Please or to access all these features

Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

Are people becoming more paranoid about the idea men using women’s facilities?

61 replies

Pleaseme · 15/09/2023 22:32

I was in the shower at the gym today and a member of staff came and knocked on the cubicle door to inform me I was in the ladies changing room. I was a bit confused and replied that I was a woman but thanks for checking.

It turns out some teenage girls ( council gym in a high school) had complained that there was a man in the changing room. I didn’t see them but I did hear some shrieking etc. I can only assume they saw my work clothes hanging up, hi vis t shirt, ballistic trousers and work boots and assumed I was a bloke.

I did go and chat with the staff member afterwards. She was definitely relieved I was not a man but was unsure what she could do if I had been. Are people allowed to choose where to get changed nowadays?

I am a bit bemused by the whole thing tbh. It’s not an assumption I’d of made at their age but perhaps people are much more concerned nowadays?

I have to admit I’ve never encountered a bloke in bathroom / showers. I have met a couple of blue haired young ladies, who were all I’m a man and used the gents at work. It wasn't popular but was short lived.

OP posts:
Thread gallery
7
Pleaseme · 16/09/2023 07:27

sadly ballistic trousers aren’t at all exciting, just puncture resistant. https://apexworkwear.co.uk/products/long-ballistic-polycotton-combat-trousers-guardian?variant=39666696355925&sfdr_ptcid=42230_100_682209999&sfdr_hash=290ae29853b15c9fccf6d8d0e106be23&gclid=CjwKCAjwgZCoBhBnEiwAz35RwhCXnrE3tJrd9fixz8L4DNaPH_9Q_ZgaGPyJ5Em1lSTTMsOLNseOGBoClHEQAvD_BwE

Honestly I’m naturally quite terfy. However there aren’t any issues with trans children as far as I’m aware in either of the dcs school ( not the same school I was in). I never find blokes in the ladies. I effectively have my own loo/ shower at work as the only female. 20 blokes get to share 2 loos and 1 shower.

Ballistic Combat Work Trousers with Hi Vis Tapes - Long Leg

PRODUCT SPECIFICATION: Long leg combat trousers with zip and button fastening Long leg length - 85cm Belt loops on the waistband Waistband elasticated at both sides Twin needle stitch outside leg seams & ballistic panel 1 x bellow patch pocket Mobi...

https://apexworkwear.co.uk/products/long-ballistic-polycotton-combat-trousers-guardian?variant=39666696355925&sfdr_ptcid=42230_100_682209999&sfdr_hash=290ae29853b15c9fccf6d8d0e106be23&gclid=CjwKCAjwgZCoBhBnEiwAz35RwhCXnrE3tJrd9fixz8L4DNaPH_9Q_ZgaGPyJ5Em1lSTTMsOLNseOGBoClHEQAvD_BwE

OP posts:
Helleofabore · 16/09/2023 07:25

OP. Why would the girls have seen your clothes hanging up ?

Where did you hang your clothes up that they could have seen your clothes?

ArabeIIaScott · 16/09/2023 07:23

It's be good to see a decent survey to assess how much damage has already been done. How many women are self excluding. How many are more anxious about partaking in public life.

ArabeIIaScott · 16/09/2023 07:21

Yes. Women are far more wary and on guard. Many are already self excluding from places they know are likely to allow men to use the supposed ladies' change rooms or loos, or what used to be single sex swimming sessions etc.

We know more males are insisting on using women's spaces. It's diminishing women's lives and putting women and girls at higher risk.

Shit, isn't it?

DifficultBloodyWoman · 16/09/2023 04:37

'Just because you're paranoid doesn't mean they aren't after you.'

Joseph Heller

PriOn1 · 16/09/2023 04:07

This reply has been deleted

Message deleted by MNHQ. Here's a link to our Talk Guidelines.

OhcantthInkofaname · 15/09/2023 23:32

A friend of mine has her 12 year old granddaughter at the gym. There was a male in the dressing room, exposed. My friend was told if she wished to avoid that situation, she would have to use the single dressing facility. That person identified as female and they could not force her to use the single facility.

CriticalCondition · 15/09/2023 23:31

I like the sound of ballistic trousers. Grin

Toseland · 15/09/2023 23:22

😂

AIstolemylunch · 15/09/2023 22:33

Sure Jan