Declining to put my preferred pronouns in my email signature

Interestingly enough, I've noticed on LinkedIn that a few connections who had pronouns now don't. and looking in my feed they are definitely in the decline.

I would be hopeful. But then I remember that punk was replaced by disco.

No.

Genuinely can’t see the issue. Just put the pronouns. Seems a strange hill to die on.

That's my feelings. If I see pronouns in an email signature, I am alerted to the fact the person using them is highly credulous and so I take anything they say with an enormous pinch of salt.

@SerendipityJane I didn't know that!

Because i'm obviously female, therefore you know that i am her, she or Miss, if i was male i would be he, him or Mr. Simples

No thanks to stating pronouns. It's too political. And not needed.

If in doubt, use my name. Or whatever. I don't care. But I wouldn't add pronouns to my email.

I’d reply that I wasn’t ready to be outed by labelling myself as I hadn’t yet decided. Or something else to make them stop.

If I see someone using their pronouns I assume they are either indulging in idiotic virtue signalling or are young, naive and caught up in this. This is not an image I want to project of myself to the outside world. I haven’t been asked to use my pronouns, but I won’t be kneeling to Big Brother and doing so if I am.

I don’t expect my co-workers to label themselves as lesbians, Muslims etc. how could my gender identity (if I had one) be anyone’s business but mine?

Although I am tempted to put hag/crone

Yes, male. You'd think that there would be other stuff concerning him (he/his) what with behaviour, achievement and results and all, but hey ho - priorities. I'm going to ignore him and intend to be the last person with no identified pronouns, if need be. I'm taking none of his crap, believe me.

@BonnieBobbin You misread my post - I was asking the OP "If you could cite ..." I know the research (I may even be responsible for some of it ...) So, you know, stop & think and don't be so rude next time.

The irony being he's really "Rafael". but for some weird reason has decided not to use that in politics in Texas in America.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ted_Cruz

Not research but an interesting example -

people.com/human-interest/man-discovers-his-invisible-advantage-at-work-after-he-switches-email-signatures-with-a-female-colleague/

But this is not an option if you are French, or Italian,possibly Spanish and maybe German ( not absolutely sure about this) speaking, or using that language; because there is no neuter pronoun in those languages, everything is male or female. The plurals are gendered as well, so if you are putting the chairs away, those chairs will be referred to as ‘elles ‘ unlike the knives, which are il/ils . Even qualities such as wisdom or courage are gendered.

Although you suggest the neuter plural is used for the uncertain, of course this is grammatically nonsense, since one non binary person is still just one person. I am reliably informed that the neuter singular is offensive, although logically it would be more accurate. ( and neutral/ neuter is neutral , surely).

You may think I am not serious, but I am. Language matters.

I'd be tempted to put something stupid like wee/woo to see if anyone dares to question it

I think your comprehension is lacking @BonnieBobbin if you think I'm unaware of sexism in the workplace ...

A male line manager? Well then the responses along the lines that it disadvantages women should shut him up. Otherwise I'd ignore him or say "we've been through this, I am not doing it, people can call me what they like" and change the subject.

Actually female line managers may need educating too - at the moment they seem to be the trans lobby's #bekind's useful idiots.

“I think preferring not to say what you prefer is a bit petty, to be honest. It's only so that people get it right.”

Would it also be petty preferring not to put as your email signature whether you are Protestant or Catholic?

What if employers wanted to know this and wanted everyone to declare either way?

Ok so you’re an atheist but are you a Protestant atheist or a Catholic atheist?

I don’t believe in the new religion of gender identity. My employer should not be forcing me to declare what flavour of this new religion I am (none, I don’t subscribe to it, is apparently not an option) nor coercing me into participating in the rites and rituals of this new religion.

No thank you. I’m not a believer in gender identity philosophy/ideology.

Because there is no need. Just as there is no need for anyone to put their birthdate in an email because your age, and your gender, are of no relevance to anyone but you. People who want their pronouns displayed are either trying to use other people to validate their “gender identity” or are desperate for approval.

As for getting it wrong, it's irrelevant what people call me behind my back.

In the example above, if they copied me into an email saying "Liese said you would like her to do x" and I wasn't happy with the reference to "her", I'd just reply saying "oh actually I'm a him". Or whatever gender I'd chosen that day.

Interestingly I did a (running) race on Sunday and there was an Elijah in the results. Female. (Under 12). I assume it was a mistake but perhaps it wasn't?

That's tickety-boo with me. People will assume all sorts of things about me, and do so on a daily basis. Not my circus.

We're expected to do this, I'm still refusing. A rather arsey line manager has started to put pressure on me, so I said I'd go for hag/crone. He complained that I was being deliberately difficult, and my approach "isn't in the spirit".

My advice is simply to ignore. I have and nobody has said anything to me about it.

Except one colleague who mentioned it one day and I changed the focus by saying "ah well you've got a unisex name (eg Alex, Sam) so it's useful for you to do it" and he said "ah yes, maybe I should" and that was the end of the conversation.

No one has got it wrong for me so I’m fine not adding it.