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Get paid for drugged sex!

112 replies

mach2 · 08/03/2023 09:01

Well, this is a bit special:

A BBC documentary has sparked outrage after a sex therapist suggested men who have a fetish about sex with unconscious partners should be able to pay women to be drugged

www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-11831307/We-Need-Talk-Bill-Cosby-Sex-therapist-calls-women-drugged-money.html

Is it me or is the world getting madder?

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MadameSzyszkoBohusz · 08/03/2023 09:56

Sex I get to sleep through sounds like the best kind to me.

(Kidding!!)

turbonerd · 08/03/2023 09:56

Ourladycheesusedatum · 08/03/2023 09:54

Nope, pretty sure we cant consent to this. No one can surely. Once you're unconscious then any consent you gave is null and void.

And can you imagine making them stick to whatever you "consented" to.
That would require an onlooker or camera running, neither of which should happen.

Jesus and an actual woman said this? My God she needs some serious help.

And please take her licence and burn it.

Ourladycheesusedatum · 08/03/2023 09:54

Nope, pretty sure we cant consent to this. No one can surely. Once you're unconscious then any consent you gave is null and void.

And can you imagine making them stick to whatever you "consented" to.
That would require an onlooker or camera running, neither of which should happen.

Jesus and an actual woman said this? My God she needs some serious help.

BernardBlacksMolluscs · 08/03/2023 09:53

IcakethereforeIam · 08/03/2023 09:45

Not my area of expertise, but I suspect for some the consent, or rather lack of, is part of the kink.

Yeah, I accept that

but I like to start from a position of people being able to choose to be decent

given that plenty don’t, exercising your kink for non consensual sex should also be very, very illegal

and certainly musings of this kind should not be presented uncritically on the BBC

FigRollsAlly · 08/03/2023 09:53

Is the next step going to be someone claiming that if only we could be “sex positive” about rape it would solve so many problems?

BinturongsSmellOfPopcorn · 08/03/2023 09:49

I suspect you're right, cake.

And once the woman is 'consensually unconscious' there is no way for her to know that the 'client' will stay within any other previously agreed boundaries.

IcakethereforeIam · 08/03/2023 09:45

Not my area of expertise, but I suspect for some the consent, or rather lack of, is part of the kink.

DysonBison · 08/03/2023 09:16

The words 'sex negativity' and 'sex positivity' are doing some very heavy lifting there.

BernardBlacksMolluscs · 08/03/2023 09:10

Ms Rashatwar told the programme: ‘If we actually grappled with the fact that sex negativity is what causes this type of behaviour, then we could create a world, where in an idyllically sex positive world, someone is able to pay conscious women to come and be drugged so that I can get my kink out, my fetish on having sex with unconscious people. There’s a consensual way to do that.’

gosh, that does sound idyllic, doesn’t it?

  1. acting out fetishes generally escalates them rather than ‘getting them out’

  2. if your fetish involves non consensual sex, then you should choose not to do it. There’s plenty more to life than getting your end away

RudsyFarmer · 08/03/2023 09:09

Women aren’t even safe in morgues once they’re dead but this ‘expert’ thinks we should be lining up to be sedated so some NAMALT can get his kink satisfied? Yeah no thanks, you first.

Mrsjayy · 08/03/2023 09:09

Well quite, therapist could do it as part of their research
How frightening is that just pay to do it who thinks like that!

shard5 · 08/03/2023 09:06

I saw That headline. Maybe the therapist should volunteer to trial it for a few weeks then come back and update us all!
Madness that a woman would deem this was even acceptable to even give mind to never mind speak aloud.