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SapphosRock · 08/06/2022 18:19

Oh dear Cosmopolitan Magazine. Where to start?

https://www.cosmopolitan.com/uk/love-sex/sex/a28405/10-lesbian-sex-tips/

https://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/a34553064/first-time-lesbian-sex/

It seems Cosmo's too tips are as follows:

Lesbians must always be considerate that some penis-havers identify as lesbians and must be included in anything and everything to do with lesbians, particularly lesbian sex.

If you’ve never had lesbian sex before watching lesbian porn shows a healthy depiction of lesbian relationships and doesn’t fetishise lesbians at all.

You don’t have a traditional female or male gender presentation? You should consider microdosing on permanent life-altering, experimental hormones. There is nothing irresponsible or flippant about this suggestion.

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minutesturntohours · 08/06/2022 21:52

BaronessBomburst · 08/06/2022 21:22

So the non-discriminating queer is bisexual. And therefore not queer.
Which is fine, but the whole point of the labels is to make it easier to work out who wants to fuck who.
It's back to secret codes and hints again.
<waves fan and hopes Mr. Darcy notices>

No, pansexual.

Perfect28 · 08/06/2022 21:48

I think it's odd that you're all ranting about the wrong bit, which is in fact the 'girl or woman' sentence?

smileyworld · 08/06/2022 21:34

DialSquare · 08/06/2022 21:09

Is there a pink penis beaker on the bedside table?

ConfusedSmile

EmbarrassingHadrosaurus · 08/06/2022 21:28

Isn't bisexual derogated because it includes sexual so there was a recent move for it to be shortened to bi to nudge the sexual orientation part into an oubliette and further blur the boundaries of sexual orientation and gender identity?

LifeInsideMyhead · 08/06/2022 21:24

Oh if only there was a word to describe vulva-habvers so we didn't need to reduce definitions to genitals...

And we don't seem to see the same for penis havers in gay magazinesdo we? wonder why that is ...

BaronessBomburst · 08/06/2022 21:22

So the non-discriminating queer is bisexual. And therefore not queer.
Which is fine, but the whole point of the labels is to make it easier to work out who wants to fuck who.
It's back to secret codes and hints again.
<waves fan and hopes Mr. Darcy notices>

Hagiography · 08/06/2022 21:20

I'm curious who actually buys these magazines. Is it young girls?

minutesturntohours · 08/06/2022 21:20

I'm normally pro all things LGBT but their term isn't even right! There's already a term of a relationship with someone trans (and it isnt lesbian!)

kickingupdaisies · 08/06/2022 21:17

The fuck

millytint44 · 08/06/2022 21:13

Cosmopolitan isn't like it used to be huh?! What a load of fucking twaddle. I despair.

DialSquare · 08/06/2022 21:09

Is there a pink penis beaker on the bedside table?

Theeyeballsinthesky · 08/06/2022 21:08

Fuck me!! Honestly @SapphosRock I do not know how you even begin to deal with the level of batshittery directed at lesbians without smashing all the things 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️

FourChimneys · 08/06/2022 21:03

So glad I stopped reading Cosmo decades ago. Give me a good gardening magazine any day.

Highlyquestionablehoumous · 08/06/2022 20:59

Also, do they seriously write shit like 'vulva having person' to describe women with no sense of 'what the fuck am I typing out here' at all?

Highlyquestionablehoumous · 08/06/2022 20:57

From the second article:

This guide—filled with A+ expert advice, btw—aims to serve as a reference for sex with folks who identify as women, which includes both women who have vulvas and women who have penises. I, as a non-discriminating queer, personally love all of ‘em.

Again this implication that if you don't 'love all of 'em', you are being 'discriminatory'.

It reeks of homophobia.

PermanentTemporary · 08/06/2022 20:56

@Wifwolf it certainly sounds like health interventions as consumer lifestyle choices.

Hagiography · 08/06/2022 20:53

Microdose hormones? Any hormones? Fungus hormones? Plant hormones?

Might try Sesquiterpenoids and see if I grow an exoskeleton.

Closedlips · 08/06/2022 20:52

Fucking hell that second article. "Sex involving body parts you may already be familiar with". Also I'm confused as to about non binary people in relation to lesbianism as surely they don't identify as male or female so therefore none of it make sense.

My head hurts and I feel old. Back in my single lesbian days it all seemed a lot.more simple.

SapphosRock · 08/06/2022 20:50

I remember reading an article in Cosmopolitan in the 90s when I was in my teens. Something along the lines of 'tell your man about your lesbian fantasies and about that time you kissed a girl, but make sure he knows he's the only one who can turn you on.'

It was a confusing thing to read as a young lesbian.

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Wifwolf · 08/06/2022 20:44

Does this read like gender dysphoria as a fashion accessory to anyone else?

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PaddleBoardingMomma · 08/06/2022 20:39

I actually physically felt my heart sink reading that, wtf is going on in the world? Lesbian women are being bullied and gaslit, guilt tripped and judged. It's a joke, I feel so sad about it. I mean women as a whole are under pressure at the moment with trans ideology nonsense but lesbian women in particular are really taking the brunt at the moment, I hate it for them.

EmbarrassingHadrosaurus · 08/06/2022 20:01

SapphosRock · 08/06/2022 18:25

Top lesbian sex tip from SapphosRock - if you call your female partner a vagina-haver don't be surprised if she's not turned on.

Offhand, is this on a par with or worse than Joy of Sex's 'turn on' remark that was guaranteed to arouse feminine ardour, "You are an A1 Tumble bun?"

Gcautist · 08/06/2022 19:46

SapphosRock · 08/06/2022 18:25

Top lesbian sex tip from SapphosRock - if you call your female partner a vagina-haver don't be surprised if she's not turned on.

re the pic : I had to laugh at the prospect of opening up a dialogue about the penis owners orgasm rather than racing to the finish line …

L: oh oh yes choir of angels etc etc
L: that’s me done wanna talk?
T: no humps away furiously
L: but let’s discuss orgasms before you race to the finish line
T: ok sure because we women love to discuss our feelings as we’re about to ejaculate

or something

Sparklybutold · 08/06/2022 19:40

Fucking.hell

That makes for some sad reading. Fancy telling a gay man to give a transman a go. The same conversation would be a non starter.

OneOfThoseOldFashionedWomen · 08/06/2022 19:35

I will never understand why women champion the penis. Nor why such homophobia is allowed to be printed.