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HR tell trans identified person to use work toilets that match biological sex. Person refuses. Colleagues complain about their presence in incorrect toilets to HR. What's the legal position of all parties?

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SingleSexSpacesInSchools · 14/11/2025 09:07

Whats the legal position for the workplace (repped by HR) as well as the trans identifying person? Will it depend on written policies in the workplace? Or by toilets saying Male/Female on them (or with the recognised signs for sexed spaces).

Different from the NHS cases, as this time HR is saying "don't do that". Could the trans identifying person get constructive dismissal?

Does it just become a disciplinary thing for not doing what you are told?

This isn't actually a hypothetical, I read this reddit thread https://www.reddit.com/r/transgenderUK/comments/1ovzfde/hradvice/ along with the advice given to the OP.

(Do read all the comments if you have the chance ESPECIALLY the downvoted ones at the end by a user called "Protect-the-dollz" . I personally think it's awful there is so much disinformation and poor advice everywhere and people are risking their lives and mental health off of it)

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Keeptoiletssafe · 17/11/2025 08:13

MyAmpleSheep · 16/11/2025 23:03

@Keeptoiletssafe

From where do we infer the need for individual toilets to be “sound resistant”? I’m not sure that’s quite right.

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Coatsoff42 · 17/11/2025 06:08

The OP on that Reddit thread hasn’t posted any update, so I’m assuming HR didn’t leave them much wiggle room.

WandaSiri · 17/11/2025 05:58

WandaSiri · 16/11/2025 21:00

Separation of powers in the UK is by convention only.
And?
The judiciary, the legislature and the executive exist as branches - though the executive controls the legislature in practice.
Parliament is not a court, nor is Parliament the King.
The House of Lords no longer functions as a court and has not done for some time.

Parliament cannot overrule the SC decision. Nor can the government. Only a new piece of legislation duly passed can change the law as clarified by the SC.

Also - the phrase "the will of Parliament" has a technical legal meaning which the original poster appeared not to understand.

@OpheliaWitchoftheWoods
Apologies - this post should have quoted @MyAmpleSheep's post at 20:25.
You must have been baffled!

Keeptoiletssafe · 17/11/2025 00:38

Harassedevictee · 17/11/2025 00:00

I think we have exchanged posts on this before.

I absolutely agree with you that stall type single sex toilets is the ideal. It is what I am proposing for the majority of toilets.

However, from an employers perspective having, in addition to SS stall toilets, a Unisex/GN toilet solves the legal risk of discrimination claims on the basis of gender reassignment.

Yes, the problem is always going to be cost and retrofitting private, mixed sex spaces into unsuitable sites. Is it worth it in terms of risk?
If we’re going to be adding to provision, I think I may have told you my ‘ideal’ would be single sex accessible toilets (with door gaps!) so disabled people get included in the benefits of single sex toilets. It would avoid the problems of misuse (drugs, sex, dirt) in accessible toilets and a parent with a pushchair or child can use the space too - with it being safer for the child. The mixed sex accessible toilet would be the only one to keep extra supervision on then.
https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cqjvnkzgr1no.amp

Harassedevictee · 17/11/2025 00:00

Keeptoiletssafe · 16/11/2025 23:16

On the HSE website they have an example of a reasonable adjustment for a toilet alteration as putting a bin in the mens for sanitary purposes for a man with prostate cancer.

I think the millions of people with invisible disabilities such as diabetes, epilepsy, general frailty and heart conditions, offices and other venues should be able to have safe toilets with the door gap at the bottom. That means single sex designs. Having researched safety for so many years I believe this option should be available unless it’s a one-toilet facility such as in a cafe that has more supervision and a greater turn-over by default.

I think we have exchanged posts on this before.

I absolutely agree with you that stall type single sex toilets is the ideal. It is what I am proposing for the majority of toilets.

However, from an employers perspective having, in addition to SS stall toilets, a Unisex/GN toilet solves the legal risk of discrimination claims on the basis of gender reassignment.

Keeptoiletssafe · 16/11/2025 23:16

Harassedevictee · 15/11/2025 23:21

I think this is an accepted fact for many TW. However, NB and Trans rights supporters are now seeing GN toilets as the answer.

However, the point of this thread is the legal basis on which an employer can take disciplinary action if a TP persistently uses SS toilets for their gender not biological sex. Having GN toilets alongside SS undermines any claims of fear using SS toilets for biological sex.

@CanaryChaffinch I personally prefer unisex toilets so Male, Female, Unisex and disabled.

@SerendipityJane I disagree there are far more disabled people 24% of population or 16 + million compared to TP 1% or c200,000 to 500,000. Most disabilities are not visible.

On the HSE website they have an example of a reasonable adjustment for a toilet alteration as putting a bin in the mens for sanitary purposes for a man with prostate cancer.

