Single Sex Toilet issue creeping into everyday life?

YANBU.

FFS. Catch yerself on! His height is of no relevance. He's male and shouldn't be in the female toilets. At all. Ever!

No thank you.

Like 95% of people, I would prefer to use single sex facilities when out in public, especially if they are cubicles.

Individual self contained toilets on planes & trains I can live with, although I avoid using them where possible.

If a restaurant or venue has chosen to have unisex loos, they've chosen to do without my future custom & can expect me to review accordingly.

These toilets, however, were single sex, but some bloke decided to ignore that, at best because he's an entitled arse who doesn't care about making women & girls uncomfortable, at worst for nefarious purposes, & most likely, frankly, because he gets a nasty little buzz out of it.

Still no thank you.

The issue that terrifies me is that I’m followed into a cubicle by a man. This is more likely in mixed sex toilets.

It's not just in the cubicle - it is the whole of the area. Sometimes you just aren't feeling very well in all kinds of ways and want a bit of respite away from the male world. It's not just about physical safety - it is about mental comfort too.

So am I 😤

Men get off on making women uncomfortable and testing their boundaries. Probably wanking over it later.

Yeah, cubicles are so safe. Oh, wait! They really aren't are they? Unless they are properly built and do not open onto an enclosed space.

Why is it so hard to understand? The kind of man who would use women's loos without so much as a by your leave is not the kind of man you would challenge.

My DH wouldn't do it. Not even dickheadBIL would do it. Do you know any male who would?

"So youve used a airline or train loo ? Or gone into a small cafe with only one loo "

These are individual cubicles not a toilet block. F. F. S.

"He could have used the empty disabled toilet."
No thanks. I have MS. I need a disabled toilet.

So youve used a airline or train loo ? Or gone into a small cafe with only one loo

Individual cubicals are not a threat. Go to the one with the shortest queu

Yes, of course men think women’s spaces are fair game now. That’s a large part of the problem and has been from the start.

If he had was 5ft tall would you have said something?

A 5ft tall man is still way stronger than the average woman.

I'm an older woman and I would definitely have said to him " sorry do you realise this is the ladies toilet?" to see what he said. He sounds like a rude prick and I believe that it is up to us to politely challenge these men. I understand that surprise initially takes over but I intend to challenge them every single time and I am 5 feet 2 🤨.

A man deliberately goes into the ladies while it's occupied and a woman standing outside. He doesn't apologise or explain - the very least I would expect when he's invaded someone else's space.
But no he's the victim. Maybe he didn't see the Op or her daughters, women can be invisible to men, it's not his fault.

Or maybe he's just an entitled idiot who thinks he's the only one who matters. Or maybe it's worse, could be this was a trial run and it was so easy.

Get ready to challenge cos it will happen more and more. If the male loos were unusable the normal thing to do is say , excuse me, apologies, is anyone in there, I'm just going to go in when it's empty bc the mens are broken etc

This is misogyny

Yes to this. Every single time.

My experience is that neither men nor women like sharing toilets.
I had experience of mixed sex toilets recently in a restaurant. It was abroad but it was a large private works do which had booked the entire restaurant. There were two separate doors about 20 feet apart marked with the usual men and women symbols but they opened into the same space with basins in an open area and half a dozen stalls.
Without exception every time someone left to go to the loo they were warned the loos were mixed sex. People were clearly very uncomfortable about sharing with the opposite sex even with people they 'knew'. It's not just an issue of safety, it's dignity and privacy too.

And shop, cinema, theatre, school, office… if I read a review that included ‘unisex loos’ I’d choose elsewhere. I’m paying good money - so I choose somewhere that wants me.

Every single restaurant you go to where the toilets are unisex, complain or write a review. 95% don’t want mixed sex toilets, make it clear.

This is what we will have to deal with now. So fucking sick of people who are “not bothered” giving away our rights and jeopardising our safety.

I was unhappy the other week in a family restaurant to find the toilets were unisex. I was pleased that I had accompanied my niece! I don't feel comfortable letting kids go in alone with all of this.

This thread is like a microcosm of the last 18 years and a great demonstration of how gender ideology was able to take such a grip - not because people believed it but because we search for good intentions even when all the evidence suggests there are none.

Not only would decent men have handled the situation very differently, I doubt whether they would give this guy anything like the leeway he's been getting on here.

I guess if that was the case, then he could have explained that the mens we're unusable, apologised and made them feel more at ease. I also don't think that all the mens cubicles would have been out of action. Sadly I'd say he thinks he's a women, and/or enjoys making women feel uncomfortable.