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is our aim protecting our sex based rights or is the issue our political leanings?

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vivariumvivariumsvivaria · 25/09/2022 15:03

I've been confused by the falling out on social media by some women against other women and have been following the discussions online.

I am not very well informed politically - I think my opinion is that the important thing is ensuring that sex remains a protected characteristic and that "woman" means adult human female and not gender so that our rights to safety, privacy and dignity are protected in law and safeguarding follows that.

However, I can understand that it is difficult for left wing women to collaborate with women who are right wing, or for working class women to link with middle class or upper class women, because their politics and priorities are varied.

I think it is a strength that there are different approaches and different women speaking up because we desperately need to raise awareness because the majority of women are unaware of the threat to our sex based rights. That means we need a variety of voices, and everyone, as far as I can see, wants the same thing - our sex based rights and protections for children.

Maybe I'm being simplistic to think that "play nicely" will prevail. I hope so, though, because what I am watching looks like a big waste of energy and goodness knows this stuff is exhausting enough.

What can an ordinary woman like me who doesn't have a youtube or a book or a column do to try and help move things along? I'm worried we will land up with a GC purity spiral and nothing good will come of it.

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antelopevalley · 26/09/2022 01:51

The issue is that actual fascists were at the Standing for Women talk and none of the supporters seems to have an issue with that.

TooBigForMyBoots · 26/09/2022 01:27

FlowersBloomInAutumn · 26/09/2022 01:22

Making misogyny a hate crime would do nothing at all to help women, since currently, rape and sexual assault are effectively decriminalised.

Decriminalised under who @FlowersBloomInAutumn? The Conservatives have been in power for 12 years. The Conservatives have been in power for most of British democratic history.

Making misogyny a Hate Crime would increase the chance of conviction against misogynists. It would also increase the sentences given to men who abuse women. But the Tory party said "No".

TooBigForMyBoots · 26/09/2022 01:22

And they were fine with putting a minister in the Despatch Box to say TWAW and TMAM in response to commonsensical amendments to the Maternity Bill, Maternity Bill getting rid of gender woo.

FlowersBloomInAutumn · 26/09/2022 01:22

Making misogyny a hate crime would do nothing at all to help women, since currently, rape and sexual assault are effectively decriminalised.

TooBigForMyBoots · 26/09/2022 01:18

You are right @vivariumvivariumsvivaria, those women were murdered because of their sex. The Conservative government refused to make misogyny a Hate Crime. But they were fine with proposing Self ID.

RhannionKPSS · 26/09/2022 01:17

vivariumvivariumsvivaria · 26/09/2022 01:06

I'm confident that Jess has absolute understanding of male violence against women - she used to work to support vulnerable women. She's smart and, I think, trying to fence sit whilst pushing the point that female women die in droves, and other (unpunctuated) women do not.

It's not just the government who does nothing about these dead women. It's all political parties, the justice system, society, and me. We are used to it. Their deaths are not news.

You are right, their deaths are all gruesome, but I said very gruesome. Maybe particularly or newsorthy would have been a better. If it was so horrific that Netflix made a drama of it then we might know her name, but, for most of those women - we have no idea who they were or why they died or whether there was justice.

The point, I think, is that they died because of their sex. Therefore we need to define sex. Therefore I need someone with power or influence to say that we need to define sex because the protections that failed those women rest on sex.

And that's not what that left wing MP, Jess Philips, is doing. I respect Jess, honestly. But, she's not saying it. Her reading of the list of names is powerful, it is important, but her point is oblique and it is, as you point out, ineffective.

Next year she will have yet another long list to read, and I'm sure it is hard for her and that she needs to have a cry and a glass of wine after it, and that for the people who have lost those women it will be an important thing to have them named...but I'm SLSO sure they'd also like to hear about funding for refuges which are single sex, or Jane Monckton Smith is getting a heap of cash and a huge initiative, or that labour is holding the government to account for the failures that lead to these women's deaths.

So, again, I am grateful to any woman, regardless of her politics taking all the risk and saying publicly, usually at great personal cost - that sex matters because being female means being disproportionately likely to be killed by a violent male person.

