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I am embracing virtue signalling pronouns in emails

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MsFogi · 21/07/2022 18:25

I have realised I have made too many assumptions about gender over the years. I had always assumed that Paul (name changed of course) in my company was a man simply on the basis of his appearance (well over 6 foot, well built, big beard, low voice that only someone with an Adam's apple and whose balls have dropped could have). Imagine my relief to find that I have not been misgendering him for over a decade because he has helpfully added his pronouns to his email auto signature - they are he/him/his. There is no company diktat to add pronouns on emails so clearly this is important to Paul or maybe he has been misgendered recently.

So, I thought I would ensure that Paul was not offended on a Teams meeting this afternoon and kicked off the meeting by asking everyone to note that Paul's pronouns are he/him/his and that given that he has stated these that everyone please be sensitive to ensuring that they use them. No one said anything so I think they all took it on board, no one misgendered Paul and I like to think that his move to include his pronouns at work has been embraced in my meeting. Maybe as a result others that attended the meeting will add theirs to their auto signatures too.

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Wouldloveanother · 24/07/2022 17:41

Ereshkigalangcleg · 24/07/2022 17:30

There are examples of individuals who ‘lived as’ the opposite sex throughout history

There have tended to be practical reasons why they have done so. Plus, someone disguising themselves as the opposite sex, isn't actually the opposite sex. It's trickery. You can't really say that sex/gender doesn't have a biological basis simply because some people tricked society into thinking they were the opposite sex. The concept of "gender" is fundamentally about biological sex. If sex didn't exist, neither would gender.

Ok but now you have to say how they are related. Can you give some more detail?

PearlClutch · 24/07/2022 17:40

The concept of "gender" is fundamentally about biological sex. If sex didn't exist, neither would gender.

Woah! I do admire your ability to cut right through all the bullshit, and make things crystal clear, Eresh. Thanks.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 24/07/2022 17:30

There are examples of individuals who ‘lived as’ the opposite sex throughout history

There have tended to be practical reasons why they have done so. Plus, someone disguising themselves as the opposite sex, isn't actually the opposite sex. It's trickery. You can't really say that sex/gender doesn't have a biological basis simply because some people tricked society into thinking they were the opposite sex. The concept of "gender" is fundamentally about biological sex. If sex didn't exist, neither would gender.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 24/07/2022 17:25

What do you think would happen if I set up a refuge, or a changing room, or a book club, or a discussion group, or a literary prize, or a political officership, and said it was only for people AFAB

It's not just hypothetical, I'm aware of many situations where women have tried to do this. It's not something that tends to work out for them.

OldCrone · 24/07/2022 16:48

aseriesofstillimages · 24/07/2022 16:06

The question was, is it possible for a trans woman to have a uterus. I was trying to think of any real world situation where that would be possible.

Why is it not possible for a transwoman to have a uterus? I thought you believed that transwomen are women. Most women are born with a uterus, so why would you make the assumption that a transwoman doesn't have a uterus? If transwomen are women, then most transwomen must be born with a uterus.

PearlClutch · 24/07/2022 16:36

Conflictedunicorn · 24/07/2022 16:35

I’m still waiting so see how a woman behaves so I can decide if I am one?

Me too!

wellhelloitsme · 24/07/2022 16:35

@aseriesofstillimages

Thanks for coming back.

My question from earlier as I know you've had a number of them:

Can you name some that aren't biological and aren't gender stereotypes that aren't accurate and are often damaging e.g. women should wear dresses, women should wear make up, men shouldn't cry, men should earn more etc?

Genuinely asking as I have done before on here and nobody has answered.

If being a woman can be defined as a gender identity, what are the signifiers of that identity please?

Nobody has ever answered when I've asked. And it's not even a 'gotcha', I just don't understand how people can be so sure that those they disagree with are being nasty, mean, bigoted etc when they can't themselves articulate their own views on the most fundamental issues of this topic.

Conflictedunicorn · 24/07/2022 16:35

I’m still waiting so see how a woman behaves so I can decide if I am one?

Wouldloveanother · 24/07/2022 16:31

PurgatoryOfPotholes · 24/07/2022 16:08

I believe clinics used to screen for DSDs as standard. They stopped implementing this step, because the rate of undiagnosed DSDs in patients referred to gender dysphoria clinics was no greater than in the wider population.

