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The spell is breaking......daughters finally waking up?

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BoredofthisCrap7 · 05/09/2022 10:34

I have slowly and gently been countering the trans ideology that my two teenage girls have been exposed to at school and social media.
One has always been very gender critical and we have been discussing things in the news like men in women's sports, the many (many) kids identifying as "trans" in her year at school, her own registration teacher (whose child is a trans male to female) basically indoctrinating her group on trans "rights", the law in Scotland where we live etc.

My oldest girls however, was VERY much TWAW, be kind, the whole hog. She has a gay BF and I think she was confusing the issues in her mind. We have had a lot of VERY tense conversations but I hoped she would come to her own conclusions in time.
Yesterday we had a breakthrough.
We were discussing (again) women's sports and the rugby issue, the golfing/snooker issue in the news. She finally admitted that biology is important in sport, that she thinks there should be categories for trans athletes (I will work on this!) and EVEN wondered OUT LOUD that bathrooms and sex segregated spaces should include third spaces for trans people.

It was a massive admission for her.
I did then explain to her that what she just said would get her "cancelled" as a terf, that these solutions have ALL been suggested and that they are never good enough for the TRAs, that they want #no debate, unquestioning acceptance that TWAW, across the board access to women's spaces etc.

She said....."it's not fair Mum is it?".

I could cry.

I think the spell is breaking.

Have you broke through with any TWAW children or relatives?

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Doingprettywellthanks · 19/09/2022 14:30

@Hearach15 do you have children?

Doingprettywellthanks · 19/09/2022 14:26

Norma27 · 19/09/2022 14:19

Same for me @Doingprettywellthanks. Other local schools and kids are captured though unfortunately. It’s the main reason I’m pleased my eldest stayed at school for A levels. Luckily she believes in biological reality. She knows men are not and can never be women, as does my youngest too.

And the great thing is… mine know that and beyond that - give it no thought! Too busy playing sport, studying and eating me out of house and home!

Norma27 · 19/09/2022 14:19

Same for me @Doingprettywellthanks. Other local schools and kids are captured though unfortunately. It’s the main reason I’m pleased my eldest stayed at school for A levels. Luckily she believes in biological reality. She knows men are not and can never be women, as does my youngest too.

Doingprettywellthanks · 18/09/2022 15:31

I LOVE fact my teens attend a school where this has been largely ignored.

I’ve had one conversation with them, 2 mins, we wondered how many transgender people there actually were in the world

My only concern about the entire daft scenario is how many teens will be caught up in this nonsense and the constant encouragement for introspection and questioning.

in my experience - it is more prevalent in the state school system than private

RufusthefIoraImissingreindeer · 08/09/2022 07:58

comfortablyfrumpy · 07/09/2022 21:58

Good for them to go by hearsay, and hate founded on hype?

I do despair.

What do you expect from someone who freely admits to being brainwashed on this subject

Helleofabore · 08/09/2022 07:32

Sorry Bored. That is, of course, a question for Hearache to be clear.

Hearache is hypocritical when it comes to the purity expectations of who gives support to whom, it seems. They admitted they had not read Peter Tatchell’s opinions but still seem to support him and don’t care what he has expressed. And they know what Nancy Kelley and Jane Fae have said, we have told Hearache.

Helleofabore · 08/09/2022 07:13

Hearach15 · 07/09/2022 22:02

It's not hearsay to read what she writes about trans people and conclude it's neither clever or pleasant.

This is the woman she lauded in her essay on trans people. What deeply unpleasant company she keeps.

Oh is this when you finally answer then whether you agree with 100% of what Stonewall representatives Peter Tatchell, Nancy Kelley and Jane Fae have said in their lifetimes?

This question has proven so difficult for you to answer you have now avoided it on three threads and it has been asked about 12 times.

yes or no?

BoredofthisCrap7 · 08/09/2022 00:04

These are the lovely people YOU are siding with Hearach.
Unpleasant company?

Hilarious.
The unpleasantness, threats, violence and intimidation all come from one side, that's for sure.

The spell is breaking......daughters finally waking up?
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Waitwhat23 · 07/09/2022 23:11

Hearach15 · 07/09/2022 22:02

It's not hearsay to read what she writes about trans people and conclude it's neither clever or pleasant.

