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LGB Alliance to plan helpline with Lottery funding

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pombear · 10/06/2022 20:29

Fantastic news.

I would link to their Twitter announcement, but in usual state of play, Twitter has marked it ' may not be appropriate for people under 18'. A helpline planned for 13 to 25 year olds, planned by a panel of experts in child protection, education, helpline delivery, fundraising and psychology.

Yep - shut them down (much better to have helplines planned by IT workers who took their child to Thailand...)

As LGB Alliance state there is no dedicated national service of its kind for young LGB people in the UK.

I'm sure the Lottery Fund will be getting a lot of feedback right now, given the outpouring of hyperbole against LGB Alliance right now on Twitter.

So they may appreciate feedback from those who may see this as a positive move too:

""We really value your feedback. If you have a comment or complaint about the services that we provide, or if there's something important you think we should know, we'd love to hear it. Please email us at [email protected]"

LGB Alliance to plan helpline with Lottery funding
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Helleofabore · 16/06/2022 17:07

Whether you're 4 or 14, no trans person is like a vegan cat and the LGB Alliance are a group of idiots run for idiots.

So, still not posting anything relating the original source, just John Nicolson's very prejudiced interpretation and you continue to rely on an emotional reaction without engaging with the substance of the tweet.

Hearach15 · 16/06/2022 17:06

nothingcomestonothing · 16/06/2022 16:58

If someone turned up at pride with the tshirt of a homophobic group they would be booed. Likewise it is reasonable to do the same with a transphobic group like the LGB Alliance. Pride is for all LGBT people. Erm... except the LGB ones?? Confused

Except the transphobic ones, yes!

If there was a homophobic trans person at pride they too would not be welcome.

Hearach15 · 16/06/2022 17:05

Helleofabore · 16/06/2022 17:01

When the LGB Alliance get off their arse and do something useful like helping LGBT people get out of a dangerous country like Afghanistan get back to me.

So, you can discount the things they have not achieved recently for LGB people as one of the largest charities / educators about LGB people for decades, because of their work in 'Afghanistan'?

Again... good to know.

Stonewall was at the forefront of the campaigns to repeal Section 28, the ban on LGBT serving in HM Armed Forces and the legalisation of gay marriage.

Surprised that someone who seems to think themselves such an expert on LGBT matters didn't know that.

Hearach15 · 16/06/2022 17:02

Helleofabore · 16/06/2022 16:59

So, you are not going to go to the original source, look at the full context of that tweet and then discuss it when it is applied then to a 4 year old, not a teen?

Good to know.

Whether you're 4 or 14, no trans person is like a vegan cat and the LGB Alliance are a group of idiots run for idiots.

Helleofabore · 16/06/2022 17:01

When the LGB Alliance get off their arse and do something useful like helping LGBT people get out of a dangerous country like Afghanistan get back to me.

So, you can discount the things they have not achieved recently for LGB people as one of the largest charities / educators about LGB people for decades, because of their work in 'Afghanistan'?

Again... good to know.

Hearach15 · 16/06/2022 17:00

Helleofabore · 16/06/2022 14:07

Very concerning that the LGB Alliance seem to think this is something the community doesn't already have - that said it is unsurprising as there are large gaps in their knowledge of the community.

Why are you so scared of competition? Surely the more support services the better?

And if it is a specific group that is being supported, to the exclusion of another group which has already got support, so what?

I predict this is a project that will not get off the ground. They won't have the volunteers or get many calls because most LGBT people who know of them want nothing to do with them.

Ok. So if you have shut down an extra level of support for LGB youth, do you feel very proud of yourself? Because that LGB support did not believe in exactly the right groupthink that you do?

Do you understand the complete lack of tolerance you show towards others who simply do not believe in the entrenched viewpoint that you hold? And that you are doing this in the name of tolerance? Do you see the hypocrisy there?

It's not competition. This is like having a Rolls Royce and someone offering to sell you a car that has failed its MOT test, three flat tyres and no roof. That's what the LGB Alliance is offering us here.

Helleofabore · 16/06/2022 16:59

Hearach15 · 16/06/2022 16:53

The LGB Alliance said being young and trans is like being a "vegan cat".

Personally, I think being transgender is normal and think society should do more to celebrate these wonderful people.

So, you are not going to go to the original source, look at the full context of that tweet and then discuss it when it is applied then to a 4 year old, not a teen?

Good to know.

PurgatoryOfPotholes · 16/06/2022 16:58

piortrcurious · 16/06/2022 15:14

It's not a nasty meme, I've seen it on Mumsnet many times. It's basically the pictorial equivalent of "The lady doth protest too much, methinks"

On mumsnet? Many times? It's not that long ago that posters on here were only allowed to post six images a day.

