Just despair - HOW do some women just not get it!

Nicola Sturgeon:

'‘abusive men are the risk to women, not trans women’'

Explicitly denies that Karen White or Katie Dolatowski present a risk to women.

Is she unaware, or lying?

Also Sturgeon:

'I've spent my entire life campaigning for women's rights, and I'm a passionate feminist with lots of evidence behind that'.

Be good to see this evidence.

Many people know trans people and know they are not predatory.

There's a huge amount of pressure on women writers to be 'inclusive'. Holly Bourne would fear losing her career if she questioned twaw. So either she doesn't question it, or she does but she's not going to admit it publically.

I think writers are quite vulnerable to this ideology because they are good with language, believe that language has power, live quite abstracted lives, often in academia or adjacent, often very well off (because it's hard to do well in writing if you have to hold down a full time job at tescos) and also they are all on twitter all day long.

Shona Robison:

“there is no evidence that predatory men have ever had to pretend to be anything else to carry out predatory behaviour"

Is Shona unaware that predatory men have often pretended to be doctors, teachers, priests, policemen, precisely to access victims?

Or is she aware, and lying?

Is she unaware of Karen White, who sexually assaulted women in prison? Or Kate Dolatowski? Or is she lying?

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I knew it was this book before you said the author's name, OP. I really enjoyed it too, but I did clock the bit at the end where the one woman is saying well these days it's all different, you don't even have to be a girl if you don't want to be, and we're so old it's hard for us to even get our heads around that...

I think it's to do with the human impulse to align yourself with whoever you perceive to be the most powerful in society, I think that's one of the driving forces that leads women to unthinkingly defer to men.
Also an unwillingness or inability to reflect on your own views etc

I think it's a combination of being deeply invested in championing the underdog, and guilt stricken over their own (often considerable) privilege. Add a dash of female socialisation (don't be a mean girl!!) and they just fall headfirst into cheerleading for people who they deep down regard as men in need a charitable dose of love from especially superior women.

Sorry OP got distracted by the Andy NGO. Yes, I just cannot fathom it. It makes me feel ill because you can't counter it because it defies all logic or sense of what's good and just. I really, really can't comprehend it. It's like an automatic switch flicks off in their brain that just does not allow them to join the final dot. They have to do that themselves.

I can't believe you would chant the mantra just to avoid losing sales. I wouldn't blame them for not saying anything about it but I guess sometimes they're not given that option. Guilty by ommission of the mantra.

Fucking intolerable situation. I hope we come out the other side soon. I can't countenance much more of this shit.

I meant how does she know Amber Heard is a woman?

How does she n ow Amber Heard is a woman? Has Amber declared her gender identity? Would she be less bothered if Amber were agender?

HelleofaBore thanks for linking to that Andy NGO tweet. That audio was chilling and the scariest thing about it was the sense that the person had that they were completely untouchable. They can make very real threats to organise an attack, threaten to punch women (footage from the recent NYC SFW protest) yet there they are bragging if their Billboard in Times Square, their contract with a huge fashion brand, their catwalk career in NY Fashion Week.

And yet they are the 'most vulnerable' ones, the downtrodden and oppressed. All I could see on show was an aggressive, violent, homophobic (they called Ngo a faggot FGS!), sexist, racist, woman-hater, revelling in their own hormone-induced breasts - behaving in a way that would get a woman instantly arrested. I could see no one trying to calm them or say, 'hang on you can't threaten to punch a woman and fondle your tits while saying you are a 'better' woman than them - that's not good OK?' Nobody seemed to try that probably because they know they would get physically assaulted.

I think the Andy NGO Tweet deserves its own thread Hellofabore.

When it was me, my thinking was along the lines of "trans women are proof that most of what society constructs as Womanhood is just cultural stuff that can equally exist in a male brain. By accepting trans women as valid we detach those constructions from female-hood and thereby weaken their hold on us. Since Trans women suffer just as much under patriarchy as we do, they must be friends to women not a threat. They deserve to be in our spaces for safety and solidarity and so they can raise their voices in support of us."

All that worked in my head. It was when I realised that trans women (or at least the TRA version) not only have no interest in supporting women's fight to be seen outside those constructions but in fact need to priotise the constructions as the reality of womanhood in order to justify their claim to womanhood, and want to actively suppress any recognition or social discussion about how "women-only" provisions were entirely shaped by the experience of and the needs that aise from being physically female, that I realised how wrong I'd been.

I agree with this, but then I think if we all stood up and said something, there would be enough of us to create a tipping point. But unfortunately the backlash would be some sort of cultural civil war or something. It's such a mess.

I also want to say, that if that was posted here on Mumsnet, with long form answers, that person would have got many more detailed answers that would have shown what a misogynistic route that they took to hand wave away the replies.

For instance:

“That is not, however, and issue isolated to the trans community. Most violence against women is conducted by hetero CIS men; usually romantic partners.”

Had absolutely no evidence apart from this person's say so. And we know very well that children use toilets by themselves and so, this splicing off the issue ignores that it is woman AND children who are in danger in toilets and changing rooms. And we have prison statistics that show the rates of crime.

But of course, this person has blocked replies now and I would think would ignore anything posted unless it was a 'personally experienced' situation.

Thus ignoring that many victims are not about to post their experiences on social media so this person can then claim some false 'win'.

It is just like the ridiculous calls that the studies showing that testosterone blocking does not remove male advantage are false evidence because the males were not 'athletes'.... eerrrr... logically what difference do these people making this claim think will make. They honestly think a trained male reducing testosterone will have a better outcome that will magically reduce the advantages....

