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Question about trans women cycles

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Borris · 23/01/2023 20:34

I have a genuine question

I have a new ish work colleague who I get on well with and enjoy her company. She's a lesbian. Except that her girlfriend is a trans women. That's fine. I'm happy to refer to her by her chosen name and pronouns.

But what confused me is my friend saying more than once that their cycles had synched up and so they had one week a month when they were both super emotional.

Can this be a thing? Do trans women take different hormones at different times of the month? Genuine question, not being goady

Obviously only asking out of sheer nosiness. The first time she mentioned their cycles I didn't know that the partner was a trans woman and so now feel it's too late to ask!

OP posts:
titchy · 23/01/2023 20:52

Maybe OP's friend has horrible PMT and this is a way of their partner to ignore them cos theirs is worse?

MillicentTrilbyHiggins · 23/01/2023 20:51

I thought you were talking about bicycles

Me too!

Original poster
Borris · 23/01/2023 20:51

Thanks for the replies.

Yes she has dated women before but I think doesn't have a long dating history for a 30 year old.

I've realised I've labelled her lesbian but she might be bisexual. But she doesn't mention past men. She just says things like dating women is so much less complicated

OP posts:
titchy · 23/01/2023 20:50

I thought you were talking about bicycles Blush But no. Obviously they can't sync - there's no cycle to sync.

Clymene · 23/01/2023 20:50

No of course not.

dementedpixie · 23/01/2023 20:49

Shes in a straight relationship!

Redebs · 23/01/2023 20:48

The whole synching of cycles is a myth in women, so even more daft to pretend that a man can have a coordinated menstrual cycle!
Also, your friend is in a relationship with a man, so not actually lesbian at the mo.

PriOn1 · 23/01/2023 20:46

My understanding is that most MtF transitioners take daily hormone tablets and therefore don’t have any kind of cycle. I guess if they has monthly injections, there might be some effect, but more likely it’s imitation or psychosomatic.

I’m nosy and would be interested to know if this woman has actually dated any women.

PermanentTemporary · 23/01/2023 20:38

Tbh I don't like colleagues sharing intimate physical/medical details as I think it can go pear shaped in the work environment. I'd just do a bit of 'um hum' and change the subject.

In answer to your question, no, transwomen do not have hormonal cycles.

If you want this person as a friend I'd suggest perhaps she is expressing that their partner has difficult mood swings. The cause doesn't really matter. I'd start from there in terms of empathising.