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I am embracing virtue signalling pronouns in emails

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MsFogi · 21/07/2022 18:25

I have realised I have made too many assumptions about gender over the years. I had always assumed that Paul (name changed of course) in my company was a man simply on the basis of his appearance (well over 6 foot, well built, big beard, low voice that only someone with an Adam's apple and whose balls have dropped could have). Imagine my relief to find that I have not been misgendering him for over a decade because he has helpfully added his pronouns to his email auto signature - they are he/him/his. There is no company diktat to add pronouns on emails so clearly this is important to Paul or maybe he has been misgendered recently.

So, I thought I would ensure that Paul was not offended on a Teams meeting this afternoon and kicked off the meeting by asking everyone to note that Paul's pronouns are he/him/his and that given that he has stated these that everyone please be sensitive to ensuring that they use them. No one said anything so I think they all took it on board, no one misgendered Paul and I like to think that his move to include his pronouns at work has been embraced in my meeting. Maybe as a result others that attended the meeting will add theirs to their auto signatures too.

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Lovelyricepudding · 26/07/2022 11:50

Although these might be crucial human purposes and interests, they are still human ones. To this extent, the primary division of populations into males and females, like the socialisation that creates men and women, is a human ‘construction’

I suspect wokedom would have something to say if their local cannabis dealer tried to explain that male and female was a human construction... 😂

Helleofabore · 26/07/2022 11:27

RichardBarrister · 26/07/2022 08:46

And transwomen have become the scapegoat of unfounded ‘stranger danger’ - a tiny minority disproportionately affected by assault and violence themselves

Didimum conveniently skips over the fact that while approx 80% of violent attacks on women are by someone they know, that leaves 20% of attacks being carried out strangers, in a public place.

I’d say womens worries of stranger danger are absolutely founded. Any measures that prevent the club bouncer from removing the creepy guy hanging out in the womens toilets or the security guard from checking out why the old man has followed a 10 yr old into the ladies increase that danger. There is no appearance requirement relating to a particular gender identity. If a man claims a female gender identity we may have no way of verifying that so if we let one male born person in we must let them all in.

I would be interested to see Didimums evidence that tw are at risk if violence - the data I’ve seen does not back that up.

Thanks Dick. I was mighty bemused by a poster telling women that they are quite safe and to not worry about any male outside their home effectively. Because we shouldn’t ever be worried about those crimes against females outside the home.

Some truly fucked up logic there.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 26/07/2022 11:19

don’t want to do away with sorting and segregation altogether in many cases, they just want to use totally meaningless and nonsensical categories as the basis

I think they get a subversive thrill out of this. It's a power trip.

BernardBlacksWineIcelolly · 26/07/2022 11:15

Yes, the especially weird thing is that the Butlerians don’t want to do away with sorting and segregation altogether in many cases, they just want to use totally meaningless and nonsensical categories as the basis

the whole thing is downright weird. Like it was dreamed up by someone who’d never actually operated in the real world

Ereshkigalangcleg · 26/07/2022 11:08

As if sorting by belly-button type was equally as meaningful a category as sorting by biological sex 🙄

I have to say, if you sorted by genitalia you'd have a high degree of accuracy in terms of two discrete groups of humans with particular needs, and sorting by chromosomes even more so. Leaving the arguments about DSDs aside, they are both much more meaningful categories than either belly-button types or "gender identity".

TastefulRainbowUnicorn · 26/07/2022 11:04

Procreation isn't solely a "human" construction, though, is it?

Yes, I hate to single out any particular sentence or point made on that article but wow, that was egregious.

But then maybe if they acknowledge that nonhumans also care about biological sex the whole edifice of Butler’s thinking collapses? As summarised there, it does. But it can’t be that stupid, can it?

TheKeatingFive · 26/07/2022 11:00

Although these might be crucial human purposes and interests, they are still human ones. To this extent, the primary division of populations into males and females, like the socialisation that creates men and women, is a human ‘construction’

I mean, that's just total bollocks isn't it? What about the entire animal kingdom?

Ereshkigalangcleg · 26/07/2022 10:58

From the article:

Bodies do not come presorted by chromosomes or genitalia alone; we could sort them by belly-button type, after all. Their sorting by sex, then, reflects human purposes and interests – those having to do with human procreation. Although these might be crucial human purposes and interests, they are still human ones. To this extent, the primary division of populations into males and females, like the socialisation that creates men and women, is a human ‘construction’

Procreation isn't solely a "human" construction, though, is it? Read any book on evolutionary biology Confused

TheKeatingFive · 26/07/2022 10:53

Sorry I don't mean to suggest that there's anything wrong with posting articles, but if you're going to do that, surely you should be able to express what it is about the article you agree with?

TheKeatingFive · 26/07/2022 10:51

I find the 'here's an article' approach a bit odd to begin with and it's a technique often used when the 'what constitutes gender' question is posed.

Surely if you believe in gender beyond a social construct you would be able to say why? Without recourse to article. Surely you'd be able to define what gender is reasonably clearly/concisely yourself if that is what you genuinely believe?

How can you believe in something that you can't frame in your own words?

Ereshkigalangcleg · 26/07/2022 10:43

The other thing to note is that most of @aseriesofstillimages points are based on people completely passing as the opposite sex through being able to disguise themselves. They are a tiny minority. It's sophistry to then use the fact that a minuscule number of people can deceive their peers into believing the opposite sex to claim that the more meaningful approach is just to accept that males can be women simply by saying they are. As I pointed out a couple of days ago, this is the leap of faith that gender identity ideology proponents take.

