Agree.
It's also frustrating to see this issue - yet again - coming round to the tedious, perennial angst and defensiveness surrounding WOHM vs. SAHM. Staying around on MN for a while has convinced me that for some women this tired, regressive, repetitive treadmill to nowhere is the sum total of what feminism stands for; has forever stood for; that it's solely about their personal decisions respecting domestic and paid labour. Because, after all, 'feminism is about "choice"'.
The term 'handmaiden' used in this context is obviously a backward slide - the reasoning that if you're fucking a man you're a a 'handmaiden to the patriarchy' is as ludicrous as the idea that being bisexual, or indeed even an adult human female in the actual sense of that word, is 'transphobic'. But there are shortcuts to thinking on all sides of this issue.
If it relates to women who willingly chuck other women under the bus, who cede over/violate their spaces without their consent, who utter any variation on the theme of reframing our trauma, who want them in competition with natal males in sports which put them at risk and nullify their achievements; if they coyly sidle up to threads where women have been victims of terrible assaults, rape, VAWG, stalking, DPV, etc., at the hands of men and want help and advice to tell them 'NAMALT', and think of the men, then 'handmaiden' suits those women to a tee.
I do know the origins of the term, and use it very advisedly. And in contexts like the above, I have no issue with it whatsoever. If women opt to do such things to other women, and in doing so make themselves part of the problem, they can damned well take the criticism that comes with it. In which case 'Handmaiden' is exceptionally mild.