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Is Mumsnet shutting down GC views? FAO Justine Roberts

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Pluvia · 27/04/2023 10:18

Mumsnet, are you aware that GC views are acceptable and are held by the vast majority of people in the UK?

Why are you using the 'not in the spirit of Mumsnet' argument to shut down discussions?

In the thread about a trans co-worker you allowed pro-trans arguments presumably from the US, Australia and Canada to mount up overnight. When GC women here in the UK countered with facts this morning you shut the thread down. I didn't see a single offensive post — unless you've changed policy and now think using the medical term autogynephilia is offensive.

This is not acceptable. Maya Forstater's case established that GC views are worthy of respect and yet you seem to be censoring open debate.

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Pluvia · 27/04/2023 17:38

beachcitygirl · 27/04/2023 17:26

You prove my point perfectly

What point? Do I?

You've said you've been around MN and these boards for years, yet you seem to be unaware that sex and gender issues were sectioned off a year or two ago to create a general Feminist Chat group for those who don't want to discuss gender. Which is why I raised an eyebrow with 'Aye, right.'

And of course your first post on this thread made some wild claims which several of us have refuted with actual evidence.

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Butitsnotfunnyisititsserious · 27/04/2023 17:37

beachcitygirl · 27/04/2023 17:33

@Butitsnotfunnyisititsserious how do you know the majority of trans women keep their penis?
Secondly why do you care ?

Firstly because it's well spoken about how few undergo full transitioning. Secondly because women don't have a penis. Sex matters. People cannot change it.
Some women may have experienced trauma at the hands of males in the past and not want men in women's spaces. And to you their feelings don't matter, you just care not to hurt the men's feelings.

nilsmousehammer · 27/04/2023 17:36

I would btw dearly love to see you extend the equality of this inquiring sensibly into worries to male people with TQ+ identities.

"What worries you really about being in mens spaces? Well here's my reasoned decision on why you're being silly and you just need to do it and get over yourself."

Where's this equality of uncaring, superior dismissal?

xabia · 27/04/2023 17:35

The more TRA posts on MN the better.
Give this crazy ideology plenty of air and people will soon make up their own minds.

Buffypaws · 27/04/2023 17:34

beachcitygirl · 27/04/2023 17:32

@JolyGoodBloviator which part of the gra don't you agree with in particular. What makes you feel it's "bad" ?

Why don't you think trans people should be allowed to legally change sex.

I don’t see any benefit to society in allowing people to lie about their sex in official documentation. I see many drawbacks. The original benefit of essentially allowing back door gay marriage is no longer relevant as society is no longer homophobic.

nilsmousehammer · 27/04/2023 17:34

beachcitygirl · 27/04/2023 17:23

Fwiw I have been reading these board for a long long time and haven't read a single good sense reason to oppose self id from anyone.

It seems to split into a few camps.

But no one lists what their actual issue is. What they actually believe is happening with a change to the law.

I see innuendo, fear, biological determinism of the sort feminists despised only 20 years ago) bigotry, anger, upset more fear, lack of understanding of gender. Denial of gender, clinging to femininity and masculinity, outdated cliches

But not one single person who is open to changing their mind if given answers to their queries and worries. And who can state those worries simply and clearly.

I see a determination that female people must not be permitted the equality of consideration and care to a small group of special male people.

Those male people's feelings, fears, dignities, identities and choices matter (and so do to a lesser extent those identifying as male.)

But female people's are dismissed, ridiculed, dumped in a lot of word salad, and equality and inclusion is made a male only thing.

The only purpose of all this wangling at women is to shut them up and let male people have absolute freedoms. And apparently if this excludes and harms female people you're ok with that because <shrug> not like they're equally human or anything.

Binary, sex based thinking and quite fantastic misogyny. And I want answers that work for all with no one left excluded, unhappy, afraid, unsafe.

Why don't you? Why are you fine to leave a group out in the cold so long as it's not your favoured group?

beachcitygirl · 27/04/2023 17:33

@Butitsnotfunnyisititsserious how do you know the majority of trans women keep their penis?
Secondly why do you care ?

Theeyeballsinthesky · 27/04/2023 17:33

It’s not possible to change sex. you can’t self ID as the opposite sex anymore than you can self ID as a goldfish

allowing men to decide they’re women when it suits them does not remotely benefit women at all

beachcitygirl · 27/04/2023 17:32

@JolyGoodBloviator which part of the gra don't you agree with in particular. What makes you feel it's "bad" ?