This is the woman she lauded in her essay on trans people. What deeply unpleasant company she keeps.

For those lurkers or otherwise who may not have seen it, here is JKR's essay. The actual essay, rather than various interpretations which seem to be relied upon by those who espouse that JKR is transphobic -

www.jkrowling.com/opinions/j-k-rowling-writes-about-her-reasons-for-speaking-out-on-sex-and-gender-issues/

Reading the essay is what peaked me. I had heard the furore and thought 'that's a shame, I liked JKR', actually read her measured, compassionate essay and realised that if simply explaining that women need single sex spaces for their dignity and safety was considered 'transphobic', then there was no rationality or compassion behind those who determinedly push gender ideology.

And here is what she said about Magdalene Burns -

'Months later, I compounded my accidental ‘like’ crime by following Magdalen Berns on Twitter. Magdalen was an immensely brave young feminist and lesbian who was dying of an aggressive brain tumour. I followed her because I wanted to contact her directly, which I succeeded in doing. However, as Magdalen was a great believer in the importance of biological sex, and didn’t believe lesbians should be called bigots for not dating trans women with penises, dots were joined in the heads of twitter trans activists, and the level of social media abuse increased.'

Incidently, after Magdalen's tragically early death, TRA's posted truly awful things about dancing on her grave. Any point to make there, Hearache, about 'deeply unpleasant company'?

Helleofabore · 07/09/2022 23:01

Oh well… with Hearache, I think we all called bingo threads ago.

I ceased to post for their benefit threads ago too. Pointing out the tactics being used and pushing back on the dishonesty helps calm dissonance.

BoredofthisCrap7 · 07/09/2022 22:56

No, they're just marking their bingo card with

"what about DSDeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeees"...

We've already had:
DSDs
Women without uteruses
What about trans men and butch lesbians?
Transwomen share biology with "cis" women

How many do I need for a full house?

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Helleofabore · 07/09/2022 22:42

Hearach15 · 07/09/2022 21:47

"Please stop utilising people's medical conditions to leverage males into the definition of 'women'. It is offensive."

Denying that a woman is a woman because she has no uterus (whether that is because she is transgender or has Mayer-Rokitansky-Küster-Hauser syndrome) is offensive.

Blimey! You are really reaching tonight.

Mayer Rokitansky Küster Hauser syndrome is a female health condition. No males have it.

From your link.

People with MRKH syndrome have a female chromosome pattern (46,XX) and normally functioning ovaries

As I posted, it is the body formed around the ability to produce large gametes that means a body is categorised as female. This means a body formed around having ovaries, whether those ovaries have ever been producing large gametes, are producing or will ever produce large gametes.

The word woman is defined as Adult human female and no males are women. Males who identify as women are transwomen or transitioned males.

Females with MRKH syndrome are women. And not one person on this thread has denied they are women.

You can resort to your usual twisting of words to suit whatever your purpose here is. But stating anyone was denying females with MRKH syndrome are women would be straight out dishonesty.

Are you saying someone was denying that females with MRKH syndrome are women?

MsRosley · 07/09/2022 22:37

comfortablyfrumpy · 07/09/2022 18:56

Mine have swallowed it all hook line abd sinker unfortunately.

Younger one just informed me the new PM is no good because she says a TW is not a woman.

I explained very carefully why she might say that, sex is not immutable etc. Daughter now thinks I am the world's worst TERF :)

Hold your ground, @comfortablyfrumpy - she'll be taking in more than she lets on. Be a tether to reality for her.

Changingnames20 · 07/09/2022 22:32

So boring… dull…

This is also for me what a lot of this ideology is about - privilege, wanting to feel special, boredom, latching onto identities. I’ve had several young people say to me that it ‘took them so long to ‘find’ their identity’.

Why do they have to have an ‘identity’? There is nothing wrong with being Harry or Sarah - with nothing attached, no ‘tribe’, no ‘gang’. But they many feel that they have to otherwise… so boring…

What a regressive world…

TheBiologyStupid · 07/09/2022 22:25

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So where's your "not at all" bigoted post now then, Hearach? (For the record, I have never reported a single post on any thread here so I certainly didn't get it taken down.)

