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What's the opposite of peaking

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yubgummy · 28/01/2023 10:06

I "peaked" a couple of years ago. It was wonderful in some ways to feel like I'd seen the light, that I was finally able to speak reality, etc. But it was also an emotional time - full of anger, despair, feeling lied to, losing friends, you all know the drill.

A close friend is now going through that and it made me realise that I've actually "gone back down the other side of the mountain". It's not that I've gone back to gender ideology, it's just that I've (re-)absorbed sexed reality back into my worldview and now I'm just calmly living my life. My friends know my views, I feel confident in my own perceptions of reality and don't feel a need to align them to anyone in particular. I just generally feel centred and grounded.

Anyone else go through something similar?

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OvaHere · 28/01/2023 14:34

I think what you're referring to is fatigue.

It's easier in a sense now than it was 5 years ago because there are so many people speaking out and tackling various aspects of of the fightback. I feel more able now to take a break from it all when needed.

Anactor · 28/01/2023 14:31

Youdoyoubabe · 28/01/2023 14:23

Just actually read the post. This is so confusing in what context is the peaking?

Also what is wrong with mixed sex toilets?

There’s currently a five page thread on this.
www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/4730017-to-think-mixed-sex-toilet-provision-has-proven-to-be-a-flop

Maybe ask on there?

ExiledElsie · 28/01/2023 14:29

I couldn't sustain the emotional intensity of my early reactions to all of this. I was wrung out and stepped back for a bit.

I can't not sustain the fury. There's loads of awful things in the world and in this country, so plenty of other things that could be campaigned against. But for me, it's just unconscionable that truth about sex is being ignored in schools, sports, the courts etc etc.

I don't think any other social change has been done with so little debate or support.

Youdoyoubabe · 28/01/2023 14:23

Just actually read the post. This is so confusing in what context is the peaking?

Also what is wrong with mixed sex toilets?

Youdoyoubabe · 28/01/2023 14:19

Plunging.

HiccupHorrendousHaddock · 28/01/2023 14:17

I think once you realise the sheer horror of what's happening, it can be a bit overwhelming and all-consuming for a while. It becomes your default topic of focus. It all gets a bit "And another thing..."

After a while, you accept that's the state of affairs, you do what you can to counter it. Dig when asked to, sign petitions and email MPs, got to protests but it ticks along more in the back of your mind than the front.

Is that what you mean, OP?

I couldn't sustain the emotional intensity of my early reactions to all of this. I was wrung out and stepped back for a bit.

HighWindows1 · 28/01/2023 13:58

I find it very difficult to disengage from this issue. Even when I do actively try. It's like I can't remove my nightmare vision x-ray specs because it is everywhere. The propagandising subtexts in books, films, programmes, articles, it's in the news. I go to Tesco and I see professionals buying their dinner with their rainbow lanyards on. My child is still being forced to use mixed sex toilets and the other comes home weekly with tales of yet another drag queen assembly. Everything is infected with this. And the worst part is is that it's the tip of an Iceberg in terms of societal changes that are coming down the line.

Unless I completely stopped consuming any kind of current media and devoted myself solely to a solitary hobby like botany it's inescapable. Though even then I'd still be maddened by having to confront the immutability of sex while occupying a space in time where society as a whole has lost its collective mind.

MorrisZapp · 28/01/2023 13:22

Yip I peaked a few years ago and now I give myself twitter breaks and pretend none of it is happening. I remain a passionate feminist but constant engagement with this issue isn't possible without knock on effects. I come back to it when I feel energised to.

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yubgummy · 28/01/2023 13:13

@Baaaaaa yes, exactly.

To a small extent where there are things in my power to influence that future not coming to pass I do try to nudge it back towards sanity! But I no longer feel it as a crushing force as I did in say 2019/20 when I was first peaking.

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OriginalUsername2 · 28/01/2023 13:06

I’m just discovering “things” this last few years and feeling uneasy.

I’m not sure if I should learn all I can because I don’t want it to become my whole life and the lens I look at the world through. I hate feeling angry.

Its interesting to hear about this “peak” and that you can reach a calmer state after a few years.

Baaaaaa · 28/01/2023 12:55

I get it. Still worried about the possibility of a totaliitarian reality denying future, but the personal, cognitive dissonance I feel has gone.

I am quite clear.

HighWindows1 · 28/01/2023 11:55

I'm not sure I completely follow