If Jess Philips said that I'd go back to labour in a flash. If she stood up for Rosie Duffield, I'd have hope. As it is, despite my respect for her, despite my bleeding liberal heart, nope. Not a fucking chance.

I’m saving my sympathy for the families of the women & children who were murdered not Jess Philips, a politician who can’t even be bothered to who actually do something by speaking out about the rights of women, girls and children. She is a disgrace.

FlowersBloomInAutumn · 26/09/2022 01:16

Jess Philips seems to have splinters in her arse from all the fence-sitting.

This is why i regard her "dead women" list reading each year in the House of Commons as purely virtue-signalling performative stuff on her own behalf. She does fuck-all useful to defend living women and children.

TheLassWiADelicateAir · 26/09/2022 01:07

TooBigForMyBoots · 26/09/2022 01:01

In the sense that Conservative PM Theresa May announced it as policy.

And where are the legislative changes? And you can't surely deny there are plenty on the Conservative side now querying this policy - and perhaps more importantly not being stifled by their party from querying it.

vivariumvivariumsvivaria · 26/09/2022 01:06

TooBigForMyBoots · 26/09/2022 00:19

They all died in a very gruesome way @vivariumvivariumsvivaria. Your "problem" is one that is addressed annually by a Left wing woman who stands in the House of Commons and reads out the names of women murdered by domestic violence to an almost empty Chamber so that their names are recorded in perpetuity by Hansard. And while you don't know about them, the Government does, yet does nothing.

I'm confident that Jess has absolute understanding of male violence against women - she used to work to support vulnerable women. She's smart and, I think, trying to fence sit whilst pushing the point that female women die in droves, and other (unpunctuated) women do not.

It's not just the government who does nothing about these dead women. It's all political parties, the justice system, society, and me. We are used to it. Their deaths are not news.

You are right, their deaths are all gruesome, but I said very gruesome. Maybe particularly or newsorthy would have been a better. If it was so horrific that Netflix made a drama of it then we might know her name, but, for most of those women - we have no idea who they were or why they died or whether there was justice.

The point, I think, is that they died because of their sex. Therefore we need to define sex. Therefore I need someone with power or influence to say that we need to define sex because the protections that failed those women rest on sex.

And that's not what that left wing MP, Jess Philips, is doing. I respect Jess, honestly. But, she's not saying it. Her reading of the list of names is powerful, it is important, but her point is oblique and it is, as you point out, ineffective.

Next year she will have yet another long list to read, and I'm sure it is hard for her and that she needs to have a cry and a glass of wine after it, and that for the people who have lost those women it will be an important thing to have them named...but I'm SLSO sure they'd also like to hear about funding for refuges which are single sex, or Jane Monckton Smith is getting a heap of cash and a huge initiative, or that labour is holding the government to account for the failures that lead to these women's deaths.

So, again, I am grateful to any woman, regardless of her politics taking all the risk and saying publicly, usually at great personal cost - that sex matters because being female means being disproportionately likely to be killed by a violent male person.

If Jess Philips said that I'd go back to labour in a flash. If she stood up for Rosie Duffield, I'd have hope. As it is, despite my respect for her, despite my bleeding liberal heart, nope. Not a fucking chance.

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TheLassWiADelicateAir · 26/09/2022 01:05

Thelnebriati · 25/09/2022 20:11

Abortion is just one reason why my political leanings still matter to me.
Self ID has worked out so badly for women in places where its been adopted, I can never support it, but I'll never vote Tory either. They introduced the idea in the first place!

In all the decades the Conservatives have been in power the only major changes to the 1967 Act were the reduction of the "on demand" time limit from 28 weeks to 24 weeks and permitting the permanent use of telemedicine consulting in the early weeks. Given the improved outcomes for premature babies 28 weeks became untenable.

It's scaremongering to claim abortion rights are at risk under a Tory government.

TooBigForMyBoots · 26/09/2022 01:01

TheLassWiADelicateAir · 26/09/2022 00:57

In what sense has it been made a policy? It was an issue which merited consideration- other countries have done so.

