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I am embracing virtue signalling pronouns in emails

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MsFogi · 21/07/2022 18:25

I have realised I have made too many assumptions about gender over the years. I had always assumed that Paul (name changed of course) in my company was a man simply on the basis of his appearance (well over 6 foot, well built, big beard, low voice that only someone with an Adam's apple and whose balls have dropped could have). Imagine my relief to find that I have not been misgendering him for over a decade because he has helpfully added his pronouns to his email auto signature - they are he/him/his. There is no company diktat to add pronouns on emails so clearly this is important to Paul or maybe he has been misgendered recently.

So, I thought I would ensure that Paul was not offended on a Teams meeting this afternoon and kicked off the meeting by asking everyone to note that Paul's pronouns are he/him/his and that given that he has stated these that everyone please be sensitive to ensuring that they use them. No one said anything so I think they all took it on board, no one misgendered Paul and I like to think that his move to include his pronouns at work has been embraced in my meeting. Maybe as a result others that attended the meeting will add theirs to their auto signatures too.

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Conflictedunicorn · 23/07/2022 17:45

I just think of subcontractors up under the NHbC scheme when I see CIS.

IcakethereforeIam · 23/07/2022 17:44

I've never heard of a transwomen who objects to being called a transwomen, although I'll bet they're out there. There are some tras who get incensed about the " " or lack between 'trans' and 'woman'. I think it's because with, trans modifies the word, like tall or short, but still a woman. Without they're not women, they're transwomen.

Anyway, I don't like 'cis' for the usual reasons and because I always initially think it's something to do with home insurance.

Cishet, is nearly as bad. I kinda like the Egyptian mythology vibe, which ties neatly with the whole semi-religious or outright cultist flavour of the gender doctrine.

FlirtsWithRhinos · 23/07/2022 17:44

Apologies I need to rephrase that! "I generally avoid using the word "women" in discussions about gender" is clearly bollocks, I do it all the time.

What I meant to say is "I generally avoid using the word "women" to refer to a group of people in discussions about gender (unless I'm explicitly talking about the impact of changing the membership of that group on the people it originally referred to)"

Ereshkigalangcleg · 23/07/2022 17:43

Obviously I disagree with you on that

On what basis?

but don’t we all basically think we’re the ones whose views reflect reality?

Yes, people who think the earth was created 4000 years ago do too. What's your point? Can you define "woman" and explain how a male can be one?

Conflictedunicorn · 23/07/2022 17:41

aseriesofstillimages · 23/07/2022 17:38

So when you refer to a trans woman as a man, or male, are you implying they don’t believe their gender is that of a woman?

Even have I ever referred to a male who wishes to present as a woman as a man? I have not. That would be rude. By saying they are male, well, that’s just biological fact. If thy weren’t male they would not be wishing to present as a woman, they would be a woman. Woman is the word for adult human female, so no, they probably don’t believe their gender is woman. As it’s not a gender. I

FlirtsWithRhinos · 23/07/2022 17:41

aseriesofstillimages · 23/07/2022 17:29

There seem to be some double standards here - it’s ok for you all to refer to ‘trans women’ because you don’t believe trans women are women, but it’s not ok for me to refer - generally - to non-trans women as cis, to reflect my belief that ‘cis woman’ just means ‘a woman who is not a trans woman’?

I find it hard to believe many posters on this forum don’t know who ‘trans woman’ refers to.

Sorry, I don't understand. What's the problem with referring to trans women? I say trans women when I mean ... trans women. I don't need to accept the whole TRA kit and kaboodle of cis-people and innate gender and what have you to know trans women exist. I generally avoid using the word "women" in discussions about gender exactly because of the lack of clear agreement on whether that group includes trans women or not.

AlisonDonut · 23/07/2022 17:41

aseriesofstillimages · 23/07/2022 17:36

Well, I believe they are cis women (though out of politeness I would t say that to them generally), in the same way you believe that that trans women are really men.

So you think women are women on the same chemical side as women?

Just say women. Those that are CIS if that's what they think will know who you mean.

aseriesofstillimages · 23/07/2022 17:41

Ereshkigalangcleg · 23/07/2022 17:38

Well, I believe they are cis women (though out of politeness I would t say that to them generally), in the same way you believe that that trans women are really men.

One of these beliefs is much more grounded in reality than the other one. One is a quasi-religious belief.

Obviously I disagree with you on that, but don’t we all basically think we’re the ones whose views reflect reality?

Ereshkigalangcleg · 23/07/2022 17:40

So when you refer to a trans woman as a man, or male, are you implying they don’t believe their gender is that of a woman?

The other alternative is that people don't believe in "gender" and only think sex is reasonable. Which biological sex are MTF trans people?

Ereshkigalangcleg · 23/07/2022 17:38

Well, I believe they are cis women (though out of politeness I would t say that to them generally), in the same way you believe that that trans women are really men.