BoredofthisCrap7 · 07/09/2022 22:20

Hearach15 · 07/09/2022 21:52

"They are both very anti JKR , despite not actually being able to tell me exactly what she has said .... they live in a world of soundbite and '"I read it on the internet"."

Good for them.

Yeah, it's great that people are jumping on the gender bandwagon without actually knowing WHY they think these things, just parroting rubbish that they have read (a bit like you with your "links") without bothering to unpick it or apply any critical thought whatsoever.

The poster already said their child/friend didn't actually know what JKR had really said, just regurgitating the transphobic crap they had picked up or heard without analyzing the original text.

"Denying that a woman is a woman because she has no uterus (whether that is because she is transgender..."

Transwomen are males, therefore not women. Your sentence may as well read "denying that a woman is a woman.... because she is a man...."
Males are not a subset of women.

Also, are you ever going to answer what these elusive "rights" are that you feel so strongly about?

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LaughingPriest · 07/09/2022 22:13

It is hearsay when you can't actually state what she said.

The tweet begging people to please make what they said be true is classic Twitter.

Best to scroll on by when you see bigotry.

ArabellaScott · 07/09/2022 22:11

Oooh, do we actually have a glimmer of a hint of something that JKR said that was transphobic?

What was it JKR said that was 'neither clever nor pleasant'?

Do tell!

Hearach15 · 07/09/2022 22:02

comfortablyfrumpy · 07/09/2022 21:58

Good for them to go by hearsay, and hate founded on hype?

I do despair.

It's not hearsay to read what she writes about trans people and conclude it's neither clever or pleasant.

This is the woman she lauded in her essay on trans people. What deeply unpleasant company she keeps.

The spell is breaking......daughters finally waking up?
The spell is breaking......daughters finally waking up?
comfortablyfrumpy · 07/09/2022 21:58

Hearach15 · 07/09/2022 21:52

"They are both very anti JKR , despite not actually being able to tell me exactly what she has said .... they live in a world of soundbite and '"I read it on the internet"."

Good for them.

Good for them to go by hearsay, and hate founded on hype?

I do despair.

Hearach15 · 07/09/2022 21:52

comfortablyfrumpy · 07/09/2022 20:33

I shall keep plugging........

They are both very anti JKR , despite not actually being able to tell me exactly what she has said .... they live in a world of soundbite and '"I read it on the internet".

One day....

"They are both very anti JKR , despite not actually being able to tell me exactly what she has said .... they live in a world of soundbite and '"I read it on the internet"."

Good for them.

Hearach15 · 07/09/2022 21:49

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Hearach15 · 07/09/2022 21:48

Xiaoxiong · 07/09/2022 18:07

Well @Hearach15 we'll just have to agree to disagree on that - I can't imagine being disappointed in my children's sexualities whether they're lesbian, gay, straight or bi, so I suspect we don't have much in common.

We all have our hopes and dreams.

Hearach15 · 07/09/2022 21:47

Helleofabore · 07/09/2022 18:27

Please stop utilising people's medical conditions to leverage males into the definition of 'women'. It is offensive.

Females ONLY have a body formed around the production of large gametes, and that is regardless of if they ever have, are or ever will successfully produce those gametes.

A uterus is not actually the part of the body that produces those large gametes.

Your comment is irrelevant to whether a male can be a 'woman' or not.

"Please stop utilising people's medical conditions to leverage males into the definition of 'women'. It is offensive."

Denying that a woman is a woman because she has no uterus (whether that is because she is transgender or has Mayer-Rokitansky-Küster-Hauser syndrome) is offensive.

comfortablyfrumpy · 07/09/2022 20:33

BoredofthisCrap7 · 07/09/2022 19:06

All I can say is keep plugging, consistently and calmly.
Counter every single part of the ideology you can with facts.

It takes time.
I've not fully succeeded yet with DD1 but this was the beginning of the end I think.

If she's interested in sports, that might be a way to try.
Don't give up.

I shall keep plugging........

They are both very anti JKR , despite not actually being able to tell me exactly what she has said .... they live in a world of soundbite and '"I read it on the internet".

One day....

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