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Looks like Italy have banned surrogacy

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ColinRobinsonsFart · 27/07/2023 00:25

twitter.com/surrogconcern/status/1684294419300732931?s=46&t=_Rfk59cXnQlTYarlcFuu0w

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Clymene · 27/07/2023 21:21

Soubriquet · 27/07/2023 20:18

Doesn’t this just mean that parents will travel to a different country to still get babies via surrogate?

They won't be able to - well not if they want to bring them back to Italy. This is what this new law is banning.

SerendipityJane · 27/07/2023 21:06

If people want to debate fascism and birth control ...

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Battle_for_Births

Battle for Births - Wikipedia

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Battle_for_Births

bakewellbride · 27/07/2023 20:28

Good! It should be 100% illegal everywhere.

MrsColinRobinson · 27/07/2023 20:19

Tontostitis · 27/07/2023 07:17

When rich, privileged women start being surrogates for poor deprived women I'll change my mind til then I believe banning surrogacy completely is correct. Carrying and birthing babies can have devastating life long complications for a woman's physical and mental health. No should do it for anyone else.

This!

Soubriquet · 27/07/2023 20:18

Doesn’t this just mean that parents will travel to a different country to still get babies via surrogate?

Helleofabore · 27/07/2023 20:16

user123212 · 27/07/2023 11:14

I want to know the outcomes for the mothers and babies. Are mothers exploited? Do the babies grow up to be happy?

I'm still leaning towards being against surrogacy, just because no one has a "right" to have a child, and no child (or anyone) should be bought. But I'd like to hear about the outcomes. I imagine some surrogate mothers can make a bomb.

There are many outcomes that are being collected, and often they appear on this board. You just have to search for them. Recently women who did this for their siblings have started speaking out about their experiences too. And the coercion they realise was at play AND the damage to their bodies and their family lives as a result of ‘altruistic’ arrangements. Because siblings can lose their lives as they know it in delivering a family member a child. It happens, despite people’s wish to believe it is all wonderful.

And it helps to listen to the growing number of donor conception children discuss their feelings of being ‘created’ and feelings as adults as not being able to reconcile the sense of these conceptions. They are also across the internet.

Cailleach1 · 27/07/2023 15:50

AndTheSurveySays · 27/07/2023 09:25

but not wanting to support fascism is often a great starting point

Is it fascism to believe human beings should not be bought or sold?

Are you really comfortably aligning yourself with slave owners of the past?

I was thinking the same thing. The argument seems to be that it is bad to ban surrogacy (human baby farming and exploitation of women bodies and economic disadvantage) because it is disproportionately to the benefit of some people. It is similar to argue that slavery should not be banned because it disproportionately to the benefit of some people (and their rights trump).

It would seem one is a Fascist, if they think the real focus should be on the exploitation of the women, babies or enslaved people. I don't really care who is the benefactor at such human cost of others.

AgathaSpencerGregson · 27/07/2023 15:46

Cailleach1 · 27/07/2023 15:30

@AgathaSpencerGregson Funny how no one ever makes this point to those who want to rejoin the EU (one of the earliest and most vociferous supporters of a united Europe was of course Oswald Mosley)

Interesting fact about Oswald Mosley from an Irish perspective. When the British gov't let the Black and Tans loose on Irish civilians (murdering, beating and burning), Oswald Mosley crossed the floor. He was outraged at the campaign of terror unleashed on Irish civilians (while still a part of the UK).

Is it only Fascists who are against Irish civilians (or anyone else) being murdered, beaten up and burned? Or is it remotely possible that someone can be against that without being called a Fascist. Some on this thread seem to think it is guilt by association. Good that baby farming (compounding the wrongs by exploiting poor women overseas) is outlawed.

Excellent point

Allthegoodnamesarechosen · 27/07/2023 15:42

navithefairy · 27/07/2023 05:59

This is a government that has also prohibited registering of children of same sex parents. Horrific.

I don't necessarily agree with the blanket ban on surrogacy but can almost understand it. This, however, is appalling.

No, they have said that only one person , the biological mother, can be registered as …..the biological mother. Because no one has two biological mothers, not even amongst the alphabet people. One small gamete, one large gamete = baby.

StephanieSuperpowers · 27/07/2023 15:32

It's bizarre to live in a time when the left wing supports the exploitation of women, especially impoverished women, and the sale of babies, because it fulfils the wishes of the wealthy.

Cailleach1 · 27/07/2023 15:30

@AgathaSpencerGregson Funny how no one ever makes this point to those who want to rejoin the EU (one of the earliest and most vociferous supporters of a united Europe was of course Oswald Mosley)

Interesting fact about Oswald Mosley from an Irish perspective. When the British gov't let the Black and Tans loose on Irish civilians (murdering, beating and burning), Oswald Mosley crossed the floor. He was outraged at the campaign of terror unleashed on Irish civilians (while still a part of the UK).