I also wonder this. particularly in the case of several high profile female (the old fashoned kind of female) politicians who campaign around issues of VAWG and yet are fully TWAW. It baffles me. Lying or thick as a pp said. But it has to be lies surely?

In terms of TWAW types in my real life. Well one has an extraordinarily troubled teen who has now decided they are trans, and that this is going to solve all their problems. My friend of course wants to support her child unconditionally and so is going full on TWAW and has entered into alot of local activism. Another is my aunt who frankly jumps onto any bandwagon or cause going. Personally I think it is because she has a fairly shaky sense of self and is still looking for who she is. She uses causes as a coat hanger to hang her identiy on. Trans is the cause of the moment so she is right in there, shouting loudly.

Thing is - If people believe they are trans then good luck to them and I hope they find peace and joy in their lives. I don't care what people wear, how they want to identify. My issue is with some predatory males (trans or not) cynically and gleefully using loopholes to gain access to vulnerable people- usually women and girls. I have spent a large portion of my professional life working with sex offenders. They are to a person manipulative. They will use anything available to them to gain access to vulnerable victims. I'm not at all sure why it is apparently so wrong to say that and saying that makes me a bigot in the eyes of some who really ought to know better.

I think they do get it.

I also think that they think that if they do as they are told. If they are " nice " enough. If they are " kind " enough and if they do everything that is asked of them that they will be afforded extra protection somehow.

What they dont realise however is that they are one punctuation mistake away from being the victim of the next pile on.

And these males you have bent over backwards to keep happy and keep on side will be no where to be seen when you are in a mixed sex hospital ward with a half naked drunk aggressive man.wandering the halls.

They will.be discarded as soon as they are no longer useful.

It's so frustrating how 'TW are in danger in prison' is used as an excuse to put them in with women.
Prison is one place where it's very easy to segregate, all sorts of high risk prisoners are kept apart - TW can be protected from the general population if they are in danger.

And what the fuck is 'cis women rape other cis women' - eh, when and where? I mean, I'm sure you could find a handful of cases, but it's incredibly rare. I can't believe it's used as some sort of gotcha.

When a woman bared her abuse and assault (she was a victim of trafficking) etc, this person turned it around to ‘so you think of TW as always men, regardless of how they pass’.

Yes, I do. Because that's what they are.

Yes, sure. Fear can keep women quiet. Fine, I can fully understand that.

But to actively push males over women? That's something else.

It’s always highly educated super right on very privileged women. It’s epically disappointing. All my “normal” friends /everyday women that don’t pontificate about right on matters see the issue after about a minute but this group go full on “most oppressed group ever”.

Do not underestimate the role of the guardian and the BBC in keeping liberal women (and men) in the dark on this topic. Their narrative that trans rights is the next LGB rights has been very very successful.

When trying to illustrate the problem to friends, i have to point to such random and obscure journalistic sources.

Guardian & BBC simply cannot report 'another sex offender transferred to women's prison ' it breaks the paradigm. Intelligent liberal women are often conditioned not to click on a link to the daily mail so you end up on an advertisement riddled local news site.

As for the fetishists & abuse, there's evidence galore on the internet but trying to find some credible and balanced reporting & stats is hard.

If only organisations like the Fawcett Society would do their fucking job and commission a wide ranging report on the online & offline abuse received by prominent and non prominent GC women, with profiles of the male abusers we'd start to get somewhere.

I was catching up on Twitter this morning and I saw this tweet:

‘There's one question I'd like to ask of TERFs and trabsphobes, and to keep asking until they give an honest answer:’

‘How does it affect you? How does someone else expressing their identity actually affect your life in such a way as to warrant such a strong response?’

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what a mind fuck.

So for many reasoned and balanced but non-personal replies, these person replied “How has that affected your life?”

When women replied with personal accounts of incidences, this person replied with (paraphrased): ‘sorry that you experienced that however, is this an issue of (x) or trans people existing.’

where (x) was described as a general societal issue.

An example was this reply:
”I completely agree. Let's do everything we can to end violence against women.”

“That is not, however, and issue isolated to the trans community. Most violence against women is conducted by hetero CIS men; usually romantic partners.”

“How do trans people actually affect you?”

Just about every time.

When a woman bared her abuse and assault (she was a victim of trafficking) etc, this person turned it around to ‘so you think of TW as always men, regardless of how they pass’.

I couldn’t work out whether this person got off on reading on reading about women’s pain and harm or was simply a misogynist who refused to see the implications of whatever it was they were trying to argue, but all they were doing was hand waving away harms and victim blaming women for their visceral reaction to males after abuse.

It's fear that stops women speaking up. Fear of being isolated is the minimum that women are afraid of.
We had some Transgender Day of Remembrance bullshit on our office intranet with gushing Shona Faye recommendations. All the comments on it were more gushing nonsense. I know for a fact there has been a civil war in our women's group over this stuff. Which means that female employees, including me, are too fearful to call this nonsense out in public. For fear of the social and possibly career consequences.

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Yes, it's the same logic, as paraphrased by this tweeter.

I agree, OP. For a long time, I could have explained it by people not being aware of the issues.

It's now 2022, anyone in the UK has been 'aware' of the issues for a couple of years. So yes, I've far less patience now if someone doesn't acknowledge that women are at risk due to gender being prioritised over sex.

Because what that actually means is that men's feelings are prioritised over women's needs. It's clear as day.

The Scottish Government have brought us Katie Dolatowski in a woman's prison. A violent sexual predator. In a woman's prison.

That is where we are. I'd like to see ANYONE justify that situation.