I think you have mumsnet confused with reddit or with twitter.

nothingcomestonothing · 16/06/2022 16:58

If someone turned up at pride with the tshirt of a homophobic group they would be booed. Likewise it is reasonable to do the same with a transphobic group like the LGB Alliance. Pride is for all LGBT people. Erm... except the LGB ones?? Confused

Helleofabore · 16/06/2022 16:57

If someone turned up at pride with the tshirt of a homophobic group they would be booed. Likewise it is reasonable to do the same with a transphobic group like the LGB Alliance. Pride is for all LGBT people.

yes. ALL LGBT people. Not just for those who believe in the exact same thing as you. Please point out to what YOU consider 'transphobic'. Exact examples, please.

Again... do you not understand this is not the 'gotcha' that you believe it is? You have doubled down on it. It really does show how intolerant you are.

And before you ask, yes a racist or sexist group should be booed too. Pride is the wrong place to display prejudice.

And yet... you have shown exactly how prejudiced the crowd at Pride really is.

Well done.

Hearach15 · 16/06/2022 16:56

Helleofabore · 16/06/2022 14:26

Stonewall on the other hand are applauded because they do proper work

And yet... organisations are pulling their support of Stonewall... Because their 'proper' work is deemed as being not supported by the actual law, just what they want it to be. And their CEO and staff have a habit of making offensive statements. I am very happy to post links to what Nancy Kelley has said, what Kirin Medcalf has said, and even the incredibly harmful aspects of things that Peter Tatchell has written.

Happy to go and find those links, they are stashed through different MN threads as it has been long discussed.

"proper work" ... like coming out and making a statement that people within the trans community (if there even is a community) need to stop ignoring the abuse and threats to lesbians when they reject males as sexual partners.... that 'proper work'? yeah... have not seen it.

No wonder an alternative for LGB people is needed.

When the LGB Alliance get off their arse and do something useful like helping LGBT people get out of a dangerous country like Afghanistan get back to me.

In the meantime I will continue to applaud the great work to promote our community in the face of homophobia and transphobia.

Hearach15 · 16/06/2022 16:53

Helleofabore · 16/06/2022 14:31

Well fuck!!!

John Nicolson??

I am not surprised.

Could you please articulate what the LGB Alliance was referring to in that tweet?

And can you tell us clearly why this analogy is incorrect in the case of a vulnerable child of 4?

Forget Nicolson's twist to use it for teenagers, tell us about that actual tweet thread by LGB Alliance.

And the entire thread, not just a cherry picked image as Nicolson has.

The LGB Alliance said being young and trans is like being a "vegan cat".

Personally, I think being transgender is normal and think society should do more to celebrate these wonderful people.

Helleofabore · 16/06/2022 16:51

And yes, they are actually allow to provide a service just for LGB Alliance and not specifically to support 'trans people' being trans. That is a 'discrimination' that is allowed in law exactly for this purpose.

Oh no..

And yes, they are actually allow to provide a service just for LGB people and not specifically to support 'trans people' being trans. That is a 'discrimination' that is allowed in law exactly for this purpose.

Hearach15 · 16/06/2022 16:51

Helleofabore · 16/06/2022 14:13

When someone turns up at Pride wearing an LGB Alliance they get booed.

www.pinknews.co.uk/2021/08/29/lgb-alliance-manchester-pride-protest/

They are completely outside the mainstream of the community because the vast majority of gays, lesbians and bisexuals support trans rights. Whoever is attending their conference is on the fringe of the community.

Sorry for the meme post again. I just cannot resist.

You do understand that your statement supports that some activists (thankfully we know not all because there are some trans people who are very tolerant) are completely intolerant of others?

You do understand that your statement is showing those activists, maybe even you, to be completely incapable of accepting an alternative view point?

please do crack on. MrsO was spot on. This does keep this thread bumped and we are getting more and more people posting because of it.

If someone turned up at pride with the tshirt of a homophobic group they would be booed. Likewise it is reasonable to do the same with a transphobic group like the LGB Alliance. Pride is for all LGBT people.

And before you ask, yes a racist or sexist group should be booed too. Pride is the wrong place to display prejudice.

DialSquare · 16/06/2022 16:45

TastefulRainbowUnicorn · 16/06/2022 16:43

You think people on here believe that someone attracted to a man is a lesbian?

Good God. I missed that. This thread is fourteen pages long. It was first explicitly mentioned on page 5 that Starlee is using terms like “gay” and “lesbian” differently from almost all the other posters.

Even after being told this, they have continued arguing vociferously for nine pages without even bothering to understand what is meant by the letters “LGB” in “LGB Alliance”

And providing a live demonstration of exactly why the LGB Alliance is needed.

TastefulRainbowUnicorn · 16/06/2022 16:43

You think people on here believe that someone attracted to a man is a lesbian?

Good God. I missed that. This thread is fourteen pages long. It was first explicitly mentioned on page 5 that Starlee is using terms like “gay” and “lesbian” differently from almost all the other posters.

