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Radio 4. Right now. Is freaking me out.

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OnePotPolly · 07/07/2023 00:08

Transmen who want us all to accept that they are actual men. But they are a subset of men who can give birth to babies..
Which only women can do, in fact.

And still claim that they are men. After giving birth to babies. From their wombs.

And the presenter on R4 is actually going with it. And sympathising with the person that obviously men can give birth. Or is he just presenting it so that the audience can draw their own conclusions?

Whatever it is, it is winding me up no end. I have listened to R4 for the past 50 years - 50 YEARS!! every night without fail, while I potter about in the kitchen, tidying up and popping a bit of baking in the oven. I love radio 4, it has seen me through many traumas. Divorce, death of parents, death of sibling, permanently life altering illness of my child. Radio 4 has always been there as a stalwart support. A reality check. Reassurance that the rest of the world continues as normal - ordinary, normal even if it's bad news or a war between foreign nations. Right up to 1am and "Sailing By"

I love Sailing By. I find it, at the same time, both soothing and sad (because it's a reminder of times past)

But the shite that I've just listened to has totally wrecked it for me.
What a load of utter bollocks they have just allowed on air.

Unless they're just airing it to show how ludicrous and self absorbed some people can be. . . . .

Really hope that's what it turns out to be.

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BartholemewHolmes · 08/07/2023 10:49

DisquietintheRanks · 08/07/2023 10:31

I love Mumsnet. One minute raging that men and women are exactly the same and any difference is just the patriarchy at work damn that evil patriarchy. The next minute raging that biology matters and why won't people see that.
Schrodinger's cat has nothing on this.

Who says exactly the same?

As in same biology?

I don’t think they do. Eg A female can play a sport and be excellent at football, it doesn’t mean they have to play with men.

ILikeDungs · 08/07/2023 10:39

This is it. You couch it in ‘oh but we’re just debating’ but what happens is that anyone who disagrees is targeted.

I did not target you. I pointed out that you only had ad hominem attacks, which you have repeated here. You tried to discredit through fallacious argument. Are you able to respond in a way that adds to the discussion?

...just spreading hate - both about trans people and against anyone who dares to question your stance.

I don't see a lot of posters on here refusing to have their "stance" questioned. Well, maybe a few.

DisquietintheRanks · 08/07/2023 10:31

I love Mumsnet. One minute raging that men and women are exactly the same and any difference is just the patriarchy at work damn that evil patriarchy. The next minute raging that biology matters and why won't people see that.
Schrodinger's cat has nothing on this.

Ridemeginger · 08/07/2023 10:27

Rosietheravisher · 08/07/2023 02:24

As they used to say in the old days: talk to the hand cos the face ain’t listening.

I am not interested in being lectured by you. Spread your hate somewhere else. Not interested.

I work with 10 year olds with a greater level of maturity. And as a 50-something woman of colour, I’ve put up with more hate and hate speech than you will ever know, so your little strop is fairly meaningless. I fully understand what is hate, thanks. Concern for the welfare, health and legal rights of children and women is not it.

PaterPower · 08/07/2023 10:23

”even link to evidence counter to the accepted wisdom that all trans = anti-women”

Isn’t this just the same old NAMALT / NAPALT type intervention though?

Not all transwomen are “anti-women,” just as not all men are abusers, not all Policemen are Wayne Couzens wannabes etc etc etc.

But a significant number demonstrate, time after time, that they are, or are very happy to stand next to those that are, whilst holding signs which advocate violence against women.

eggcupboard · 08/07/2023 10:10
Radio 4. Right now. Is freaking me out.
RudsyFarmer · 08/07/2023 10:04

It’s an echo chamber. If you walked up to 95% of the British public right now, in a town centre they would tell you men can’t give birth.

BartholemewHolmes · 08/07/2023 10:02

It’s odd as I still rate the BBC for music and sport. I like seeing Wimbledon and Glastonbury on there and R6 is vital for the U.K. music scene

But when I see the move away from pro women there and even worse in The Guardian it strains or stops that connection

Plus general bias

But it can do well in some areas

eggcupboard · 08/07/2023 09:59

It's institutional gaslighting by the BBC. But people are waking up to their reality-denying nonsense.

Bingbangbongbash · 08/07/2023 09:57

ILikeDungs · 08/07/2023 09:50

This is all they have. Name calling.

We are "nasty hornets", "vipers" and "rancid".

For the record there is no accepted wisdom (you mean amongst women l assume) that trans equals anti-women. That just is not true. Most women that I know will simply say "Sometimes, sex matters".

We can build a world around this, surely? Dress how you want, call yourself what you like, love whoever will have you --women are not a hive mind but in general they will agree, and yet there are some situations where biology matters.

Someone here is exhibiting hate. I think the other posters can see who it is.

This is it. You couch it in ‘oh but we’re just debating’ but what happens is that anyone who disagrees is targeted. I’ve been likened to the twat who bludgeoned a fox to death because I defended the BBC on here.

It’s nasty behaviour, and it makes you all look like nasty people.

Then as soon as you’re called out on it, you turn it around as ‘oh, look, that person says we’re nasty, but they’re the nasty one’. It happens all the time in trans threads, which is why MN HQ probably like hiding them in the feminist pages. You think you’re revealing the truth and making people aware, but you’re just spreading hate - both about trans people and against anyone who dares to question your stance.

WomblingTree86 · 08/07/2023 09:56

BartholemewHolmes · 08/07/2023 09:50

Not ironic at all. But you are missing the main point, being pro women isn’t anti trans.

