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Anybody considering home schooling because of all of this gender fuckery?

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YourVagesty · 26/01/2023 14:24

Disclaimer before we get into it: I am, and always will be an ally to the lesbian and gay communities.

Right, that out of the way... I've got two nieces and a stepdaughter who all think they are trans. Frankly, I'm fed up of every conversation with them leading back to whether they are a demiboy or queer etc. It's relentless. I've told them to forget labels and focus on what makes them a good or inspiring person, and to just fall in love with whoever they fall in love with - when they are old enough obviously. Whatever, I don't care.

I'm over the culty obsession with all of it and if it was any other trend, I'd be unconcerned (teen fads come and go). But obviously, with this one, they are at risk of ending up sterilised or in chronic pain if they get too sucked into it.

As much as I'd hope that this will all pass, part of me thinks this new scientific-unreality is here to stay and frankly, I don't want my toddler to enter a school system that promotes the idea that you can choose to be male or female. I don't need him having anxieties over whether playing with girl toys makes him a girl etc.

I don't want him coached into thinking about things that I find as unbelievable as the existence of Jesus Christ.

I want him to learn life skills and make friends basically. So my mind is ticking over the idea of home schooling and I wondered whether others are feeling this way?

I guess if there are enough parents that feel this way in some geographical areas, that they could start their own mini schools?

Obviously, as he gets older, I'll be careful with his Internet use too because I know the Internet shoulders much of the blame for the social contagion aspect.

If there are any teachers reading, what's your perspective on this? What is happening in the schools from your point of view? I'm from an academic background and I know the universities have gone all in on all of this. Meh.

Sorry for the long post!

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KleineDracheKokosnuss · 26/01/2023 14:55

Me. So I’m looking at a religious school for DD1. Gets good results and doesn’t seem to have been affected by the social contagion yet.

Twizbe · 26/01/2023 14:54

I understand what you're saying.

Tbh we've gone with a CofE school. It's religious enough to tread carefully with the gender woo, but not overly so.

Plus, we celebrate Xmas and Easter so I can't really complain about him learning about Jesus and the role he played in those celebrations.

twelly · 26/01/2023 14:51

I think its all dreadful - what I particularly find offensive is that as soon as you question the whole issue you are labeled as phobic and shut down. I understand that some teachers feel they can't speak up against it and sympathise but it is the teachers who are openly pushing the agenda who infuriate me and there are a number. I think they are totally irresponsible and I am appalled by their behaviour pushing an agenda which is dangerous.

Princesspollyyy · 26/01/2023 14:51

@YourVagesty

It makes me want to say 'Stop world, I want to get off' x

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YourVagesty · 26/01/2023 14:50

@Princesspollyyy

Thats so messed up and I completely sympathise. I'm so sorry you daughter went through that. I'm glad she's doing better in the new school.

My stepdaughter decided she was trans and then lesbian (again, whatevs) and got a girlfriend. For the first time, she had a big group of love-bombing friends. But then she decided she wasn't lesbian after all (and I suspect not trans either although she's pushing full steam ahead with that and now wants chest binders) but she told me that she can't tell her friends because 'they won't be supportive, at all'.

It's madness. She's obsessing now about all of the 'other' genders and sexual identities saying that she needs find something else 'in the flag' that she identifies with.

I think the adults really do need to step in and end this nonsense. Teachers and parents.

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YourVagesty · 26/01/2023 14:43

@Leafstamp

"You are not the only parent considering this OP, but I would be wary of throwing the baby out of the bath water if this is the only reason you're thinking of home schooling."

That's what concerns me, that he'll lose all of the other valuable lessons of being in the classroom (namely social lessons).

I'm relieved to hear others are considering the pros and cons of this - it makes me feel a bit less like an extremist mum 😁

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Princesspollyyy · 26/01/2023 14:41

It's definitely a trend that people seem to be jumping on. I've had enough of it and won't engage in conversation about it with anyone. (In real life obviously, as I'm typing about it now lol).

A girl in my daughters primary decided one day she was trans and had her hair cut short and dressed as a boy. My daughter didn't have a problem with it, but the group of friends then decided someone should be 'transphobic', and that person was my daughter.

I ended up having to take my daughter out of school. Madness. She's in comp now and much happier with a completely different group of friends.

But yes, I'm sick to death of it.

MattDamon · 26/01/2023 14:40

I know someone who's put their kids in a strict religious school to avoid all of this despite not following the religion themselves. The family is very left wing but doesn't support gender ideology.

Leafstamp · 26/01/2023 14:30

You are not the only parent considering this OP, but I would be wary of throwing the baby out of the bath water if this is the only reason you're thinking of home schooling.

Personally, I would just ensure you conduct due diligence on the schools you are thinking of sending your toddler too. Check policies, ask to so PSHE materials, meet with the Head etc and discuss your concerns if needs be.

Got to dash but place marking, will pop back later.