Even after being told this, they have continued arguing vociferously for nine pages without even bothering to understand what is meant by the letters “LGB” in “LGB Alliance”

EmpressaurusWitchDoesntBurn · 16/06/2022 16:41

As several other posters have just said, I’d think that since a transwoman’s sex is male, if they were attracted to females that would make them heterosexual.

As for Mermaids supporting LGB people, does this mean that they disagree with Stonewall’s comments on ‘sexual racism’ and the cotton ceiling?

Helleofabore · 16/06/2022 16:38

Oh god. what a day. 'gender identity' NOT gender orientation.

Lovelyricepudding · 16/06/2022 16:33

Why would we think a man attracted to a woman was gay? They are heterosexual.

NotKevinTurvey · 16/06/2022 16:31

Starlee · 16/06/2022 15:33

I would yes, although you'd probably say they were gay.
What about trans men? Hardly ever e mention of them on here.
A trans man attracted to a man I would call gay, you would probably call them lesbian.
Depends which side of the argument you're on, but they're still homosexual.
It's just a shame that people are more concerned about labels than they are for the people themselves.

You think people on here believe that someone attracted to a man is a lesbian?

Do you even know what you are trying to say at this point? How can a woman, acting as a man, but attracted to an actual, real man, be a lesbian?

Helleofabore · 16/06/2022 16:02

Helleofabore · 16/06/2022 14:59

By the way Starlee, that surgery that you posted even tells you that at least 25% of those questioned 'knew' someone who was trans.

I would posit that the number will be much higher with anyone with teenaged children. And you DO realise don't you, that you are posting on Mumsnet? And the likelihood of posters on this very thread to have teens who have trans identities or who have other family members or friends who have teens with trans identities is very very high.

But please do continue with your very ignorant assertion that posters on this thread do not know and love trans people.

It obviously allows you to discount any view that doesn't exactly match yours.

Oh dear... Survey. Not 'surgery'.

Here is the link to the report.

www.moreincommon.org.uk/media/giljcopo/britons-and-gender-identity-navigating-common-ground-and-division-june-2022.pdf

Also. The author, and ex Stonewall employee said:

Luke Tryl, the report author who worked as head of education at the lobby group Stonewall, said: “From the toxic debate across social media you’d assume the country is split into trans activists and transphobes. But when you speak to ordinary people across the country you realise that nothing could be further from the truth. Instead, most Britons take a nuanced, compassionate approach that is rooted in society doing what it can to make trans people feel accepted but which also balances inclusion with fairness.” Others could learn from ordinary Britons, he added.

The interesting part is this: 'Instead, most Britons take a nuanced, compassionate approach that is rooted in society doing what it can to make trans people feel accepted but which also balances inclusion with fairness.'

'balances' is the key word here.

There is nothing balanced about the posts here where people are simply emoting and declaring that a group is a 'hate group' or unworthy of consideration by someone with a very clear and large prejudice.

LGB Alliance can by law provide a service that is focused on the LGB people were attracted to the same 'sex' as a LG or B person. That is regardless of the person's gender orientation. ie. if a trans person is same sex attracted or bisexual they are supported as much as any other person.

Posters are railing against the morality of providing that service based on their own sense of righteousness. But without any empathy for any person who would be a LGB young person who wanted to use this service and the current services that also cater for a wider target.

But yes. The survey also states that 25% of those questioned 'knew' someone who was trans.

DeaconBoo · 16/06/2022 15:56

DeaconBoo · 16/06/2022 13:54

starlee, as citrus hasn't returned, can you answer? You believe that heterosexual (ie a person of one sex attracted solely to people of the opposite sex) people can be gay, don't you?

Ok, so starlee confirms that heterosexual people can be gay, so there's no issue with heterosexual people supporting the LGBAlliance, as someone posted upthread.

DialSquare · 16/06/2022 15:39

"What about trans men? Hardly ever e mention of them on here".

Why do you think that is? What could the difference between transmen and transwomen be?
Surely if we were all transphobic bigots, transmen would be mentioned just as much a transwomen?

titchy · 16/06/2022 15:38

A trans man attracted to a man I would call gay, you would probably call them lesbian.

They'd be straight.... Bio females attracted to bio males are straight.

Starlee · 16/06/2022 15:33

EmpressaurusWitchDoesntBurn · 13/06/2022 07:57

I’d still like an answer to my question about how you define trans people who are LGB, Starlee. If a biologically male transwoman is attracted to women, do you think that makes them a lesbian?

I would yes, although you'd probably say they were gay.
What about trans men? Hardly ever e mention of them on here.
A trans man attracted to a man I would call gay, you would probably call them lesbian.
Depends which side of the argument you're on, but they're still homosexual.
It's just a shame that people are more concerned about labels than they are for the people themselves.