I am embracing virtue signalling pronouns in emails

The difference is that you don’t need to know the colour of a person’s skin or their ethnic heritage in order to refer to them in the third person.

Well played op 😁

Apparently you can make up your very own special pronouns, mine are idgaf/foyt.

I'll leave you to work out what they are.

I could do all three. He/her/their/thiself. IT would be crying in a corner in a week.

I have a very tiresome they/ them colleague (his email signature includes sample sentences demonstrating correct pronoun use).
He recently left something behind after a meeting and it was given to me to return to him.
When I did so he quizzed me about who had given it to me: "male or female?" I'm still kicking myself that I didn't think of responding "don't know - didn't ask" in time.

I honestly think they/them is the best. Try using those and making any sense whatsoever 😂

Exactly.

As a society, we need to reacquaint ourselves with the original intentions of "inclusivity".

It's not a synonym for "centring those and only those who identify as trans, no matter whom else our behaviour drives out".

Where does it stop? Will they refrain from upbraiding Dustin about pronouns, when his first language is obviously sign language?

Some may find the example employees I have used implausible, but they are all people (identifying details changed) or composites of people with whom I have worked since I left school.

This. Except, though Paul may be nice, he knows exactly what he's doing and his motives were self serving.

Exactly, Paul wanted everyone to know what a good virtue signalling ally he is, it's performative and done purely so he can bask in the warm glow of his own 'goodness'.

If what the OP quite reasonably did to promote his goodness and prevent colleagues saying the wrong thing burst his bubble, and there's no indication either way, then too bad, so sad, get over it.

Why does it always have to be he/him or she her? If I get forced to, I think mine will be she/his/hers/himself Or he/hers/his/herself. And they will change on a daily basis.

Praise be and thank you Paul Hehim.

This. Except, though Paul may be nice, he knows exactly what he's doing and his motives were self serving.

If Paul is white, and had put ‘white’ in his email signature, would that matter?

I’m really not asking for a bashing here. But it seems that it’s more acceptable to highlight some characteristics than others.

I think the OP was indeed probably pushing it. But who’s saying to Paul, ‘you’re bloody pushing it mate, for so many reasons’. Nope.., instead Paul is applauded as an ally.

The reasoning is perverse. It hurts my head.

Man here. I have said already that the op did a good thing. It really is that simples.

Thar was me @PearlClutch . I did offer to repent in sporners corner. Can we use ‘total bollocks’ or is that also banned?

Yeah. I like doing the bingo cards. To be fair I am waiting for the words literal violence then I get a line.

😂😂

OP only wanted to ensure everyone addressed Paul by his correct pronouns. I thought that was the point of adding pronouns to things 😂

To be fair to the pp, there was mention of 'gobbledegook'.

Perhaps the post/thread ought to have had a content warning, idk.

Sometimes I play bigot bingo as the inevitable dialogue plays out..

It’s always the same posters who seem to pop up telling us we’re near, nasty text, then when questioned, pop off to find another thread to lecture and tone police people on. I’ve not been on here that long and I’ve started to see patterns. It’s quite amusing in a way.

It's a quote.

Is there any reason anyone should answer your questions when you don’t have the basic courtesy to answer questions put to you?

All those stating this thread is nasty, posters are being mean, etc., have without exception swerved any and all of the serious points made by posters regarding pronoun usage, have refused to explain clearly why the OP ensuring that all her staff members were aware of Paul's preferred pronouns is inappropriate. We've had that Paul's pronouns cannot be shared amongst colleagues but if said colleagues use the incorrect pronouns for Paul they will need to be corrected. As PurgatoryofPotholes said a deliberate trap is being set for employees who will then no doubt suffer the slings and arrows of not being kind, inclusive, trans positive, yada, yada, yada, when their only 'crime' is not to have fucking known because no-one in management gave them a heads up but are more than happy to jump on them when they make the mistake and then lecture them into accepting compelled speech.

Gaslighting a gaslighter. This bloke had his power ploy neutralised. It is unsurprising some people feel VERY uncomfortable about it. When you expect benefits from an action and it backfires, cognitive dissonance is the result. Good. It is not bullying. Bullying is what has been happening to people who call this out overtly.

You seriously don’t know where they’d from but you spend a lot of time on the FWR boards. Bless you@GoodJanetBadJanet , you’re always a delight

Is that a phrase you came up with yourself or is it a mantra you're parroting?

It's a Magdalen Berns quote. Perfectly expressed. RIP Magdalen.