I think the millions of people with invisible disabilities such as diabetes, epilepsy, general frailty and heart conditions, offices and other venues should be able to have safe toilets with the door gap at the bottom. That means single sex designs. Having researched safety for so many years I believe this option should be available unless it’s a one-toilet facility such as in a cafe that has more supervision and a greater turn-over by default.

RareGoalsVerge · 16/11/2025 23:12

I didn't and never have suggested only unisex available. It's just obvious and reasonable to anyone who isn't on a crusade that building should have SOME unisex facilities AS WELL AS single sex facilities. Anyone who really wants to use a multi cubicle room can do so. Anyone whose need to dissociate from their birth sex stops them from going into the single sex space of their birth sex still can still have somewhere to go. I don't care that they don't want to do that and I really don't care that you'd rather use the single sex rooms that I haven't suggested get removed and which are already provided. I do care to ensure that people who believe in the magic gender pixie should not have a leg to stand on in claiming discrimination when we assert our rights to single sex spaces, which they could succeed in without reasonable access to facilities that they can access without abandoning their beliefs. I disagree with their beliefs but I will defend their right to hold those beliefs in a way that doesn't threated the rights of others because only by iron-cladding those rights which provide reasonable access without threatening women's rights can force the fighters to admit that the only thing they really actually want is the right to threaten women's rights. That is when progress will be made.

MarieDeGournay · 16/11/2025 23:11

upseedaisee · 14/11/2025 12:38

It's quite a simple problem to resolve. Biological women use the ladies, biological men use the gents and anyone in between, use the disabled toilet. There, sorted.

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Disabled people campaigned for decades to get accessible toilets because they need them, not because they prefer them or because using the non-adapted toilets would cause them 'distress'.

Handing over the accessible toilets as some kind of compromise or consolation prize for able-bodied transpeople to use because they refuse to use the toilet designated for them is not an acceptable solution.

But it's hard to tell from words on a screen, so I apologise if you were being ironicSmile

MyAmpleSheep · 16/11/2025 23:03

@Keeptoiletssafe

From where do we infer the need for individual toilets to be “sound resistant”? I’m not sure that’s quite right.

Keeptoiletssafe · 16/11/2025 22:49

RareGoalsVerge · 15/11/2025 11:47

Surely the business should be ensuring that there are also plenty of sole-occupancy fully-enclosed toilets, and then should have the same rules for everyone that you can either use the cluster cubicle/urinal rooms for your own physical biological sex, or you can use the single occupancy rooms, and it's fine to do either, for everyone of every possible gender. Having different rules of less access for any category of people is discriminatory, and it is established in law that failing to provide a singie sex facility is discriminatory to the women who need that (it's irrelevant how many women there are who don't need it, some do) and it is established in law that a facility that can be used by women and also males with a feminine gender identity is not single-sex. However there is no barrier to having plenty of single-occupier enclosed rooms that can be used by anyone irrespective of gender.

There is a health, safety and welfare aspect to this design though (which is what legislation and building regs are for). This is the reasons we have the toilet designs that are single sex with door gaps.

Universal toilets you are describing have to be their own room, be sound resistant and private. Advantages: no one can hear you fart and you can clean things privately in the sink. Disadvantages: no one can hear you scream, or see you if you have collapsed (compared to toilets with doorgaps), they can’t be cleaned or ventilated so well as so they are scientifically proven to hold more pathogens, they are rife for hidden cameras, sex and drug use are more likely. Hidden cameras have been found in schools, hospitals, offices etc. Sex in toilets is surprisingly common so there’s a specific clause added in the Sexual Offences Act to prohibit it but that doesn’t stop people - it does mean it’s more likely to be where people can get away with it. Also more common than most people realise is that people have medical emergencies in toilets. The longest I have heard about this year is 6 days to be found in busy council offices. The universal design needs more components like ventilation and alarms, they cost more per toilet and people are in there for longer. All the disadvantages are mostly disadvantages to everyone but sexual assaults are more likely to women and children. Those disadvantages are barriers to a healthy and safe workplace. It’s also a pain when there’s a fire alarm. Checking all these loos individually takes a long time and a lot have to be fire doors.

If you go down this route, please be aware that the universal toilets need more supervision and maintenance.

ArabellaSaurus · 16/11/2025 21:41

Meanwhile, Scotland is ruled by a roaming miasma of smug and indifference.

WandaSiri · 16/11/2025 21:00

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Separation of powers in the UK is by convention only.
And?
The judiciary, the legislature and the executive exist as branches - though the executive controls the legislature in practice.
Parliament is not a court, nor is Parliament the King.
The House of Lords no longer functions as a court and has not done for some time.

Parliament cannot overrule the SC decision. Nor can the government. Only a new piece of legislation duly passed can change the law as clarified by the SC.

