans women. Romantically interested is a different question. Isn't that type of porn one of the most searched? That would take both people interested in being the TW as well as people interested in having sex with TW to produce those kimds of stats

‘She’s a big girl’

’she knew what she was doing’

’she could have just left’

creepy as all get out

Hinge treats trans women as women. So, if you are interested in women, sometimes trans women will appear as suggestions. If you don't like that, leave the app or just scroll by. I'm sure it's irritating for transphobes, but those are the choices.

Your hypothetical app treats trans women as men. Yes, it would be transphobic, but we are talking about a transphobic app which any sensible transgender person wouldn't join. The solution would be for the trans women to either leave the app or accept this weird, transphobic set up where neither the people being swiped, nor the ones doing the matching would be happy.

You might do some reflection on why there are no apps like this.

He’s a big boy and can choose not swipe on people he doesn’t want to match with like everyone else.

HIS orientation is straight

ergo it’s no good a dating app showing him men, even ones in frocks

are you quite alright?

So creepy

’here are my boundaries about who I want to date. This app not respecting them is a bit upsetting’

’you seem a bit hysterical’

Given that, according to what polling there is, only a tiny percentage of men are interested sexually in transwomen, surely it would be in everybody’s interest if users could specify whether they are interested in transwoen (or indeed transmen). Save a lot of wasted time.

Just to add, I got banned from Hinge, appealed it, and lost, all because, I was chatting to someone, in a private chat, and they asked what my most controversial thought was. I said that I didn’t think men that say they are women, should be allowed to compete in women’s sport, I then said, it wasn’t a controversial thought a few years ago. I said it just like that, no nastiness, woke up the next day and my profile had been deleted, appealed, but they upheaved the ban. They also own most of the other dating sites, e harmony, match, etc, so I was effectively banned from them all. Haha, maybe I should date the OP 😂😂. What I found most upsetting was the person I was talking to was that snide, disagree with me all you like, unmatch me, but to get me banned seemed so mean spirited!

Because he hasn't reported that he cares about the sexual orientation of his potential matches. He just wants them to be biological women. He doesnt need to filter out bi women. He wants to filter out trans women. I dont get why this is difficult to understand.

Hinge treats trans women as women. So, if you are interested in women, sometimes trans women will appear as suggestions. If you don't like that, leave the app or just scroll by. I'm sure it's irritating for transphobes, but those are the choices.

Your hypothetical app treats trans women as men. Yes, it would be transphobic, but we are talking about a transphobic app which any sensible transgender person wouldn't join. The solution would be for the trans women to either leave the app or accept this weird, transphobic set up where neither the people being swiped, nor the ones doing the matching would be happy.

You might do some reflection on why there are no apps like this.

I can’t imagine what benefit there is for the app not to have that feature tbh. Seems like it would save a lot of hassle all round.

Hinge treats trans women as women. So, if you are interested in women, sometimes trans women will appear as suggestions. If you don't like that, leave the app or just scroll by. I'm sure it's irritating for transphobes, but those are the choices.

Your hypothetical app treats trans women as men. Yes, it would be transphobic, but we are talking about a transphobic app which any sensible transgender person wouldn't join. The solution would be for the trans women to either leave the app or accept this weird, transphobic set up where neither the people being swiped, nor the ones doing the matching would be happy.

You might do some reflection on why there are no apps like this.

of course it’s about sexual orientation-the OP’s

he is straight. He doesn’t want to be paired up with men, even if said fellas enjoy role playing as women

I’m a bit puzzled about why that’s not obvious to you

I can’t imagine what benefit there is for the app not to have that feature tbh. Seems like it would save a lot of hassle all round.

OK, so its not transphobic if a transwoman claims he's straight (ie into men) and Hinge started to give him profiles for women because he can just scroll past and it doesn't matter that it invalidates his claim to be a straight woman - you'd say exactly the same right? No big deal, just scroll on by?

Okay imagine if OP could tick a box that meant he didnt see only saw straight women, would that solve his issue with seeing trans women in his feed?

Or would that just mean that he only saw women (and trans women) who say they are straight?

I think the latter. He would see anyone who says they are a woman and are only attracted to men.

So who he would exclude is anyone who says they are a woman but are attracted to men and women (and perhaps other GIs, too). Some of those would be bisexual biological women. I don't think OP necessarily wants to omit this group (bi biological women) from his searches.

What would solve OP's problem is the ability to see only biological women. If the site wants to, it could achieve this by ensuring members record both their biological sex and their GI and to punish users who aren't true to their word. With this feature, OP would be able to filter out trans women which is what he wants to do.

Sure.. but again, it isnt about sexual orientation, is it? It is about trans women. You don't care if the trans woman says they are straight or bi. And you havent reported to care about whether women are straight or not. So it isn't about their sexual orientation, you just dont want trans women to show up in your searches for available women.

But I thought you couldn't tell the difference! How can you possibly be reporting them as male when they look the same as (if not better) than biological women???