One of these beliefs is much more grounded in reality than the other one. One is a quasi-religious belief.

aseriesofstillimages · 23/07/2022 17:38

Conflictedunicorn · 23/07/2022 17:36

By referring to women who are not trans as cis you are implying they believe in gender identity ideology. Many do not. You are forcing a gender identity onto people. Is that not misgendering? You can believe something all you like. It does not make it true. Some people believe the earth is felt, some people believe in gender identity. It takes all sorts

So when you refer to a trans woman as a man, or male, are you implying they don’t believe their gender is that of a woman?

Conflictedunicorn · 23/07/2022 17:37

aseriesofstillimages · 23/07/2022 17:36

Well, I believe they are cis women (though out of politeness I would t say that to them generally), in the same way you believe that that trans women are really men.

You do that. It’s your prerogative. It’s my prerogative to think you’re wrong and offensive. Awesome isn’t it

AlisonDonut · 23/07/2022 17:37

aseriesofstillimages · 23/07/2022 17:29

There seem to be some double standards here - it’s ok for you all to refer to ‘trans women’ because you don’t believe trans women are women, but it’s not ok for me to refer - generally - to non-trans women as cis, to reflect my belief that ‘cis woman’ just means ‘a woman who is not a trans woman’?

I find it hard to believe many posters on this forum don’t know who ‘trans woman’ refers to.

Because the word for a non trans woman is...sit down you aren't going to like this...woman.

That's it.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 23/07/2022 17:36

to reflect my belief that ‘cis woman’ just means ‘a woman who is not a trans woman’?

What is a "trans woman" and how are they both similar and different to "cis women"?

aseriesofstillimages · 23/07/2022 17:36

Ereshkigalangcleg · 23/07/2022 17:26

I’d say it’s likely the number of cis women who include their pronouns in their email signature is much larger

Well yes, because most "cis women" are fully on board with all of gender identity ideology. Most women are not "cis women" though, because they don't identify as such, are they?

Well, I believe they are cis women (though out of politeness I would t say that to them generally), in the same way you believe that that trans women are really men.

Conflictedunicorn · 23/07/2022 17:36

By referring to women who are not trans as cis you are implying they believe in gender identity ideology. Many do not. You are forcing a gender identity onto people. Is that not misgendering? You can believe something all you like. It does not make it true. Some people believe the earth is felt, some people believe in gender identity. It takes all sorts

Conflictedunicorn · 23/07/2022 17:33

aseriesofstillimages · 23/07/2022 17:29

There seem to be some double standards here - it’s ok for you all to refer to ‘trans women’ because you don’t believe trans women are women, but it’s not ok for me to refer - generally - to non-trans women as cis, to reflect my belief that ‘cis woman’ just means ‘a woman who is not a trans woman’?

I find it hard to believe many posters on this forum don’t know who ‘trans woman’ refers to.

Oh we do. We know exactly who trans women refers to. We just don’t believe they are women

aseriesofstillimages · 23/07/2022 17:29

There seem to be some double standards here - it’s ok for you all to refer to ‘trans women’ because you don’t believe trans women are women, but it’s not ok for me to refer - generally - to non-trans women as cis, to reflect my belief that ‘cis woman’ just means ‘a woman who is not a trans woman’?

I find it hard to believe many posters on this forum don’t know who ‘trans woman’ refers to.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 23/07/2022 17:26

I’d say it’s likely the number of cis women who include their pronouns in their email signature is much larger

Well yes, because most "cis women" are fully on board with all of gender identity ideology. Most women are not "cis women" though, because they don't identify as such, are they?

Ereshkigalangcleg · 23/07/2022 17:23

Doesn’t ‘trans woman’ do the same job?

No.

PearlClutch · 23/07/2022 17:18

crosspost with everyone.

Conflictedunicorn · 23/07/2022 17:17

aseriesofstillimages · 23/07/2022 17:14

Doesn’t ‘trans woman’ do the same job?

No. That implies transwomen are a type of women. They are not. They are males who wish to present as women but usually fail.

PearlClutch · 23/07/2022 17:17

aseriesofstillimages · 23/07/2022 17:14

Doesn’t ‘trans woman’ do the same job?

It's too confusing. Many, if not most, of the general public still think a 'transwoman' is a woman.

Conflictedunicorn · 23/07/2022 17:16

AlisonDonut · 23/07/2022 17:11

It is biologically accurate.

The acronym though is TIM and they don't like being called TIMs. The monitors that is.

I’ll stick with males who wish to present as women but usually fail then. It’s a faff but one must respect If people have objected to a term.

AlisonDonut · 23/07/2022 17:16

aseriesofstillimages · 23/07/2022 17:14

Doesn’t ‘trans woman’ do the same job?

It confuses people as they think we are being mean to females who are trans. It is deliberately confusing.