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Should I make a complaint?

57 replies

GatherlyGal · 29/06/2022 13:50

So I was recently admitted to hospital with a gynae problem.

After 3 or 4 hours in A&E and feeling very faint and generally crap I was seen by the doctor who said he'd have to examine me before gynae would come and look at me.

To do the exam he said he'd need a chaperone and he called in a nurse. The nurse was wearing a women's uniform but was very obviously male - rainbow glasses, rainbow badges, lanyard etc.

Of course I SHOULD have objected but I didn't twig immediately and I just wasn't with it enough or brave enough to challenge. The nurse was fine and just stood behind the doc looking a bit awkward.

It just seems crazy to me to go to the trouble of finding a chaperone but choosing another male.

Would you complain? I am thinking more of other more vulnerable women particularly who have suffered abuse. If I had been asked I would have said "no thanks" but bringing it up myself was too difficult in the circumstances.

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abblie · 29/06/2022 14:07

What happens if the other 'male' nurse identified as a woman 😳 we are doomed as a gender

tellmewhentheLangshiplandscoz · 29/06/2022 14:05

To clarify this is the part if have a problem with.

tellmewhentheLangshiplandscoz · 29/06/2022 14:04

Ps sorry OP, forgot to add I hope you are feeling better and it's sorted? Flowers

tellmewhentheLangshiplandscoz · 29/06/2022 14:03

I'd be fucking raging if I were you OP.

Hopefully a wise Viper or several will be along shortly to advise on some Strong Wording but if your absolutely positive it was a male bodied person that's not on.

IamSarah · 29/06/2022 14:03

I'm really sorry that happened and I think you should definitely clarify the chaperone policy.

Having two males in the room when you are vulnerable and being intimately examined is definitely something to be queried.

As you say, a more vulnerable woman could have found that really traumatic. It may be that the trust hasn't considered this.

Musomama1 · 29/06/2022 14:02

OP I had a check with my doctor recently in the breast area so not even as intimate as your appointment and she offered me a chaperone. The doctor was already female, perhaps gender doesn't come into it and they need two people there.

But having two males is a bit of an odd choice, not very commonsense as you might have found it very intimidating to be outnumbered.

achillestoes · 29/06/2022 13:53

I’m sorry that happened to you. What I would suggest is writing to the hospital first to ask for the logic for the doctor requiring a chaperone (don’t say anything about male/female: question that fact that, for you, it meant two people in the room seeing you naked rather than one).

I wonder if they will say it was because you are female...