Also - the phrase "the will of Parliament" has a technical legal meaning which the original poster appeared not to understand.

MyAmpleSheep · 16/11/2025 20:25

WandaSiri · 16/11/2025 18:21

I am well aware that the US has a different system of government and legal system.

My post was about the system that pertains here. I was explaining to a pp (among other things) that the SC is indeed the highest court in the land and Parliament is not a court and cannot simply "overrule" SC decisions. It has to pass new law.

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Separation of powers in the UK is by convention only. Actually all power vests in the King. The King has a government (“His Majesty’s Government”) and ministers, to function as an executive, and a parliament to write his laws and courts to interpret those laws. There’s a reason every judge sits under the royal arms - they’re representatives of the Crown.

Not so long ago the House of Lords did sit as a court, then it devolved its judicial function to the Appellate Committee of the house - the Law Lords.

Then parliament (by the King’s will, of course) passed that function off to a new court - the Supreme Court. but it still exercises the powers of the King.

the King can overrule the Supreme Court. But he’s not going to.

plantcomplex · 16/11/2025 19:48

DramaQueenlady · 16/11/2025 08:26

This is not law. Its a set of guidelines that has been brought in. But as yet not law. Not sure how it would hold up in a court of law.

What do you think the Supreme Court is if not a court of law?

You're either grossly misinformed or deliberately spreading disinformation.

WandaSiri · 16/11/2025 18:21

FightingFair · 16/11/2025 18:06

@WandaSiri the separation of powers is very different in the US. Each branch has distinct powers but also relies on the others to function effectively, preventing any one branch from becoming too powerful. This is achieved through the checks and balances written into the Constitution.

The big difference is it is possible to have a President of one party, while the other party can have the majority in both the House and the Senate. In the UK system the leader of the majority party becomes Prime Minister, but if they lose their majority the government collapses and there is an election. For example during Obama's Presidency from Jan 2015 - Jan 2017 the Republicans had total control of Congress - a majority in both the House and Senate.

It is often the case in the US that there is divided government where at least one House has a majority of the opposition party.

I am well aware that the US has a different system of government and legal system.

My post was about the system that pertains here. I was explaining to a pp (among other things) that the SC is indeed the highest court in the land and Parliament is not a court and cannot simply "overrule" SC decisions. It has to pass new law.

Edited for clarity

FightingFair · 16/11/2025 18:06

@WandaSiri the separation of powers is very different in the US. Each branch has distinct powers but also relies on the others to function effectively, preventing any one branch from becoming too powerful. This is achieved through the checks and balances written into the Constitution.

The big difference is it is possible to have a President of one party, while the other party can have the majority in both the House and the Senate. In the UK system the leader of the majority party becomes Prime Minister, but if they lose their majority the government collapses and there is an election. For example during Obama's Presidency from Jan 2015 - Jan 2017 the Republicans had total control of Congress - a majority in both the House and Senate.

It is often the case in the US that there is divided government where at least one House has a majority of the opposition party.

OpheliaWitchoftheWoods · 16/11/2025 17:45

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SerendipityJane · 16/11/2025 16:36

WandaSiri · 16/11/2025 16:27

I'm not going to go over it again.
You are under fundamental misapprehensions.

Of course, if I was wrong, I could be disproved.

WandaSiri · 16/11/2025 16:27

SerendipityJane · 16/11/2025 16:09

It's only confused if you believe there is some sort of fundamental power behind parliament in the UK.

"Separation of powers" is not a concept that features in the UKs constitution. And even if it did (which it doesn't as the UK doesn't have a single constitution) then it would still be below the concept that parliament is supreme.

All UK constitutional debate, discussion and discourse begins with the fact that parliament is supreme. Something that was proven to the world when it decided that a King was a head too tall for this world.

All else is convention and precedent.

So I say again, if you want a court higher than the Supreme Court, then look no further than parliament. Who could - if they so voted - abolish the Supreme Court in a trice.

It's true Blackwood et al described the makeup of the English system and noted the separation of powers that were formally incorporated into the US constitution. But there is nothing but good chap agreement in the UK about such a concept.

Anyway, in this case, a company obeying the law - ensuring single sex spaces are kept that way - would be immune to criminal or civil action.

I'm no lawyer, but I know the history bits.

(The trail of Charles I sometimes pops up in US court cases. amusingly enough)

I'm not going to go over it again.
You are under fundamental misapprehensions.

SerendipityJane · 16/11/2025 16:09

WandaSiri · 16/11/2025 15:45

This is a little confused.

The doctrine of the separation of powers tells us that there are three branches - the judiciary, the legislature and the executive.

