One of the things that really brought home to me, years ago, about how bad all this was, is a similar scenario. A person I knew who worked at a university on a contract was overheard by a student, having a private conversation, at a restaurant. Off campus.
The student didn't like what he heard, brought it to the university, and with the help of certain staff escalated it to the board of governors. The individual did not have his contract renewed because of this.
The controversial statement was basically, wow, this gender stuff is crazy.