Is it only Fascists who are against Irish civilians (or anyone else) being murdered, beaten up and burned? Or is it remotely possible that someone can be against that without being called a Fascist. Some on this thread seem to think it is guilt by association. Good that baby farming (compounding the wrongs by exploiting poor women overseas) is outlawed.

ErrolTheDragon · 27/07/2023 15:18

Hoppinggreen · 27/07/2023 15:01

It’s like calling someone a Nazi because they prefer the trains to run on time

Reductio ad Hitlerum

Tedious, isn't it.

Hoppinggreen · 27/07/2023 15:01

It’s like calling someone a Nazi because they prefer the trains to run on time

Helleofabore · 27/07/2023 14:58

LemonLymanDotCom · 27/07/2023 09:21

Actually, I’m usually a huge fan of nuance and shades of grey, but not wanting to support fascism is often a great starting point.

And you are aware that Fratelli d'Italia ARE real life fascists? With a history tracing them back to the Italian neo facist movement starting in 1945?

I don’t understand how you can know that and cheer ‘hurrah for the blackshirts, cos they’re getting surrogacy right’. I genuinely don’t.

Also a political party’s central ideological core isn’t just an ‘other thing’ to be ‘fixed’. You can’t just tweak fascism. However, you can make it more palatable to the masses with good PR.

No. Your approach here is very blinkered and actually ludicrous. Shall we try it back.

YOU fully support the exploitation of women’s bodies and infants as well as what is in essence trafficking. And all because you cannot support any law change to prevent this being brought in by a government you disagree with. And, a democratically elected European government at that!

I doubt believe anyone has expressed support for this government, yet you have continued this absurd attack.

catsfleasandbabies · 27/07/2023 14:26

Thank goodness. Buying and selling babies is wrong. Exploiting the health and well being of poorer women abroad is wrong.

Insisting that we state facts on birth certificates rather than adults' desires and phantasies - quite convincing.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 27/07/2023 13:24

We're not talking about that, we're talking about surrogacy.

This is excellent news for women and children and brings Italy into line with most of the rest of Europe.

Agree. I support this specific thing.

Hoppinggreen · 27/07/2023 12:26

JanesLittleGirl · 27/07/2023 11:55

Can anyone remind me what the consensus view on MN was on the subject of Tom Daley's surrogate sons? Was it 'oh, how sweet' or was it 'womb renting bastard, the government needs to ban it'? The Italian government does ban it and the reaction is 'but they're fascists'.

There was a range of views on it, just like this thread

JanesLittleGirl · 27/07/2023 11:55

Can anyone remind me what the consensus view on MN was on the subject of Tom Daley's surrogate sons? Was it 'oh, how sweet' or was it 'womb renting bastard, the government needs to ban it'? The Italian government does ban it and the reaction is 'but they're fascists'.

ErrolTheDragon · 27/07/2023 11:33

you would need to make sure the contract is fair.

And enforceable. Hm, who is going to have the better lawyers to fight a law case between people in different countries, the woman or the baby-buyer?

And that doesn't address the risk of physical (and potentially mental - PND etc) harm.

NotBadConsidering · 27/07/2023 11:33

user123212 · 27/07/2023 11:24

true, you would need to make sure the contract is fair.

Which is impossible. No contract can effectively safeguard all three parties.

user123212 · 27/07/2023 11:29

Hoppinggreen · 27/07/2023 11:25

Or ban it entirely

that would be simplest, yes! i think UK has a good balance though, you can if, say, you want to help a family member, but you can't do it for money. which is why people go to the cowboys in America...

Hoppinggreen · 27/07/2023 11:25

user123212 · 27/07/2023 11:24

true, you would need to make sure the contract is fair.

Or ban it entirely

user123212 · 27/07/2023 11:24

ErrolTheDragon · 27/07/2023 11:17

I imagine some surrogate mothers can make a bomb.

And some may have life-changing injuries or die, and some may be literally left holding the baby if the purchaser renages on the deal. Hmm

true, you would need to make sure the contract is fair.

ErrolTheDragon · 27/07/2023 11:17

I imagine some surrogate mothers can make a bomb.

And some may have life-changing injuries or die, and some may be literally left holding the baby if the purchaser renages on the deal. Hmm

user123212 · 27/07/2023 11:14

I want to know the outcomes for the mothers and babies. Are mothers exploited? Do the babies grow up to be happy?

I'm still leaning towards being against surrogacy, just because no one has a "right" to have a child, and no child (or anyone) should be bought. But I'd like to hear about the outcomes. I imagine some surrogate mothers can make a bomb.