My children being asked their pronouns by youth group leader

Posted too soon! No need for every single child to declare their pronouns.
And actually more simple to ask everyone if they are a boy or girl rather than asking their pronouns

I’d ask them why the children are asked those questions and go from there.

This issue would have been solved by either your daughter or you simply telling the teacher she is a girl. No need for every single

There were no other girls with hair as short as my daughters, some with chin length hair, most had it long enough to be tied back. She was the only girl put on the boys team.

The teacher who grouped them just handed all the boys and my daughter red bibs to wear. He wasn't checking them off a register, he was just going off appearance, he read her as a boy so put her on the boys team.
She was only 4 so was just grumpy that she didn't get to line up (to bat) with her friemds, who were all girls.

What about the rest of the girls with short hair, were they all put in the boys' team as well? Moreover, why had the teachers not been given any information on their new classes?

Thats kind of exactly what I said though, my daughter has an obviously female name and still was called a boy by teachers and other children because she had short hair so they didn't know what sex she was, or they thought they knew but they got it wrong, so many times.
Teachers who were obviously used to working with children but still made assumptions based on her hair.
She was put on the boys team in rounders, given the 'boys' party bag at a whole class party, asked why she had a girls name and told she was in the wrong toilets.
Ideally there wouldnt be a boys team for reception rounders or seperate party bags for boys but there still are and people still treated her differently.

Same for the boy called Lou, they had his name, and saw him and it still didn't tell them that he was a boy, because he was 4 and was waering the unisex nursery uniform so they still got it wrong, teachers and children.

In the 'era before pronouns' people did still get it wrong and had to keep telling people that they were a girl or a boy, that isn't new. It happened when I was growing up, girls who wore shorts were told they looked like boys, it happened to my best friend all the time.
The difference is now kids are being asked before people assume.

The harm comes from trying to normalise gender identity as a concept, casting doubt on the use of the words "boy" and "girl" to mean sex.

If this was an initiative to ensure children were correctly sexed (perhaps due to success oin lessening the grip of gendered expectations on children meaning it was not always easy to tell) then I might agree with that this would be a good idea in the right circumstances. But the likelihood is that these youth leaders are not trying to ensure children are not missexed, but rather they are seeking to normalise the use of sex based words to describe gender identity, (i.e. indoctrinate them into gender ideology) and to disassociate sex from the words we need to describe it.

I would simply ask "why are you asking the children this question"?

I would be asking why 6 year olds were being asked whether they were a boy or girl, they are children, and their sex should not be relevant to their attendance at a church youth group. Why did the organisers need to know? Were they proposing to treat them differently on the basis of their answer?

Obviously it would be better if it didn't matter and nobody assumed anything and everyone understood that wearing a dinosaur jumper doesnt mean you are a boy, but while that isnt the case right now, I can't see the harm in clarifying, for lots of kids its the same as being asked their name or age etc.

Give me strength. How on earth did we manage before the era of pronouns? Also why are they asking the kids to say whether they are boys or girls, are they going to treat them differently? This is nonsense, all they need are their names and if they are used to working with children I am pretty sure they'll know what sex they are.

I would approach it gently but I certainly wouldn't want my kids to be taught that having to state pronouns is a reasonable thing to do because of all the sexist rubbish that goes with that idea.

Regardless of any of your personal views, are you a boy or a girl is a fairly easy question for a 6 year old.

My 4 year old girl had very short hair and was often referred to as a boy by other kids and sometimes adults and she didn't like it. Could quite easily tell people no, she was a girl.
I knew a little boy called Lou who was often assumed to be a girl called Louise, he also didn't like that and would get upset when he got grouped with all the girls or other children asked if he was a girl.

There isn't much clear difference in the appearance of 0-8 year old boys and girls, hair isn't always a giveaway nor is clothes. Just practically it is helpful, stops people assuming as it is not always obvious.

Obviously it would be better if it didn't matter and nobody assumed anything and everyone understood that wearing a dinosaur jumper doesnt mean you are a boy, but while that isnt the case right now, I can't see the harm in clarifying, for lots of kids its the same as being asked their name or age etc.

At least they will be well grounded in that grammar term, which I didn't learn until I was forty.

Sorry to be flippant