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How do you tell children what trans means?

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VeeringTowardsMuff1ns · 26/06/2022 11:54

My son is nearly 10 and the other day was flicking through Netflix and came across a cartoon with a trans character as the lead and so asked me what trans meant. I answered his question but I don’t think it was particularly balanced as it was based on my own GC point of view. Any advice on how I can tackle this question fairly and objectively?

This is the show in question. He’s not watched it yet and I don’t know if he will but if it’s a good show he might (he wasn’t sure from the trailer, which he just found confusing).

www.digitalspy.com/tv/ustv/a40300139/dead-end-netflix-musical-queer-lgbtq/

My son was also left quite confused as I said that Barney was born a girl and now identifies as a boy and my son thought it was the other way round - “I thought it was a boy pretending to be a girl” to quote him directly - and I don’t think was convinced that I had it the right way round!

Obviously this is an issue that is going to come up more as he gets older and I want to be able to talk to him about it properly.

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snoochieboochies · 26/06/2022 12:19

When this comes up I just explain what sex is and discuss human anatomy. If changing sex comes up I explain that's not possible, and then mostly ask questions to help them understand. My child knows boys and girls can like or do anything either one wants in life, and that's the main thing for us. She knows she's a girl but that doesn't limit her in any way.

AliceMcK · 26/06/2022 12:02

I have done it in very basic terms on both gay and trans conversations/questions.

everyone is different, gay means girls like girls and boys like boys, sometimes people like both boys and girls.

trans means that sometimes a person feels they were born in the wrong body, a boy may feel like he really should be a girl and vice versa.

I’ve told them there are people out there who don’t like this and don’t think being gay or trans is right, but as far as I’m concerned everyone should be free to feel the way they feel and be who they want.

Beamur · 26/06/2022 11:56

I think this is a good age to be having these conversations. Just keep talking. And listening.

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