BernardBlacksWineIcelolly · 26/07/2022 10:40

Frankly anyone who finds that Aeon article convincing needs to work on their self esteem

it’s bollocks. The reason it makes no sense is that it’s total bollocks, not because the writer is smarter than you, or you’re not educated enough to understand it

Ereshkigalangcleg · 26/07/2022 10:37

Also, what are the names we give to adult and child members of the female sex class, if not "women" or "girls" (because that involves some males)? Do you not think this important group needs a name, and to organise to challenge their own oppression?

Ereshkigalangcleg · 26/07/2022 10:34

have managed to offer a coherent case for why people should prioritise gender identity ideology over sex, or what gender identity means when unmoored from sex and knowing what sex people are and all the stereotype baggage that comes with that.

Still to be answered.

BernardBlacksWineIcelolly · 26/07/2022 10:34

Oh man, that Aoen article

3100 words on continental and analytic philosophy, all to try to avoid saying that a woman is an adult human female. What do you think is the author’s term for such a class of people if not ‘woman’?

and the conclusion being essentially ‘it doesn’t matter because everyone should try to help all marginalised people’

totally unrealistic, written by someone with no interest in achieving anything. The way you make stuff happen is by having tightly defined goals

Ereshkigalangcleg · 26/07/2022 10:32

Its not a question of chucking out articles, but being able to articulate our own beliefs clearly. If this article is in line with your own understanding of gender you should be able to capture that in your own words. Can you do that?

This.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 26/07/2022 10:32

The previous article I posted didn’t cut the mustard, what do you make of this one?

It's a lot of words to ultimately arrive at a confused conclusion. What do you think is particularly compelling? Do you think women should be defined as a subordinate class? Do you understand how the intellectual philosophers in the academy offer very little in terms of actually improving the oppression of female people, which is grounded in sex stereotypes and expectations around our sexed bodies?

TheKeatingFive · 26/07/2022 10:28

The previous article I posted didn’t cut the mustard, what do you make of this one?

What do you think though?

Can you give us a brief summary of what constitutes gender based on what you've read there?

Its not a question of chucking out articles, but being able to articulate our own beliefs clearly. If this article is in line with your own understanding of gender you should be able to capture that in your own words. Can you do that?

Emotionalsupportviper · 26/07/2022 10:27

They campaigned for their own (via the Ladies' Sanitary Association and the Union of Women’s Liberal and Radical Associations) - and men tried to stop them achieving their aim.

When the first women's toilet facilities were opened men did their best to sabotage them - even driving hansom cabs into them.

Men wanted to keep women out of public life, and stop them going far from the home.

aseriesofstillimages · 26/07/2022 10:20

Ereshkigalangcleg · 26/07/2022 07:48

It looks like the conversation on this thread has long moved on and left me behind

Not really, @aseriesofstillimages because neither you nor @Didimum have managed to offer a coherent case for why people should prioritise gender identity ideology over sex, or what gender identity means when unmoored from sex and knowing what sex people are and all the stereotype baggage that comes with that.

Why what most women and girls want, ie privacy and dignity from the opposite sex, should be disregarded in favour of what this group of males want.

Since I've never seen that answered in a way that boils down to more than "let them have what they want, it's kind and progressive" that's not surprising.

The previous article I posted didn’t cut the mustard, what do you make of this one?
aeon.co/essays/do-analytic-and-continental-philosophy-agree-what-woman-is

aseriesofstillimages · 26/07/2022 10:16

Ereshkigalangcleg · 26/07/2022 08:25

women are statistically safer with a transwoman who is a stranger in a changing room or a bathroom than they are in their own home with a male

I'd like to read the evidence on this, please, can you point me to it Didimum?

Women are statistically safer with any strange male than the male in their own home, but strangely we still have single sex changing rooms and toilets.

Genuine question, do you know the history of sex segregated facilities such as toilets and changing rooms in the UK? When and why were they introduced? Assuming that at some point in time there were many circumstances in which they were only male facilities, which women were not allowed to use - did women campaign for their own separate facilities, or to be allowed to use the existing ones?

Emotionalsupportviper · 26/07/2022 10:16

HipTightOnions · 26/07/2022 08:32

women are statistically safer with a transwoman who is a stranger in a changing room or a bathroom than they are in their own home with a male

Well, yes and no.

A woman picked at random from the population may be less safe with her own partner.

I personally am safer with my own particular non-violent partner.

And even for those poor women who are unsafe at home, allowing men into women's spaces only increases their risk.

Exactly!

It's like the false argument around "gender neutral" toilets.

Only a couple of weeks ago a TRA threw "Do you have separate sex toilets in your house? Because I don't" - to which I replied "No. Do you allow random people to walk in off the street and use your lavatory? Because I don't"

They think these false equivalencies are such a "gotcha" - and they aren't. They just serve to show how desperate they are for valid argument.

PearlClench · 26/07/2022 10:14

I was just thinking about the massive issues we are facing now that crimes are recorded according to gender identity instead of sex.

Will Karen White's sexual assaults while incarcerated in a women's prison be recorded as female crimes?

IcakethereforeIam · 26/07/2022 09:53

@aseriesofstillimages it still seems to me that 'living as the opposite sex' means conforming to stereotypes not congruent to your actual sex, if anything I think it demonstrates what nonsense gender (in the modern sense) is.

I like to think both Willner and Billy did what they did because they wanted to pursue a life they loved in music which would have been closed to them as women. I'm more certain of this with Billy, iirc she was refused entry into a school band because she was female.

There's a lot less information on Willner but it's nice there's some recognition, she should be better known. But as a, lately dubbed, transman I'm not surprised she's still a bit niche. TMAM are they, eh?

Anyway, I'll remember their names.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 26/07/2022 09:28

Has there been any research other than the Swedish study on the rates of violence within male population disaggregated by gender identity?

Not that I am aware of.

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