Has any legislation followed from it?

In the sense that Conservative PM Theresa May announced it as policy.

grannyjacob · 26/09/2022 01:00

A short tweet from Baroness Nicholson.
Did I read somewhere she’d invited Sarah Ditum to tea or was that a dream? (I’ve got a viral infection (not COVID), have been a bit out of it with rigor/febrile dreams the last couple of days).

twitter.com/baroness_nichol/status/1573885116623069184?s=21&t=243Cr1n6Xb7GaqScnwE00g

TooBigForMyBoots · 26/09/2022 00:59

Did she say that Jess phillips was one of those who did not support her? I've had a google but not coming up with anything.

RhannionKPSS · 26/09/2022 00:57

And I know this because I asked both of them. Why don’t you ask them yourself?

TheLassWiADelicateAir · 26/09/2022 00:57

TooBigForMyBoots · 25/09/2022 22:36

Self ID was not dreamt up by Civil Servants. It was put together by a cross parliamentary group headed by Caroline Nokes, Conservative MP. It was then made policy by Conservative PM Theresa May.

What's with the minimisation of the Tory party role in this?

In what sense has it been made a policy? It was an issue which merited consideration- other countries have done so.

Has any legislation followed from it?

RhannionKPSS · 26/09/2022 00:54

Jo Cherry has said that she hasn’t received any support from any of her direct colleagues at Westminster including Blackford & Black, and her “ leader “ Sturgeon but has received support from many, many other Westminster colleagues. Jess Philips was not one of those, same with Rosie Duffield, crickets from Philips...

TooBigForMyBoots · 26/09/2022 00:48

Have Rosie Duffield or Jo Cherry talked about Jess Phillips and her lack of support? What did they say?

FlowersBloomInAutumn · 26/09/2022 00:40

Just catching up with thread. As KPSS said upthread:

"Jess Philips hasn’t said a word of support to Rosie Duffield, Jo Cherry or to any of her colleagues who have had murder & rape threats or to any women’s groups who are fighting back. She should be ashamed of herself."

I do get the feeling a few years now that her, Jess Phillips, reading dead women's names does seem performative, when she fails to stand for living women's rights.

TheLassWiADelicateAir · 26/09/2022 00:35

Discovereads · 25/09/2022 20:07

Interesting point about the Tories using this as a vote winner - you are right, I've never voted Tory yet, but if no other party steps up and says what a woman is then I think I probably will.

But is this your priority? You do know voting Tory may get you a sacrosanct womens loo, but it may also get you erosion of abortion rights. Which is some thing I don’t think any woman past childbearing age should have a right to sacrifice.

“Nadine Dorries’ call for the time limit for abortions to be reduced by four weeks has provoked outrage among health care professionals. The culture secretary argued the legal cut-off point for pregnancy terminations in the UK - which is 24 weeks - should be reduced by a month.” 8 July 2022
www.independent.co.uk/news/uk/politics/nadine-dorries-abortion-time-limit-b2118180.html

See starting p31 an amendment in the House of Commons, right now….
publications.parliament.uk/pa/bills/cbill/58-02/0183/amend/health_rm_rep_1118.pdf

”Reduction in upper gestation limit for abortion to 22 weeks’ gestation”
Ban on “Termination of pregnancy on the grounds of the sex of the foetus”

Sponsored by….
Fiona Bruce- Conservative
Carla Lockhart- DUP
Miriam Cates- Conservative
Chris Green- Conservative
Scott Benton- Conservative
Sir Edward Leigh- Conservative
Sir Desmond Swayne- Conservative
Jim Shannon- DUP
Sir John Hayes- Conservative
Ian Paisley- DUP

www.legislation.gov.uk/ukpga/2022/31/contents/enacted

Here is the enacted Bill. I can't find any trace of those amendments.

It's late and maybe I'm missing something but the only reference to abortion is section 178 which amends the 1967 Act to permit telemedication- so actually extends abortion rights.

