A woman posted on a local community neighbourhood forum website that I am a member of, expressing how honoured she felt being asked to do the make up and hair of a person aged 82 who had recently changed sex. He changed sex, it turns out, by beginning to wear make up, growing his hair to just below his ears and wearing skirts instead of trousers, and is now called "she".
The OP mentioned how uncomfortable he said he had felt for years, "having" to wear a bra under male clothes, worried sick that someone might notice, but now he could be himself, sorry herself.
Not only was the OP gushing but all the women who replied to the thread fawned and simpered over the 82-yr-old, using words like how "amazing" the person was to have done this and phrases like "being her true self" etc.
Not one woman who responded asked WHY she felt that she "HAD TO" wear a bra when she used to be a man. None asked to have the process explained as to how putting on a skirt turns a male into a female.
Honestly these brainless handmaidens drive me up the wall!
I have to sit on my hands. We post in our real names on that site and so I have to gag myself, silence myself, as I could not cope with the onslaught of abuse I know I would get, the loss of potential friends and customers to my small local business. Yes, I know that makes me a coward and I feel bad about that, as well!
I was longing to reply as below, but I can't, so to get it off my chest I am posting it on here.
"You know what is genuinely brave and amazing? Negotiating life as a female. Not only battling all the disadvantages of growing up as a girl under patriarchy, but putting up with periods, boys staring and teasing and groping, men leering and commenting on your teenage body, then often a string of relationships with men who treat you like a second class citizen or talk down to you or browbeat you for sex when you don't want it. Then there are the multivarious female-only conditions that millions of women have to contend with: endometriosis, fibroids, etc etc. Then there is the labour market and the search for a half-decent husband. Then childbearing and childrearing, juggling work and childcare, being criticised by all sides. Next often comes a divorce, widowhood or other heartbreak which she just has to get over and make the best of things. Then there is the second struggle to be taken seriously in the workplace. Then comes the menopause, with all the horrors that brings many women, and then being denigrated as an "old woman" who is ignored, put down, or mocked.
WOMEN are the people who should be celebrated as brave, NOT a man who for 82 years enjoyed all the advantages and privileges of being a male in a patriarchal society - a better education, more prestige, higher status, higher wages, a little wifey at home to meet his needs and do his housework and raise his kids. At age 82 he puts on a skirt and some lipstick and suddenly she's this great, brave, stunning heroine, fawned over by women, many of whom have spent their lives as detailed above, but they still think the transwoman is braver and more amazing and courageous and stunning than they are, and indeed than any woman is.
My blood is boiling and I am so frustrated that I cannot post on that thread. Grrr!