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Asked gender and pronouns on antenatal form

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bbypinkluffie · 21/04/2023 10:58

So I’m 7 weeks today with my first, and yesterday I got given a midwife, and my first antenatal appointment was booked, and was told I had to fill this form out before the appointment, it had an entire section where the questions were “is the gender you were assigned at birth the gender you identify as now?” And “what gender do you identify as?” And “what are your pronouns?” I didn’t want to participate in their questions, as I don’t agree with gender ideology, I don’t want to have to “declare” myself a woman, I am one. I don’t want to “identify” as a woman, I am one. I’m pregnant for heavens sake! But regardless I filled out the entire gender section, saying yes I identify with my assigned gender at birth, I identify as female and my pronouns I chose as she/her. I only did this to avoid being asked during the appointment as it’s my first appointment and my first pregnancy and I don’t want it being ruined by being asked about pronouns. I only pray now I’ve jumped through their hoops I won’t be called a “pregnant person” or “birthing person” or “chest feeder” now. For heavens sake!

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KnickerlessParsons · 21/04/2023 11:27

When asked my gender I usually leave it blank if the form allows it. If it's a mandatory question, I would answer "other" or "not specified" or similar, because I don't have a gender (or if I do, I don't know what it is).
I know I'm a woman though, and was born female.

I'm one of the people causing the ONS a headache by not answering the gender related questions in the census in the expected way because they were stupid questions

Chersfrozenface · 21/04/2023 11:22

Well I'd have written "Sex = woman, obviously" in letters as large as possible all over that section.

And @QuintanaRoo you can expect far more complaints from women who recognise biological reality and object to gender wankery.

myheartmyhead · 21/04/2023 11:21

QuintanaRoo · 21/04/2023 11:19

But some pregnant people who are biologically female will identify as male. The forms are there so staff don’t upset them by referring to them as she/her if that’s not what they want. You can disagree with someone who identifies as a man being pregnant all you want but the nhs provides holistic, patient centred care and if they get it wrong there will be complaints

im a midwife and believe me I’ve seen the sort of complaints along these lines.

But surely people have the right to refuse to answer?
Surely if you do identify differently the onus is on you to make people aware? Not part of a form!

QuintanaRoo · 21/04/2023 11:19

But some pregnant people who are biologically female will identify as male. The forms are there so staff don’t upset them by referring to them as she/her if that’s not what they want. You can disagree with someone who identifies as a man being pregnant all you want but the nhs provides holistic, patient centred care and if they get it wrong there will be complaints

im a midwife and believe me I’ve seen the sort of complaints along these lines.