Well knock me down with a feather

PearlClutch · 24/07/2022 16:30

If we just redfine the words 'man' and 'woman' to be respectively 'AMAB' and 'AFAB' how long will it be before someone AMAB decides that actually they want to be AFAB and are self defining that way?

I reckon about ten minutes.

Artichokeleaves · 24/07/2022 16:27

FlirtsWithRhinos · 24/07/2022 16:24

I also wouldn’t agree that the majority of people who advocate for trans inclusion insist there must be no words available to refer to a person’s ‘biological sex’ - whether you like the terms or not, ‘AFAB’ and ‘AMAB’ are commonly used for that purpose.

I said "any new terms that naturally arise in their place, arising due to the real need we have in some contexts to be able to talk about sex, cannot simply exist as a language backfill for "that thing we used to get confused with gender", but must be stopped, stamped on, either denounced as transphobic or immediately appropriated as more words for gender."

Leaving aside the obfuscation that the reason one is AFAB is not random but because ones clear biological sex was observed to be female, and therefore something (sex) preexists the assignment and should have a name in its own right, because the truth that AFAB coyly hints without saying is that one must at birth have had a certain body type that is associated with being female so yet again the ideology does not stand up in its own right but continues to need the ongoing existence of the very concepts it claims to reject - leaving that aside for now...

What do you think would happen if I set up a refuge, or a changing room, or a book club, or a discussion group, or a literary prize, or a political officership, and said it was only for people AFAB, due to the specific challenges that those with such assignment face? Do you think the dominant voices speaking for trans people would say "great, fair enough, AFAB people do need that" or do you think it would be accusations of transphobia and a concerted effort to pressurise me and anyone tangentially involved like funders, location managers, publicity channels etc to have whatever it is stopped?

All of that.

Playing along with using any of the made up terms involves complying with the agenda involved. No.

No one is 'assigned' anything at birth. The wangling and manipulating of boundaries through language is not innocent, it is a control technique that enforces a political and quasi religious agenda.

It can gtf.

People are welcome to use whatever words they choose for themselves. And I will do the same.

FlirtsWithRhinos · 24/07/2022 16:24

I also wouldn’t agree that the majority of people who advocate for trans inclusion insist there must be no words available to refer to a person’s ‘biological sex’ - whether you like the terms or not, ‘AFAB’ and ‘AMAB’ are commonly used for that purpose.

I said "any new terms that naturally arise in their place, arising due to the real need we have in some contexts to be able to talk about sex, cannot simply exist as a language backfill for "that thing we used to get confused with gender", but must be stopped, stamped on, either denounced as transphobic or immediately appropriated as more words for gender."

Leaving aside the obfuscation that the reason one is AFAB is not random but because ones clear biological sex was observed to be female, and therefore something (sex) preexists the assignment and should have a name in its own right, because the truth that AFAB coyly hints without saying is that one must at birth have had a certain body type that is associated with being female so yet again the ideology does not stand up in its own right but continues to need the ongoing existence of the very concepts it claims to reject - leaving that aside for now...

What do you think would happen if I set up a refuge, or a changing room, or a book club, or a discussion group, or a literary prize, or a political officership, and said it was only for people AFAB, due to the specific challenges that those with such assignment face? Do you think the dominant voices speaking for trans people would say "great, fair enough, AFAB people do need that" or do you think it would be accusations of transphobia and a concerted effort to pressurise me and anyone tangentially involved like funders, location managers, publicity channels etc to have whatever it is stopped?

PearlClutch · 24/07/2022 16:14

aseriesofstillimages · 24/07/2022 16:08

Did you read about Willmer Broadnax? I think that’s quite a good illustration of how it can look in reality.

I read a bit. So.

I have questions!

I have short hair. I'm wearing trousers, a shirt, and birkenstocks. I don't ever wear make up. My name is unfamiliar to most people in this country/culture, so it's not recognisably male or female associated.

How can I tell if I'm a woman or a man? Can you describe it for me?

