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Are these pronouns real?

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RachelGreensHair · 07/09/2023 20:03

Applying for a new job and this literally was the second question after asking my name...I can't figure out if they're being real - they even have a box to enter your own "custom pronoun" what can I write in there and be unique?

Are these pronouns real?
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Findwen · 07/09/2023 22:23

Could you be thespian gender, your pronouns include stage directions and musical intros ?

RumNotRun · 07/09/2023 22:11

Purplerain0505 · 07/09/2023 20:27

I love a few of these suggestions but yeah, it won’t go down well. I think N/A would be fine and gets the point across without causing an issue. If you get the job you might need to be ready to battle over other things, such as adding pronouns to your email.

I came across a lady in a cafe the other day with she/they on her badge and I thought surely she’s quite confused?

There's someone who works for the same company as me who has he/they as pronouns on "they's" signature. I really want to know whether that means he is happy to be referred to as either he or they and hasn't thought about object pronoun of him/them, OR does he not understand grammar and thinks that he and they are the subject and object pronouns respectively. (Or he hasn't thought much about it at all and just put he/they cause he thinks it makes they sound special)

SunnieShine · 07/09/2023 22:06

Bibble/Bobble

TheDogthatDug · 07/09/2023 22:03

Shaz/zam works well

CorruptedCauldron · 07/09/2023 22:03

ColinTheGenderMinotaur · 07/09/2023 20:20

This is the sensible option!

(but I would be tempted to go with Hee/Haw because I LOVE donkeys)

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A good choice! 😁

BlueKaftan · 07/09/2023 21:51

Is there a box for “Fuck off@?

Findwen · 07/09/2023 21:49

Could you go with:

Im_inlovewithRachelGreensHair / ThatbeautifulhighlyskilledandsooooarticuatethatIcanbarelyrestrainmyaffectionsaround_RachelGreensHair

Would make for some awesome e-mails:

Im_inlovewithRachelGreensHairhas the latest data on that issue, can you arrange a short meeting with ThatbeautifulhighlyskilledandsooooarticuatethatIcanbarelyrestrainmyaffectionsaround_RachelGreensHair to discuss ?

*Automatic formatting ruined that - ah well, hopefully it is still readable.

ChewtonRoad · 07/09/2023 21:42

Rather than Ey/em, how about Eey/ore for those with donkey identities?

Within the complete batshittery of that list, what's also annoying is that He/him has to come first; always centring the men.

MrsKypp · 07/09/2023 20:58

Hu Hu sounds like the name of a panda bear.

Ze means 'she' in Dutch, so not very gender neutral in two of our neighbouring countries.

They never give the possessive pronouns, so I would need to ask them to specify those in case I needed them (quite likely in real life to need to say e.g. "that is his pen" etc).

What would they be?

Ze / Hir / Zis ? Sounds like a strong German accent saying 'The / here / this'

Fae/ Faer / Faeries

GrabbyGabby · 07/09/2023 20:56

AAAAARRRRRRRGGGGGHHHHHHHHH

Gormless · 07/09/2023 20:52

Ho/hum

Kendodd · 07/09/2023 20:48

Please, please, please OP, out the company.
These are hilarious.
And if you have to choose one - she/him.

InvisibleDuck · 07/09/2023 20:42

I am fed up of the silly redundancy of listing both subject and object pronoun.

It would make me want to write in she/him and get very offended if anyone gets it wrong. That or 'her Majesty'.

Turtlegurl888 · 07/09/2023 20:40

I can cope with they/them. At least those are actual words. If you said any of the others in actual day to day life people would have no fucking clue what you were on about...also I'm not understanding how hu/hu etc works. E.g. She = hu but her also = hu? How does that work in English???

BinturongsSmellOfPopcorn · 07/09/2023 20:38

Qilin · 07/09/2023 20:18

Apparently it comes from the word human.
Don't know how pronounced.
/h/ /you/ maybe - like the start of human? 🤷‍♀️

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Oh, that's disappointing. I thought it might be for owl gender and be a resonant hoot.

Or for people who are big fans of

HarrietJet · 07/09/2023 20:33

CyberCritical · 07/09/2023 20:29

To answer the question though, yes they are 'real' as in they are used rather than the actual use of the word real. They are neo-pronouns

edition.cnn.com/us/neopronouns-explained-xe-xyr-wellness-cec/index.html

Star and Starself... Jesus Fucking Christ 🤯

Fallenangelofthenorth · 07/09/2023 20:31

You can't work there, it will be far too confusing once people start adopting these various different made up pronouns!

I'm looking for a new job too and have already discounted quite a few roles for being affiliated with Stonewall. I just want to go to work, to work, without all these distractions.

SpamPie · 07/09/2023 20:29

Hu/Hu/Hugh isn't very far off taking the piss out of poor Hugh's stutter.

CyberCritical · 07/09/2023 20:29

To answer the question though, yes they are 'real' as in they are used rather than the actual use of the word real. They are neo-pronouns

edition.cnn.com/us/neopronouns-explained-xe-xyr-wellness-cec/index.html

BloodyHellKen · 07/09/2023 20:28

This would be fantastic way to weed out the pronoun loons at application stage 😁

Purplerain0505 · 07/09/2023 20:27

I love a few of these suggestions but yeah, it won’t go down well. I think N/A would be fine and gets the point across without causing an issue. If you get the job you might need to be ready to battle over other things, such as adding pronouns to your email.

I came across a lady in a cafe the other day with she/they on her badge and I thought surely she’s quite confused?

CyberCritical · 07/09/2023 20:27

Shouldn't they have a 'prefer not to say' box because otherwise they're forcing people to out themselves or lie if they're not ready to announce their gender identity?

I really hate all this shit, it feels so performative and ridiculous.

Houseplantmad · 07/09/2023 20:24

Are they he her in other languages? If not, what bullshit is this.

Iamsorryyes · 07/09/2023 20:21

You could write dog. Come in full costume and spend the first day acting as a dog. Then sue for constructive dismissal when you're not allowed to be a dog even though it's your SI. It won't get to court but if you're employer is anything like the government dept this is happening in you'll make some money as the civil service is desperate not to let the light in.

DisappearingGirl · 07/09/2023 20:21

Surely "hu" (pronounced Hugh) would be too close in sound to "you"?

"Hu asked when we were meeting"
("Who's Hugh?'")

"You asked when we were meeting"
("No I didn't!")