Why don't you think trans people should be allowed to legally change sex.

Buffypaws · 27/04/2023 17:32

MissLucyEyelesbarrow · 27/04/2023 11:25

I am grateful to MNHQ, for supporting debate on GC issues when there was none elsewhere. But times have moved on. There is now open debate in mainstream outlets like the Times, and on SM - notably Twitter, but even on IG and Tik-Tok.

For a long time, MN was an outlier, in that it supported more freedom of speech than other outlets. Now, you risk being an outlier in suppressing freedom of speech more than your competitors.

Isn't it time to review your guidelines?

Yeah this is pretty on the money.

Butitsnotfunnyisititsserious · 27/04/2023 17:30

beachcitygirl · 27/04/2023 17:25

@BernardBlacksMolluscs I include trans women as women and trans men as men.

And frankly I don't much care what happens to a bunch of sexual predators locked up together. I should but I don't. My bad.

Trans women are biological men. The majority even keep their penis. How can you honestly say that an individual with a penis is a woman?

JolyGoodBloviator · 27/04/2023 17:26

But no one lists what their actual issue is. What they actually believe is happening with a change to the law.

Humans cannot change sex.
The original GRA is bad law and it’s stupid to extend that bad law even further.

Trans people should have protections against discrimination (as in the EQ10) but change of ‘legal’ sex is bonkers and the law should be based on reality not fantasy.

beachcitygirl · 27/04/2023 17:26

Pluvia · 27/04/2023 17:25

Aye, right.

You prove my point perfectly

beachcitygirl · 27/04/2023 17:25

@BernardBlacksMolluscs I include trans women as women and trans men as men.

And frankly I don't much care what happens to a bunch of sexual predators locked up together. I should but I don't. My bad.

Pluvia · 27/04/2023 17:25

Aye, right.

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beachcitygirl · 27/04/2023 17:23

Fwiw I have been reading these board for a long long time and haven't read a single good sense reason to oppose self id from anyone.

It seems to split into a few camps.

But no one lists what their actual issue is. What they actually believe is happening with a change to the law.

I see innuendo, fear, biological determinism of the sort feminists despised only 20 years ago) bigotry, anger, upset more fear, lack of understanding of gender. Denial of gender, clinging to femininity and masculinity, outdated cliches

But not one single person who is open to changing their mind if given answers to their queries and worries. And who can state those worries simply and clearly.

Pluvia · 27/04/2023 17:22

beachcitygirl · 27/04/2023 17:05

They have it's being researched. Unless you misunderstood I'm
Specifically referring to prisons per previous linking sentence.
Where risk assessments are performed. Ie third space prisons for sexual predators.

So that'll be something along the lines of 95% men, 4% transwomen and 1% female, all in together, yeah? All of them sex offenders.

How do we think that's going to work out?

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BernardBlacksMolluscs · 27/04/2023 17:20

beachcitygirl · 27/04/2023 17:15

@BernardBlacksMolluscs of course they are not mixed sex. All women in the women's wing/prison all men in the men's wing/prison.
And with proper risk assesment.
But that's for experts on prisons to work out the details .

I can't imagine we'll see many women sexual predators. There are only a few around that's why they make headlines.

The other thing with prisons is that there is no political will to spend money on prisons. Let's face it, prisons should never be the hotbed of violence, drugs and abuse and yes sexual exploitation that they currently are even when single sex. That is down to a lack of
Resources
Care
Cameras
Lack of single cells
Lack of any empathy for prisoners
Overpopulation
Some prison guards

A
General public that isn't perceived by politicians to care.

To be fair money and resources cure most issues with prisons. No politician will spend it tho. Not a vote winner.

female sex offenders get single sex spaces?

but no-one else does? not rape survivors, not women who adhere to strict abrahamic religions, not women who value their privacy and dignity?

doesn't seem fair really

beachcitygirl · 27/04/2023 17:17

@Pluvia do you think that women earn less because of their sex or because of the social structures created around attitudes towards their sex. ?

ArabeIIaScott · 27/04/2023 17:15

JolyGoodBloviator · 27/04/2023 17:12

We don’t want an echo chamber at all - we need pro trans ideology posters, it’s how we demonstrate to lurkers that GC arguments can be backed up by evidence and transactivist arguments are empty appeals to emotion (using morally questionable false analogies that usually veer into casual racism).

