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Queer appropriation

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JustStopOilyPoshKids · 06/02/2023 16:45

Funny innit that for a certain section of TQs the tipping point from 'stunning and brave' to 'appropriation' is blokes like Harry Styles. Not rapists and creepy transbian fetishists.

The frothing on social media for these 'queer bating' cultural interlopers is hilarious to see. Why are some attempts at GNC/ NB / gender fuckery not valid?

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NicolaSturgeonsSOGIbottom · 06/02/2023 21:22

Misstache · 06/02/2023 21:04

That’s such a lie about Chappelle. He didn’t “defend” DaBaby, he humourously pointed out that DaBaby shot a Black man, in public, and no one cares, but then he said an anti-gay slur and he got cancelled.

He’s not defending the slur, he’s making a point about the relative worth of Black lives and the selectiveness of outrage - that people are more concerned about words than actual violence.

It was a lazy, disingenuous characterisation definitely.

Chapelle seems to have survived his brush with Cancel Culture/ the EDI Vampire though, so fuck those guys (and well done to Netflix for refusing to throw him under the bus).

To bring this back on topic, at least with the comments from the Grammys CEO above we can be pretty sure that they won’t throw Harry Styles won’t be thrown to the Cancel-Culty Wolves.

Also, Harry beat Sam in the battle of the silver jumpsuits

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Misstache · 06/02/2023 21:04

That’s such a lie about Chappelle. He didn’t “defend” DaBaby, he humourously pointed out that DaBaby shot a Black man, in public, and no one cares, but then he said an anti-gay slur and he got cancelled.

He’s not defending the slur, he’s making a point about the relative worth of Black lives and the selectiveness of outrage - that people are more concerned about words than actual violence.

StillWeRise · 06/02/2023 20:56

amen to that, sister

Probablymagrat · 06/02/2023 20:30

I really don't care what the silly fuckers wear, in fact I think that choosing to present as a feminine looking man whilst refraining from stealing women's safe spaces, sports, prizes and grants is a positive thing. Shows that it can be done without being complete arses towards the women they claim to want to be.

I am all for there being many varied ways of being a man, without them having to claim that they are women. If the state of manhood was more inclusive there is less reason for men to pretend to be women. They can just be feminine men.

In the same way that women can present as masculine, do a job that would be considered mans work but still be considered a woman, men should be allowed the same freedom of expression and still be considered a man.

Unless of course most of them are just sexual predators or emotionally stunted manchildren. Which I am prepared to accept.

NicolaSturgeonsSOGIbottom · 06/02/2023 20:11

I like this quote from big boss CEO for the Recording Academy:

Harvey Mason jr
The Hollywood Reporter in part, “We don’t control who the voters vote for.”

“If the voters feel like a creator deserves a nomination, they’re going to vote for them,” Mason jr. said, addressing controversial nominees. “We’re never going to be in the business of deciding someone’s moral position or where we evaluate them to be on the scale of morality. I think our job is to evaluate the art and the quality of the art. We can make sure that all of our spaces are safe and people don’t feel threatened by anyone. But as far as the nominations or the awards, we really let the voters make that decision

Delphinium20 · 06/02/2023 19:58

Ohh I LOVE that Dave won this.

In an irony similar to JKR, The Closer is actually dedicated to a transwoman who was a friend of Dave's. TRAs hounded her and she committed suicide.

JKR, "I know and love trans people."

Chapelle: dedicates final punchline in honor of transwoman who is a fellow comedian.

Honestly-who hates transpeople, really?!?

NicolaSturgeonsSOGIbottom · 06/02/2023 19:30

Not worth a new thread but seeing as The Grammy’s came up in this one:

Dave Chapelle win.

www.hollywoodreporter.com/news/general-news/dave-chappelle-grammy-netflix-the-closer-trans-controversy-1235316559/

SirVixofVixHall · 06/02/2023 18:39

Whowhatwherewhenwhynow · 06/02/2023 17:44

Maybe

Surely though giving the message that men wearing dresses is only for gay/queer men is reinforcing stereotypes of what it means to be gay?

Well yes.
I was an eighties teenager, all my male friends wore shedloads of makeup, and all kinds of outfits, whether gay or straight. It feels as though we have gone backwards into strict stereotyping.

turbonerd · 06/02/2023 17:47

Also, you just know they have missed ALL the prog rock guys AND the poodle rock dudes in their Quest for Outrage

turbonerd · 06/02/2023 17:45

Harry Styles, Harry Schmyles.

I want to know what they think about Timothee Chalet (? Spelling) in his halterneck outfit! He is even prettier than Styles, so maybe his (zis) appropriation is more .. eh appropriate.