The Supreme Court is the highest court in the land. Parliament is the legislature and is not part of the judicial system. As a legislative body, it can change the law, but the SC has the last word on what the law currently is at any given time. The Supreme Court cannot change the law, only interpret it. It interprets according to the will of Parliament, which is a technical legal term which does not just equate to the desires of current or past MPs and certainly not of the current government - the third branch of power, known as the executive. The government is also subject to the laws which Parliament passes. We say that Parliament is sovereign because it can pass or repeal any law it likes, not because the government can ignore any law if it chooses. Also on sovereignty, the saying "Parliament cannot bind itself" means that no law is non-repealable or amendable, even if the law itself says that.

Our judiciary is independent, whereas the legislature and executive are closely entwined for obvious reasons.

If the government wants to change the law, they have to submit a bill to Parliament and get it passed in both houses.

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It's only confused if you believe there is some sort of fundamental power behind parliament in the UK.

"Separation of powers" is not a concept that features in the UKs constitution. And even if it did (which it doesn't as the UK doesn't have a single constitution) then it would still be below the concept that parliament is supreme.

All UK constitutional debate, discussion and discourse begins with the fact that parliament is supreme. Something that was proven to the world when it decided that a King was a head too tall for this world.

All else is convention and precedent.

So I say again, if you want a court higher than the Supreme Court, then look no further than parliament. Who could - if they so voted - abolish the Supreme Court in a trice.

It's true Blackwood et al described the makeup of the English system and noted the separation of powers that were formally incorporated into the US constitution. But there is nothing but good chap agreement in the UK about such a concept.

Anyway, in this case, a company obeying the law - ensuring single sex spaces are kept that way - would be immune to criminal or civil action.

I'm no lawyer, but I know the history bits.

(The trail of Charles I sometimes pops up in US court cases. amusingly enough)

WandaSiri · 16/11/2025 15:45

SerendipityJane · 16/11/2025 11:21

t has gone through a court of law. There is no higher UK court than the SC.

Actually there is.

Parliament.

British constitutional law makes Parliament supreme with no body higher.

If the SC take a view that is contrary to the will of parliament, then parliament can quite easily remedy that in statute.

(Parliament has actually sat as a court - what do people think a "writ of attainder" is ? I'm no lawyer. But I am a history vulture).

This is a little confused.

The doctrine of the separation of powers tells us that there are three branches - the judiciary, the legislature and the executive.

The Supreme Court is the highest court in the land. Parliament is the legislature and is not part of the judicial system. As a legislative body, it can change the law, but the SC has the last word on what the law currently is at any given time. The Supreme Court cannot change the law, only interpret it. It interprets according to the will of Parliament, which is a technical legal term which does not just equate to the desires of current or past MPs and certainly not of the current government - the third branch of power, known as the executive. The government is also subject to the laws which Parliament passes. We say that Parliament is sovereign because it can pass or repeal any law it likes, not because the government can ignore any law if it chooses. Also on sovereignty, the saying "Parliament cannot bind itself" means that no law is non-repealable or amendable, even if the law itself says that.

Our judiciary is independent, whereas the legislature and executive are closely entwined for obvious reasons.

If the government wants to change the law, they have to submit a bill to Parliament and get it passed in both houses.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 16/11/2025 14:50

Also, if they don’t take steps to enforce, they could face a harassment claim by the women involved and he could be added as a respondent just like Dr Upton.

WallaceinAnderland · 16/11/2025 14:40

As an employee, ignoring a HR request by going in the toilets anyway is clearly an immature and inappropriate way to react. They had a problem they should have raised it. That would likely be looked down on at any employment tribunal.

More than that. This person is legally male. He has been using female only facilities and the women he works with have complained to management that his presence in the female only facility is causing them harassment, alarm and distress.

Management speak to him and tell him that he is not allowed to access the female only facilities. His presence is causing his female colleagues to feel harassment, alarm and distress.

This man says that, despite knowing the distress he is causing and despite knowing that he is not allowed to use the female only facilities and despite being expressly told by HR that he is not to use them, declares that he is going to continue to harass, alarm and distress his female colleagues by using the female only facility.

That's pretty damning and I don't think the defence of 'but I want to' is going to stand up in any courtroom.

RedToothBrush · 16/11/2025 14:14

DramaQueenlady · 16/11/2025 08:26

This is not law. Its a set of guidelines that has been brought in. But as yet not law. Not sure how it would hold up in a court of law.

Incorrect. You've got this upside down.

It is the law. It's been the law for years but the guidance was wrong.

And people are having a meltdown about it.

SerendipityJane · 16/11/2025 14:11

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This has been withdrawn by MNHQ at the poster's request.

I said "quite easily" to be a tad goady.

If the TRAs are so convinced of their case, then why not get parliament to address it ?

Because not only is it a deeply flawed case ... I suspect the next time parliament revisit this debate the laws will be very unambiguous. Especially when Nigel Farage is a Prime Minister.

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