The Bill was enacted in April 2022. The Independent article is referring to statements made by Ms Dorries, not ongoing legislation- she's been making such statements for many years to no effect. She has also made it clear that it's the time limit which concerns her- not the right to abortion.

The 1967 Act has had only 1 major revisal - the reduction of the effectively "on demand" time limit from 28 weeks to 24 weeks in November 1990; there is still no upper limit for exceptional threat to women's life cases.

The Tories have had decades of large majorities and have done nothing to restrict abortion rights other than reduce the limit from 28 weeks to 24. Improvements in caring for premature babies made 28 weeks untenable.

Even at 24 weeks the UK is an outlier with one of the longest time limits in the world- most of Europe, including the EU, are around half of that.

FlowersBloomInAutumn · 26/09/2022 00:31

Because of women's rights issues, it's been about 7 years now since I last voted for any political party in any election - local or national.

Each time, I've made the effort to go to my local polling station, and then spoiled my ballot with paper with "Women don't have penises" or similar.

It's not a party political issue. It's a life issue. Either you think women are human, or you don't.

I shan't vote for any party, until any party starts really and genuinely accepting and accommodating women's rights, and safeguarding children against those who seek to harm them. And I shall applaud any woman who stands up for the rights of women and children.

TooBigForMyBoots · 26/09/2022 00:27

RhannionKPSS · 26/09/2022 00:25

And it’s not just victims of domestic violence, it’s women & girls who were murdered by strangers as well.

Thanks for clarifying that.SmileThanks

Ofcourseshecan · 26/09/2022 00:27

ArabellaScott · 25/09/2022 16:01

Dissent is good, dissent is healthy.

I imagine it can be hugely unpleasant for those embroiled in it, but I think a good ding-dong every now and again can clear the air, help us thrash out various points and hopefully, move on stronger and with more nuanced understanding.

Any movement (and whatever the movement to protect sex-based rights is, it's loose as a herd of cats) that does NOT have dissent, disagreement, arguments, fights and factions is prone to purity spirals, cultish behaviour - and probably sudden collapse.

Honestly, I think it's fine. We're making great headway, with every court case and JR, and newspaper article. The sunlight is flooding in and even North America is catching up. It's inevitable that things shift, change and move on as the surrounding conditions change. We're all adults; we can talk about it and move on, I think.

Also, to resist genderism has had great personal cost for most of the women involved in current ructions. Every one of them has my respect and admiration, even when I've disagreed with them on various points, even when they've said things that were downright horrible. I can't imagine how much its taken to speak up and receive threats and abuse over an extended period of time.

Personally, I owe all of these women a debt. They've raised the consciousness of the nation and done amazing things.

Onwards!

You are absolutely right. What I have loved about feminism, over the past 50 years or so, is that women can contradict, dislike, dispute, oppose and have colossal arguments on crucial principles or tactics. Yet still work together towards the essential shared goals.

(Obviously I mean feminists, women who centre women. I’ve never understood why women who prioritise men over women would call themselves “feminist” — it’s not as if it’s fashionable.)

RhannionKPSS · 26/09/2022 00:25

And it’s not just victims of domestic violence, it’s women & girls who were murdered by strangers as well.

RhannionKPSS · 26/09/2022 00:21

TooBigForMyBoots · 26/09/2022 00:00

Every year a Labour MP, Jess Philips(?) reads out the names of the women who have been murdered by domestic violence that year so they are documented by the government and are not forgotten or nameless.

Jess Philips reads out the names of all the women & girls murdered in the UK using the information supplied by Karen Ingala Smith from Counting Dead Women.

Jess Philips hasn’t said a word of support to Rosie Duffield, Jo Cherry or to any of her colleagues who have had murder & rape threats or to any women’s groups who are fighting back. She should be ashamed of herself.

TooBigForMyBoots · 26/09/2022 00:19

They all died in a very gruesome way @vivariumvivariumsvivaria. Your "problem" is one that is addressed annually by a Left wing woman who stands in the House of Commons and reads out the names of women murdered by domestic violence to an almost empty Chamber so that their names are recorded in perpetuity by Hansard. And while you don't know about them, the Government does, yet does nothing.

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