Whowhatwherewhenwhynow · 06/02/2023 17:44

Maybe

Surely though giving the message that men wearing dresses is only for gay/queer men is reinforcing stereotypes of what it means to be gay?

SirVixofVixHall · 06/02/2023 17:41

Whowhatwherewhenwhynow · 06/02/2023 17:37

I don’t understand the logic behind saying he appropriates “queer style”.
he wears dresses and other traditionally stereotypically female clothing. Why is that appropriating queer people and not just wearing what he wants?

Maybe the people criticising him are American ? There is a much longer British tradition of bands breaking stereotypes .

Whowhatwherewhenwhynow · 06/02/2023 17:37

I don’t understand the logic behind saying he appropriates “queer style”.
he wears dresses and other traditionally stereotypically female clothing. Why is that appropriating queer people and not just wearing what he wants?

NicolaSturgeonsSOGIbottom · 06/02/2023 17:34

THE MOB CAME FOR BEYONCÉ?

😱😱😱😱

JustStopOilyPoshKids · 06/02/2023 17:33

nauticant · 06/02/2023 17:21

Oooof it has gotta be tiresome being so ideologically pure!

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SirVixofVixHall · 06/02/2023 17:32

MillicentTrilbyHiggins · 06/02/2023 17:08

Some of the people I follow on Instagram are constantly sharing stories about how awful Harry Styles is for appropriating "queer culture" despite not being queer.

Personally I love him. A man wearing a dress without claiming he's a woman. Fab. plus he's hot

I agree. I love him too. Did these people never see Bowie ? Or Marc Bolan? Mick Jagger ? Grace Jones ? Annie Lennox ?

bringmethehorizontal · 06/02/2023 17:31

Styles always looks like he badly needs a bath.

And the less said about Smith... well, the more he'll hate it, I suppose.

JustStopOilyPoshKids · 06/02/2023 17:29

NicolaSturgeonsSOGIbottom · 06/02/2023 17:25

And they are all appropriating 90s/2000s stuff and attempting to apply ‘Queer’ social rules on top.

The punk sub Reddit is basically stuck in a never ending loop where teenagers make declarations about this thing or that thing not being punk and older millennials and gen Xers trying to point out that making rules about what is and isn’t punk isn’t punk.

Also, the young ‘uns want to posthumously cancel GG Allin.

Arf @ cancel GG Allin. I guess he'd need a pretty big trigger warning!

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NicolaSturgeonsSOGIbottom · 06/02/2023 17:25

And they are all appropriating 90s/2000s stuff and attempting to apply ‘Queer’ social rules on top.

The punk sub Reddit is basically stuck in a never ending loop where teenagers make declarations about this thing or that thing not being punk and older millennials and gen Xers trying to point out that making rules about what is and isn’t punk isn’t punk.

Also, the young ‘uns want to posthumously cancel GG Allin.

JustStopOilyPoshKids · 06/02/2023 17:23

NicolaSturgeonsSOGIbottom · 06/02/2023 17:16

Do you think they would have gone after Bowie for being too heteronormative?

I came across the word ‘homonormative’ for the first time the other day.

YES! Now for sure. Obviously being a trailblazer, art schooly and having Genet references has cemented Bowie as worthy in queer folklore. But he would never get away with being a basic he/him pop icon and not wanting to talk about his sexuality now

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nauticant · 06/02/2023 17:21

I thought about appropriation early with the news from the Grammy Awards:

www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-11717613/Beyonc-slammed-dedicating-Grammys-win-queer-community-Dubai-gig.html

JustStopOilyPoshKids · 06/02/2023 17:18

It's awash with in groups/ out groups. There's the normals/mainstream/ cishet and there's queer. Which is some marginalised, oppositional group. But by the logic of self ID why is HS not living their own authentic truth, rejecting the cisheteronormative hegemony?! What's lacking in his performance? Slogans? Hair dye?

Or is it that he's already had a successful, mainstream career?

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NicolaSturgeonsSOGIbottom · 06/02/2023 17:16

Do you think they would have gone after Bowie for being too heteronormative?

I came across the word ‘homonormative’ for the first time the other day.

MillicentTrilbyHiggins · 06/02/2023 17:08

Some of the people I follow on Instagram are constantly sharing stories about how awful Harry Styles is for appropriating "queer culture" despite not being queer.

Personally I love him. A man wearing a dress without claiming he's a woman. Fab. plus he's hot

NicolaSturgeonsSOGIbottom · 06/02/2023 17:02

Non binary and gender fluid young uns and the ever-shifting sands of what is and isn’t socially acceptable is going to cause all
sorts of bother within the progressive, intersectional stack.
The tradtrans crowd aren’t going to be spared and they certainly can’t keep up - I just found this,
RMW misgendering Sam Smith on Twitter:

Poor Sam Smith.
They’re/They’re Sam Smith.

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