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Was I just scoped out to see if I'm GC?

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NotMyBagButCrackOn · 18/07/2023 16:46

I was just at a work event and a colleague just told me she needed a wee but couldn't go because the toilets were unisex and she didn't feel comfortable and looked at me quizzically. I replied by telling her I'd seen some ladies ones on the way in that were just around the corner and gave her directions. But I'm now wondering if this was some kind of hint I should have picked up on! 🤔

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Pudmyboy · 18/07/2023 19:54

nonman · 18/07/2023 17:19

In Ancient Rome there was a debate as to whether the slaves should all wear a uniform. The senate decided that it was a bad idea because
a they would be able to identify each other
b the slaves would realise how high the slave population was
c insurrection?
I think it would be quite the eye opener if all the GC women and men had a way of identifying each other

Interesting! I did not know this!

DisforDarkChocolate · 18/07/2023 19:53

@EmmaGrundyForPM

It's Billy 'Fucking' Bragg. You must use his proper name.

EmmaGrundyForPM · 18/07/2023 19:48

OceanicBoundlessness · 18/07/2023 18:48

Ooh give us a clue?

Probably safe to say it won't be Billy Bragg

DisforDarkChocolate · 18/07/2023 19:44

AncientBallerina · 18/07/2023 17:24

A 90s singer who I positively adore made a hilarious but subtle dig at identity politics at a gig I was at a few weeks ago. God I was pleased that he had retained his sardonic scepticism.

I was subjected to Billy Fucking Bragg last year when he supported Paul Heaton.

Which 90s singer would provide better banter?

RocketPanda · 18/07/2023 19:43

Although OP a suspicious part of me thinks procede with caution. Although she may well be GC its not unheard of for the Traliban to seek out people to target.

Boiledbeetle · 18/07/2023 19:43

EdithStourton · 18/07/2023 19:40

Some of you have filthy minds 😲 Shocked, I tell you.
Though it may explain some of the terrible reading comprehension on here.

And yep, OP, she was definitely scoping you out. You need to start another convo. Just be careful with that bloody geranium!

😁😏

EmmaGrundyForPM · 18/07/2023 19:43

I was at a work meeting when i spotted suffragette ribbons on the workbag of a colleague I'd never met before.

When we were standing near each other I hissed "GC?" at her. She nodded. I emailed her later and, as a result, she introduced me to another group of women activists.

We definitely need ways of identifying each other

Boiledbeetle · 18/07/2023 19:42

Mummyoflittledragon · 18/07/2023 19:35

I totally agree. I use the accessible loo at times and the ladies at others, depending on my needs at the time. These loos should be reserved for people with some kind of disability.

Snap. If I'm having a walking stick day I'll usually use the ladies. If I'm having a walker or wheelchair day then it's the disabled loo as I'm going to need the rails in order to get up off the loo again and the space to manoeuvre the walker or wheelchair

But if I can mange to use the ladies then I'll leave the disabled loo for someone whose need is greater than mine that day.

I wouldn't be impressed on a day that I needed the disabled loo to discover that it was now the general unisex toilet.

It was a long fight to get decent levels of disabled toilet provision (and it's still nowhere near good enough in lots of places) and those giving it away so easily need to have a word with themselves.

EdithStourton · 18/07/2023 19:40

Some of you have filthy minds 😲 Shocked, I tell you.
Though it may explain some of the terrible reading comprehension on here.

And yep, OP, she was definitely scoping you out. You need to start another convo. Just be careful with that bloody geranium!

RocketPanda · 18/07/2023 19:39

In a weird side tangent DD works with rescue animals and there's been a sizable amount of chinchillas surrendered. People get them thinking they are like big hamsters but don't realise the care or lifespan of them. They make wonderful pets.

Brefugee · 18/07/2023 19:39

GC - Gravimetric Calibrator. I like it.

Recently had a convo at work where i outlined what i think in broad terms and one chap said "oh like the Harry Potter woman?" and i said "something like that" and that was it.