Absolutely. And to be clear, I do welcome supporters of self ID etc on here.

I was just pointing out the history of the boards on here.

FWIW I was always and remain opposed to the split.

beachcitygirl · 27/04/2023 17:15

@BernardBlacksMolluscs of course they are not mixed sex. All women in the women's wing/prison all men in the men's wing/prison.
And with proper risk assesment.
But that's for experts on prisons to work out the details .

I can't imagine we'll see many women sexual predators. There are only a few around that's why they make headlines.

The other thing with prisons is that there is no political will to spend money on prisons. Let's face it, prisons should never be the hotbed of violence, drugs and abuse and yes sexual exploitation that they currently are even when single sex. That is down to a lack of
Resources
Care
Cameras
Lack of single cells
Lack of any empathy for prisoners
Overpopulation
Some prison guards

A
General public that isn't perceived by politicians to care.

To be fair money and resources cure most issues with prisons. No politician will spend it tho. Not a vote winner.

NotHavingIt · 27/04/2023 17:15

beachcitygirl · 27/04/2023 16:57

@ArabeIIaScott I'm a feminist. An actual one, A 53 year old feminist non-white woman. So I will not be dissuaded by you on how & when I speak.

So I will frequent the feminist boards.

If you wish a "GC" only echo chamber why not ask Mumsnet hq to sort you out one?

This sub forum was created by Mumsnet HQ because women such as yourself didn't want to be exposed to what went on it becausse it is largely critical of gender as a constructed identity.. So 'Feminism chat' was set up to cater for and include everyone who wished to discuss women's issues and/or feminism as they perceived it without having to be subject to views they don't like or approve of.

Not everyone identifies themselves as a feminist, which now tends to have a whole lot other implications - especially by those who consider themselves 'inclusive' or liberal feminists - which is why the forum is all also called 'women's rights'. That is what I'm interested in here. Women and their experiences and their dignity and integrity as women. I'm not interested in including males in the definition of women - it doesn't make any sense at all.

JolyGoodBloviator · 27/04/2023 17:13

I’d be content with spaces reserved for tervern females but I worry they would become overcrowded.

JolyGoodBloviator · 27/04/2023 17:12

beachcitygirl · 27/04/2023 16:57

@ArabeIIaScott I'm a feminist. An actual one, A 53 year old feminist non-white woman. So I will not be dissuaded by you on how & when I speak.

So I will frequent the feminist boards.

If you wish a "GC" only echo chamber why not ask Mumsnet hq to sort you out one?

We don’t want an echo chamber at all - we need pro trans ideology posters, it’s how we demonstrate to lurkers that GC arguments can be backed up by evidence and transactivist arguments are empty appeals to emotion (using morally questionable false analogies that usually veer into casual racism).

Pluvia · 27/04/2023 17:12

suggestionsplease1
If you are coming from a place where you see it as aspirational and desirable to be a woman maybe you interpret it differently.

'Woman' as aspirational. Wow. How bloody inconvenient the matter of sex must be to people intent on having what they aspire to. What a pity womanhood isn't a thing that can be bought and sold. What a testament to the fact that for so many men, women aren't fully human people.

Does anyone remember Oli London who went to teach in South Korea and thought he'd like to be Korean too, so went off and had pretty major cosmetic surgery to make him look a Korean boy band member, then announced he identified as Korean? No niggling thoughts about colonisation or cultural appropriation. No deep understanding of what it might be to actually be Korean. He couldn't understand why so many people were appalled.
Bizarre that this younger generation is busy colonising and appropriating what it likes the look of while pulling down statues of old colonials.

And @suggestionsplease1 has the nerve to tell me I'm the misogynist.

Male: small gamete, XY. Female, large gamete:XX. Sex decided at the moment of conception. The moment the midwife says 'It's a girl' we can have a fair go at predicting her life. We can have a pretty good idea of how tall she's going to be, how long she's likely to live and the range of conditions she's like to die of — which don't include prostate cancer. We know she'll almost certainly earn less than if she'd been a boy and retire on a smaller pension. We know that she is much, much more likely to suffer rape and sexual violence, or to be sexually harassed than if she'd been a boy. And on and on and on. As Alice Sullivan said, it would be easier to list the things not determined by sex than those that are.

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