Sorry this is going to be long.
I’m very GC in that biology cannot be denied and that you cannot change sex by wishing it or even having medical treatment.
i don’t often put my head above the parapet but I have on occasion when I felt I had to, but it’s not an issue I think about on a daily basis.
I’m getting older and was a young adult at college in the 80’s when men wore “womens” clothes and vice versa and no one cared who you slept with. I knew people who cross-dressed ( as it was called then) and again no one cared. I had gay friends and still do in fact so I don’t think I am some sort of bigoted dinosaur who needs to move with the times, maybe I’m deluding myself?
Now my dilemma is my son in his 30’s has said to me that he wants to transition to a woman and he has been thinking seriously about it for about a year. Years ago he told us he was gay, okay not a surprise , then he said he was pan sexual so interested in the person not their sex, fine not an issue even though he wasn’t actually having any relationships, then he had a trans m t f partner who he met online. We were supportive used her name and female pronouns and were welcoming and saw them regularly as a couple. She knew I was GC so we didn’t really address the issue, but I remember saying to my son that it was easier for us to accept her, rather than her family, they are somewhat estranged.
My son and his partner have split up now.
I worry I am going to lose my son over this ( he has not asked us as yet to use a female name or pronoun).
i don’t believe that he does actually want to be a woman he has a history of mental health issues and has neglected a physical problem to the point he is almost disabled by it. He lives his life on-line playing fantasy games, works from home and has no actual interaction with people apart from us. He in no way tries to look feminine and would definitely attract looks if he wore a dress or similar. He’s going to want our support with this how can I say to him that I will never think of him as a woman, even if we use his chosen name and pronoun. Of course his on-line friends tell him he’s brave and cute.