There was a newspaper article about teen boys wondering why the girls they were having sex with weren't crying. Because violent porn.

And an Italian study where adolescent boys couldn't maintain an erection with their girlfriends because they were so desensitised by porn that regular sex wasn't arousing enough to even get an erection.

''He seems to be saying that a "normal" man can degrade to psychopathy via progressive loss of conscience.''

I don't think that would hold true for every man; but then I don't think society has ever had such violent porn so easily available.

Ok, listened to the whole thing. He varies from what I've previously heard about psychopathy. My understanding was that it stems from one or the other, or a combination of, genetics and environment. He seems to be saying that a "normal" man can degrade to phycopathy via progressive loss of conscience. It's a new one on me and I've no idea of how true it may be.

Porn - I've heard second-hand anecdotal stuff about girls and young women experiencing disturbing behaviour from boys and men that can only have come from internet porn. A guy I worked with took the precaution of talking to his young son about it and warning him that he would likely see stuff that was a perversion of normal sexual relations with women.

I'm not sure that porn will corrupt everyone who views it. I'm old enough to remember the video nasties panic. I thought then, and do so now, that those who were already predisposed to violence would use it to feed their tendencies but on their own would not corrupt a well-balanced adult.

But then again, the sheer intensity and availability that high speed internet gives may shift the balance point.

I can easily believe that many abusive adults were neglected as children; or that their development was neglected. Many parents seem to think that children just grow up without needing any input. Neglect can affect us as adults as surely as abuse does.
But I think many experts want to believe we are born as emotional blank slates, and I don't. Humans have an inbuilt personality traits that cause a predisposition to perceive events a certain way; so two people can go through the same event and react to it in very different ways. In an ideal society, responsible adults would help us navigate developmental stages in a more mindful way.

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I must admit that the "murmurings of agreement" in the pp's final flounce did amuse me - our low, soft ineffectual women's voices, our inability to handle proper, manly, robust intellectual confrontation. When they show you who they misogynistically are, believe them..

My experience growing up. He was abused as a child and it was his choices after that affected me when I was a child. He didn’t know right from wrong.

I've listened to a bit of it. Two things that jar with me are "men are designed to be chivalrous" and the "good people like us" bit.

I'd have to ask are men - or women - "designed" at all, never mind a late mediaeval code. And my antennae always go up when a person advertises their own goodness.

I'll listen to the rest through my chores but I have nowhere near the knowledge to critically evaluate it but I'll listen.

The victims who speak out know right from wrong it might take them years but they talk. Victims who don’t carry on that cycle of abuse and oppression. Please feel free to correct me if I am wrong.

The abused becoming abusers narrative adds to the stigma of victims and stops them speaking out.

Cute names! Whose, I mean any baby names picked out?

well some people believe we should just accept a man saying they are a woman with no further critical thought..so...?

It was so bizarre, I assumed the poster didn't know what petulant actually meant.

Do people really not understand that if you vehemently tell someone not to watch a podcast because reasons, they are inadvertently adding something to the guy's credibility rather than undermine it?

Ironic really on a thread about psychology.

@beastlyslumber admit it OP your shagging the guy in the recording, your his agent and you are pregnant with his third child

1/10 for the flounce

Must try harder

I mean Robin at least insinuated we were witches.

You mean the parts were I agree with things he said due to my observations from my actual lived experiences?

I mean there wasnt people there doing scientific studies whilst the abuse happened or the photos etc were taken, which have led my to find some of what this guy says to be in the money.

So shucks not much i can do about that especially as this is a discussion thread about his words not a fact finding statistical analysis thread.

and I did actually take you're very useful advice the other day. You said if I didn't like your post to report it. So I did and they deleted ones I hadn't even pointed out to them.

Thanks for the advice it was much appreciated.