PurgatoryOfPotholes · 24/07/2022 16:13

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Initially the approach with GD was similar to that for disorder of sex development, with a karyotype being routinely requested. An audit of UK clinics from 2013 to 2015 (Table 1) revealed no differences from cytogenetic surveys of the UK newborn population and elsewhere.10 11 Therefore, routine karyotyping of a child or adolescent with GD is not required unless any specific clinical features determine this to be necessary.

adc.bmj.com/content/103/7/631

Conflictedunicorn · 24/07/2022 16:11

I know. It’s a miracle. @aseriesofstillimages have some cake

PearlClutch · 24/07/2022 16:10

name and pronouns generally associated with the opposite sex, and likewise wearing clothes and otherwise physically presenting and generally behaving in a way likely to be expected of the opposite sex

Name, pronouns, clothes - 'physically presenting' - what does this mean, please? Hairstyle?

'behaving in a way likely to be expected of the opposite sex' - again, could you expand on this, please?

Also thanks for coming back to answer questions; it's fascinating to find someone willing to discuss these things politely and able to do so coherently! Happens almost never!

Conflictedunicorn · 24/07/2022 16:09

aseriesofstillimages · 24/07/2022 16:07

If we are excluding people with intersex variations then my answer would be that it is not possible for a trans woman to have a uterus.

Of course we are excluding people with DSD. They have asked repeatedly not to be dragged into this. Even stonewall has conceded they are no part of this debate. So, a transwoman is not a woman biologically, or in any other way.

aseriesofstillimages · 24/07/2022 16:08

Conflictedunicorn · 24/07/2022 16:06

So you’re going with sexist stereotypes. What If I wear men’s clothes? Dries that mean I’m living as a man? How does someone behave like a woman?

Did you read about Willmer Broadnax? I think that’s quite a good illustration of how it can look in reality.

PurgatoryOfPotholes · 24/07/2022 16:08

Wouldloveanother · 24/07/2022 16:05

The DSD thing is bizarre. Unless every trans person has a hidden and undiagnosed DSD (I suggested mass testing to put us terfs straight once and for all, but they seemed reluctant) then it’s completely unrelated - like saying the existence of cheese must mean the moon is made of cheese. Plus I thought gender was not biological?

I believe clinics used to screen for DSDs as standard. They stopped implementing this step, because the rate of undiagnosed DSDs in patients referred to gender dysphoria clinics was no greater than in the wider population.

aseriesofstillimages · 24/07/2022 16:07

Wouldloveanother · 24/07/2022 16:05

The DSD thing is bizarre. Unless every trans person has a hidden and undiagnosed DSD (I suggested mass testing to put us terfs straight once and for all, but they seemed reluctant) then it’s completely unrelated - like saying the existence of cheese must mean the moon is made of cheese. Plus I thought gender was not biological?

If we are excluding people with intersex variations then my answer would be that it is not possible for a trans woman to have a uterus.

Conflictedunicorn · 24/07/2022 16:06

So you’re going with sexist stereotypes. What If I wear men’s clothes? Dries that mean I’m living as a man? How does someone behave like a woman?

aseriesofstillimages · 24/07/2022 16:06

PearlClutch · 24/07/2022 16:03

We aren't talking about DSDs, aseriesofstillimages, we're talking about trans people.

The question was, is it possible for a trans woman to have a uterus. I was trying to think of any real world situation where that would be possible.

Wouldloveanother · 24/07/2022 16:05

Conflictedunicorn · 24/07/2022 16:01

Are you saying people with DSD are trans now? Really? That’s how low you’re going? Oof. I’d expected better.

The DSD thing is bizarre. Unless every trans person has a hidden and undiagnosed DSD (I suggested mass testing to put us terfs straight once and for all, but they seemed reluctant) then it’s completely unrelated - like saying the existence of cheese must mean the moon is made of cheese. Plus I thought gender was not biological?

aseriesofstillimages · 24/07/2022 16:05

PearlClutch · 24/07/2022 15:53

There are examples of individuals who ‘lived as’ the opposite sex throughout history

So - what does it mean to 'live as a woman'?

to some extent it depends on the specific historical and social context, but I suppose going under a name and pronouns generally associated with the opposite sex, and likewise wearing clothes and otherwise physically presenting and generally behaving in a way likely to be expected of the opposite sex. This is a good real life example en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Willmer_Broadnax

PearlClutch · 24/07/2022 16:03

We aren't talking about DSDs, aseriesofstillimages, we're talking about trans people.

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