I didn't say it was. I am pro women but not anti trans.

ILikeDungs · 08/07/2023 09:50

Bingbangbongbash · 08/07/2023 09:33

Because the second anyone even tries to put forward an alternative view - or even link to evidence counter to the accepted wisdom that all trans = anti-women - you nasty hornets come stinging. It’s just not worth the time or effort to engage.

I’m genuinely considering realigning my views on gender because I don’t want to be associated with the likes of the GC on MN. It’s rancid.

This is all they have. Name calling.

We are "nasty hornets", "vipers" and "rancid".

For the record there is no accepted wisdom (you mean amongst women l assume) that trans equals anti-women. That just is not true. Most women that I know will simply say "Sometimes, sex matters".

We can build a world around this, surely? Dress how you want, call yourself what you like, love whoever will have you --women are not a hive mind but in general they will agree, and yet there are some situations where biology matters.

Someone here is exhibiting hate. I think the other posters can see who it is.

BartholemewHolmes · 08/07/2023 09:50

WomblingTree86 · 08/07/2023 09:48

Ironic comment given any woman who isn't anti trans will be immediately shouted down if they try to speak on mumsnet. Most don't engage now for that reason.

Not ironic at all. But you are missing the main point, being pro women isn’t anti trans.

WomblingTree86 · 08/07/2023 09:48

BartholemewHolmes · 08/07/2023 09:17

Agree this is a very poor response.

Let women speak indeed

Ironic comment given any woman who isn't anti trans will be immediately shouted down if they try to speak on mumsnet. Most don't engage now for that reason.

TheKeatingFive · 08/07/2023 09:37

I am not interested in being lectured by you. Spread your hate somewhere else. Not interested.

Can you specify what 'hate' you are talking about? I don't see 'hate'.

Bingbangbongbash · 08/07/2023 09:33

Because the second anyone even tries to put forward an alternative view - or even link to evidence counter to the accepted wisdom that all trans = anti-women - you nasty hornets come stinging. It’s just not worth the time or effort to engage.

I’m genuinely considering realigning my views on gender because I don’t want to be associated with the likes of the GC on MN. It’s rancid.

BartholemewHolmes · 08/07/2023 09:17

ILikeDungs · 08/07/2023 09:13

I am not interested in being lectured by you. Spread your hate somewhere else. Not interested.

Why exactly are posters so gleefully shutting down these discussions?

If something is true, how can it be hate?
Let women speak.

Agree this is a very poor response.

Let women speak indeed

ILikeDungs · 08/07/2023 09:13

I am not interested in being lectured by you. Spread your hate somewhere else. Not interested.

Why exactly are posters so gleefully shutting down these discussions?

If something is true, how can it be hate?
Let women speak.

sydenhamhiller · 08/07/2023 08:37

Oh my goodness. Are you 8? Surely the whole point of a discussion board is to read/ discuss/ hear other points of view?

Not metaphorically stick fingers in ears and say ‘La la La can’t hear you’. Just because someone has a different opinion does’t mean they are spreading a message of ‘hate’.

Rosietheravisher · 08/07/2023 02:24

Ridemeginger · 07/07/2023 09:40

@Rosietheravisher I’ll also point you to the number of liberal states in the US who are banning investigatory talking therapy for young kids thinking they may be trans - kids who may be confused about their sexuality, have family problems/abuses, may have co morbidities etc, and are looking for the sanctuary of a different and celebrated identity - and forcing an affirmation only model that tells therapists to tell these kids, yes you were born in the wrong body, and yes you need to get on the drugs and surgery train immediately. Look at California, Vermont. Look at the proposed laws to force parents out of the equation. This stuff has already happened in Canada. Scotland at one point was trying to roll out legislation to ensure every child had a third guardian (effectively a HCP) with quasi parental rights (it was blocked by the Supreme Court). If you don’t think this is happening, I’m afraid you are not paying attention.

As they used to say in the old days: talk to the hand cos the face ain’t listening.

I am not interested in being lectured by you. Spread your hate somewhere else. Not interested.

user1477391263 · 08/07/2023 01:45

KimberleyClark · 07/07/2023 09:49

Why didn’t his wife have a baby? If you want to break gender norms do so but having a baby is the most womanly thing you can possibly do, don’t make me pretend you’re a man after you’ve given birth.

Do you think women who have never had a baby are less womanly than those who have?

Uh, in the biological sense, having a baby is the most womanly thing a woman can possibly do because only women can do it.

It has nothing to do with “performing femininity,” if that what you are trying to imply here (pink, sparkles etc) That is literally the whole point of this thread.

ILikeDungs · 08/07/2023 00:13

WomblingTree86 · 07/07/2023 20:05

Trans men are no threat to you so why not live and let live? You didn't have to listen.

Of course transmen are not a threat to women. They are women after all. Transmen claiming they are men who give birth is a complete nonsense, and l think that is what the OP was feeling.

I feel that Freddy just loves to wind people up and to Freddy, the shock is all. Magazine cover photo: Pregnant Man!! Only actually no, it's a woman on drugs. We can all go home.

WomblingTree86 · 07/07/2023 21:42

TheKeatingFive · 07/07/2023 20:36

Trans men are no threat to you so why not live and let live? You didn't have to listen.

Have you actually read the thread? 🙄

Yes

TheKeatingFive · 07/07/2023 20:36

Trans men are no threat to you so why not live and let live? You didn't have to listen.

Have you actually read the thread? 🙄

WomblingTree86 · 07/07/2023 20:05

Trans men are no threat to you so why not live and let live? You didn't have to listen.