But i often make jokes about how i'm going to identify out of my Ancient Crone-ness as a middle aged middle class white man and make a power grab, which they also find amusing.

RocketPanda · 18/07/2023 19:36

I have HP pens that I welcome anyone in the office to borrow. Most of the women are very enthusiastic to pick one and only one person has been disgusted at the mere presence of them but he's very petty. He even reported me to HR because I made a joke about my cancer treatment.
Anyway the pens tend to lead to a JKR discussion and she has many fans in my industry.

Mummyoflittledragon · 18/07/2023 19:35

nonman · 18/07/2023 18:17

As a person who often needs the disabled loo at short notice I actually object to them being repurposed as unisex (gender neutral). I have an invisible disability and need a clean easily accessible space, I do not need to form a queue behind various special categories and then find that the loo paper and soap has run out.

I totally agree. I use the accessible loo at times and the ladies at others, depending on my needs at the time. These loos should be reserved for people with some kind of disability.

IAmMerfacus · 18/07/2023 19:26

ArabeIIaScott · 18/07/2023 18:26

GC Grand Chinchilla (rabbit breed)

Fabulous.

Whilst that maybe a Great Chinchilla, it isn't a Grand Chinchilla. And as I obviously reject appropriation, I can not accept a GC pretending to be a GC.

MrsJamin · 18/07/2023 19:24

Ooh I drop similar things to people when I'm trying to scope them out! Have dissed unisex loos in the past and scoffed at unisex clothes!

SaleOfTwoTitties · 18/07/2023 19:16

Yes, op. Give her a try.
As an aside, I went into the men's loo by mistake in asda (combination of alcohol and stupid door signs) and the smell of urine made me realise way before I spotted the urinals.

teawamutu · 18/07/2023 19:04

Likewise. Then I sometimes throw in 'of course, there's been all this fuss about what she said about women's rights <eyeroll>'

Response has been 100% positive so far.

Happy May Day 😁

MsRosley · 18/07/2023 19:03

My terfdar would be working overtime and I'd be delighted.

RoyalCorgi · 18/07/2023 19:02

Newnamenewname109870 · 18/07/2023 18:58

Which ones? Because sometimes I think people read into it. I know people who still like her work but are trans everything (not many though).

If ever I'm having a conversation with someone about crime fiction, I always make a point of saying that my favourite crime novels are the Cormoran Strike ones, written by JKR under the Robert Galbraith pseudonym. (Fortunately, this also happens to be true.)

Newnamenewname109870 · 18/07/2023 18:58

EddieMunsen · 18/07/2023 17:15

JKR is the signal. We spot them in films these days, too.

Which ones? Because sometimes I think people read into it. I know people who still like her work but are trans everything (not many though).

maltravers · 18/07/2023 18:51

NotMyBagButCrackOn · 18/07/2023 17:44

Fair comment. A lot of feminists center the needs of white able bodied women yet believe they stand for women as a whole.

Are white able bodied women allowed to assert their needs over white able bodied men, just so I’m sure how this Top Trumps works..?

CorruptedCauldron · 18/07/2023 18:50

Reminds me of The Handmaid’s Tale, before Offred realises there’s an underground resistance. Failing to pick up on the cue, “what a beautiful May Day,” she simply replies: “Praise be!” Maybe you were being scoped out OP! I have no problem with single occupancy unisex loos (similar style to disabled loos, like a little private bathroom with its own sink etc) but can’t stand being in an open mixed-sex space with flimsy, gappy cubicles and shared sinks.

OceanicBoundlessness · 18/07/2023 18:48

AncientBallerina · 18/07/2023 17:24

A 90s singer who I positively adore made a hilarious but subtle dig at identity politics at a gig I was at a few weeks ago. God I was pleased that he had retained his sardonic scepticism.

Ooh give us a clue?

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CorvusPurpureus · 18/07/2023 18:34

ArabeIIaScott · 18/07/2023 18:26

GC Grand Chinchilla (rabbit breed)

Fabulous.

Are they too big for going down rabbit holes, though?