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You are safe with me

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Justme56 · 09/08/2023 18:49

I saw this on Twitter as David Tennent was wearing one. I’m sure his intention is good but it gave me weird vibes. Can he guarantee that everyone who is wearing one is ‘safe’ to be around? Am I overthinking this?

You are safe with me
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Ramblingnamechanger · 14/08/2023 00:28

Has anyone else had their posts disappear from this thread without a deletion notice? I am mystified

EmpressaurusOfCats · 13/08/2023 16:02

IcakethereforeIam · 13/08/2023 11:03

So, just name calling, but no explanation as to why you feel it's deserved.

It's just so typical.

‘You’re safe with me’ only applies to the Right Kind of Lesbians.

IcakethereforeIam · 13/08/2023 11:03

So, just name calling, but no explanation as to why you feel it's deserved.

It's just so typical.

EddieMunsen · 13/08/2023 09:47

Oh, I had a bet with myself right after posting that someone would pick up on the word dick and go "yeah but no dick!" 😁
Swap for Wally brain, plonker, divvy, pillock word of your choice lol
(Pillock my fave)
Or wazzok

Women: you are uncool.

EmpressaurusOfCats · 13/08/2023 08:52

Brilliant!

TastesLikeStrawberriesOnASummerEvening · 13/08/2023 04:47

EmpressaurusOfCats · 13/08/2023 02:09

Grin Then you probably wouldn’t like my Lesbian: Female Homosexual T-shirt much either!

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I'm waiting for my new hoody to arrive with this on the back.

You are safe with me
PatatiPatatras · 13/08/2023 03:45

FatNoMoreSue · 13/08/2023 01:52

DT has gone woke. Him and his wife have a “trans” or at least NB child. Wilfred is very much a “they” 🙄

His kid is obviously safe with him... or does the kids need a badge from the parents to know this? Or is DT encouraging his kids to find solace in a stranger?
I'm always baffled by the parents who go all out into the ideology to support all the kids in order to prove they are supportive of their child.

EmpressaurusOfCats · 13/08/2023 02:09

SuperNewMe · 13/08/2023 01:54

Oh, I had a bet with myself right after posting that someone would pick up on the word dick and go "yeah but no dick!" 😁
Swap for Wally brain, plonker, divvy, pillock word of your choice lol
(Pillock my fave)
Or wazzok

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Grin Then you probably wouldn’t like my Lesbian: Female Homosexual T-shirt much either!

SuperNewMe · 13/08/2023 01:54

DiabolicalFinial · 13/08/2023 01:49

I think the whole point of that badge would be to ensure you would know the wearer was not any part dick!

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Oh, I had a bet with myself right after posting that someone would pick up on the word dick and go "yeah but no dick!" 😁
Swap for Wally brain, plonker, divvy, pillock word of your choice lol
(Pillock my fave)
Or wazzok

FatNoMoreSue · 13/08/2023 01:52

DT has gone woke. Him and his wife have a “trans” or at least NB child. Wilfred is very much a “they” 🙄

DiabolicalFinial · 13/08/2023 01:49

SuperNewMe · 12/08/2023 23:08

Not terrifying 🙄 , but if I saw it would think it made you a bit of a dick.

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I think the whole point of that badge would be to ensure you would know the wearer was not any part dick!

TheJRTwontLetMeBe · 12/08/2023 23:42

I would trust the wearer of this badge in the same way I trust anyone who feels a need to announce how honest they are, or how they're "just hopeless at lying". A bit like the BBC with their "trust the news" line. I've been around long enough to work out if people have to tell you what they are, they're generally the opposite.

SuperNewMe · 12/08/2023 23:42

Ereshkigalangcleg · 12/08/2023 23:24

but if I saw it would think it made you a bit of a dick.

Just a hunch, but I imagine people wouldn't need to see a badge with you.

😂

Ereshkigalangcleg · 12/08/2023 23:24

but if I saw it would think it made you a bit of a dick.

Just a hunch, but I imagine people wouldn't need to see a badge with you.

IcakethereforeIam · 12/08/2023 23:23

SuperNewMe · 12/08/2023 23:08

Not terrifying 🙄 , but if I saw it would think it made you a bit of a dick.

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Genuinely curious, why would you think that?

Helleofabore · 12/08/2023 23:20

Having boundaries is dickish behaviour now?

TastesLikeStrawberriesOnASummerEvening · 12/08/2023 23:14

SuperNewMe · 12/08/2023 23:08

Not terrifying 🙄 , but if I saw it would think it made you a bit of a dick.

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The definition of a woman on a badge makes someone a bit of a dick?
How so.
I have that too, and the t-shirt, only ever had positive comments.

SuperNewMe · 12/08/2023 23:08

EmpressaurusOfCats · 12/08/2023 22:42

I like my Woman: Adult Human Female badge. But that’s apparently terrifying.

Not terrifying 🙄 , but if I saw it would think it made you a bit of a dick.

EmpressaurusOfCats · 12/08/2023 22:42

I like my Woman: Adult Human Female badge. But that’s apparently terrifying.

Ramblingnamechanger · 11/08/2023 00:59

Personally I prefer my badge which says lesbians do not have a penis. Yyes I know that is literal violence and makes people feel unsafe, but..

Ramblingnamechanger · 11/08/2023 00:57

Yes creepy of course. Maybe they plan to hand them out with the new ever-so-easy-to-get GRCs, just so we know we have nothing to worry about.

Helleofabore · 11/08/2023 00:00

Because if you are not trans yourself, and people know you, it isn’t a far reach to believe your child is trans. Hence, it is outing them.

Or do you wear random ‘ally’ badges normally? In which case, that is a different story.

Papernotplastic · 10/08/2023 23:54

Can I ask why you would wear a badge? Isn’t this outing them to everyone who you meet? My own teen would be horrified with me doing anything like this.

Why would wearing a badge showing you’re an ally ‘out’ anyone? It’s not like one of those American ‘My child is an honor student’ car stickers!

EmpressaurusOfCats · 10/08/2023 21:25

Thisismyartform · 10/08/2023 17:09

I would instantly know that women like me are not safe around anyone wearing that badge. As I am sure the design team knew.

Because what they are trying to communicate is ‘ you are unsafe around those nasty women with their boundaries. I won’t be mean to you like those shrill harpies’.

Its actual message is to say we are the threat.

Exactly. I’d be suspicious of anyone wearing a ‘You’re safe with me’ badge regardless of design, but those particular stripes are actively hostile to women who believe in sex over gender. And given that there was a time when I volunteered for Stonewall and the rainbow was a sign of friendliness & community, it fucking hurts that it’s now been twisted to signal homophobia.

(the idea that lesbians should view transwomen as women is as homophobic as it gets)

PriOn1 · 10/08/2023 18:12

The whole “safe” and “unsafe” rhetoric is off. It goes hand in hand with the pushing towards alienation of parents who don’t immediately affirm, while encouraging their youngsters into the arms of the likes of Jeffrey March or any other adult (usually male) offering “safety” from those “evil mums who don’t understand you.”

This is the problem when universities encourage students to claim they “feel unsafe” with their completely trustworthy female lecturers, whose only sin is to point out that men are not women.

Anyone sane recognizes that “unsafe” is not an appropriate word for potential discomfort when hearing words you disagree with, spoken quietly by a rational woman. Allowing it to be couched in those terms gives it a legitimacy it doesn’t warrant. This badge does the same.