Do pronouns feel alien to anyone else?

Because “gender” is entirely stereotypes! It has no basis in the physical reality of sex, how can it be anything else?

Not alien so much as self obsessed narcissism.
I'm not playing

You keep making up that part about "stereotypes". Who said anything about stereotypes?

This use of pronouns is a bit of nonsense that I will never use. Everyone knows women are she/her and men are he/him. Anyone who thinks they're so special that people have to use special pronouns for them is just advertising their stupidity.

I think it's virtue signalling, TBH. I choose not to engage, I look female, have a female name and work in a male dominated profession, nothing will ever make me add anything to my email signature suggesting I identify wholeheartedly with feminine gender-based stereotypes.

The difference is that you misgendering (and no, I don't care if you call it "correctly sexing") people is somewhat equivalent to verbally stabbing at them. It is something directly concerning their person specifically.

Whereas trans and non-binary merely existing around you, and asking you for some basic accommodation... Why would that make you "uncomfortable" if not because of your prejudice?

Pronouns come from the gender identity ideology.
This is clear because 'they, them' exists as a singular pronoun.
As people using that are in reality either male or female, too, then consistency requires that 'she, her', and 'he, him' cannot refer to biological sex, either, but must also refer to some abstract identity.

So on the theoretical level we are supporting the gender identity concept by telling what our preferred pronouns are.
That's the dilemma for me.
At the same time I know that most people don't think that this is what they are doing:
They try to make it easier for transgender people not to be 'misgendered' by being accurately sexed.

This is a little like all men now being asked if they might be pregnant in the NHS (what I have heard, anyway), just so that the vanishingly few trans men don't feel singled out if they are asked that before an x-ray, say.
So vast, vast majorities must change everything about their own gender definitions and about what others believe their sex to be, in order for one small group to be validated.

Perhaps this is what the society wishes to do?
But other small and marginalised minorities do not get these types of accommodations, so there must be a rank order that determines who gets to change language etc.

I was walking past our sixth form college the other day, and saw a young woman whose pronoun badge said "they/it". I just can't imagine wanting people to refer to me as "it", that's really masochistic. I felt very sad for her.

How are gendered pronouns any less of a social convention than gendered clothing, if you don't mind me asking?

I think this is all getting beyond a joke now.

Girls are girls, boys are boys. For the 0.001 % (or whatever it is) of people who GENUINELY have some sort of medical condition from birth that means their parents decided they should be a boy, when actually they got it wrong , those people have my utmost sympath but I can't see why the whole world is starting to revolve around them.

Most of them are just teens/20's somethings desperate for attention. In my day there were goths/emos/beautiful people/geeks/metal heads etc etc. That's all disappeared. It's now just this nonsense.

I'm proud of being a woman and I'm sorry, but I'm not saying 'they' for anyone. It's ridiculous. It's either he or she. (and if you're a woman who'd rather be known as a he, fine, whatever, I'll go with it, but you're still a women the same way a bird is still a bird not a worm.

Do you think "she/they" would work better for you then? If you were to include pronouns on your profile, that is.

I could ask them that? It seems we are at an impasse.

Why do you insist on being disrespectful and doing something you know makes people uncomfortable?

This, unironically.

@janeseymour78 Does it also feel alien when people use "she" to refer to you? Do you think you'd feel more comfortable if they used "he" or "they" instead?

Would "she/they" feels less alien? Or "they/them"?

Note that none of these don't "mean" anything about you, aside from which of these pronouns feel comfortable to you.

I've managed to get by for 40plus years without announcing my preferred pronouns to everyone so I refuse to start now. It's obvious by my name and to anyone who can see me that I'm female.

Not at all. I'm not particularly feminine in my presentation, and when I had short hair and wore bomber jacket, jeans and men's shoes (yeah, wide feet as well), i was frequently assumed to be male from behind. I've been challenged in women's toilets as well. But the moment I speak out turn around the other person has recognised that I am female. And always apologises.

I have never been offended by these mistakes. People see what they see and I am what I am. I was miserable for years because I wasn't dainty and feminine like my classmates, and I was teased for it, too. But I have to love the skin I'm in because it's the only one I've got, allergies and scars and all. What's the point in being upset because someone misreads the social cues and body standards? That's their problem, not mine. Of course a woman should feel able to challenge a person she's suspects may not be a woman.

Oh, and to add to that my name is uniformly taken to be masculine in this country (feminine in my parents' country of origin), so I get double-takes when meeting someone for the first time after email conversations. Not offended. Amused!

^ That 100%. I’m not doing it.

If your innate sense of gender identity is so strong why do 'they' have such meltdowns when people forget/don't know/don't care and default to reality? If you are a woman who believes they're a man or vice versa then surely that's something you carry within you! Why the desperation for validation from family, friends and complete strangers.
It's all about the validation. Is it because it's not strong. It's because they know it's drivel and a performance.

Would it (or does it) bother you if someone thought you were not the sex you are? I have a friend who sometimes gets mistaken for a man and it does bother her. However she is GC.

I guess it might bother me if someone thought I was a man ( I think I might see it as not being seen as attractive) but putting my pronouns on my email would not change it.

I think if pushed at work I will either argue that I don't want to declare my sex or I will put - she/her/he/him/they/them - and see what they make of that.

I don’t feel comfortable about declaring my pronouns on my email signature, because it would be a confirmation of an innate sense of gender (according to current orthodoxy) that I don’t feel I have. Like the OP, I know I’m a woman because of my biology and my lived experiences, and have no problem with other people referring to me as a “she/her”, but then again “they/them” wouldn’t bother me at all, and although I’d find “he/him” a bit surprising, it wouldn’t upset me or trigger any dysphoria.

Unfortunately I missed the talk from Stonewall they had at work when the option of pronouns was introduced, but from what I gather they are important for people who DO have a strong, innate sense of a gender identity, and as I don’t, declaring them feels like crashing someone else’s party.

OP you do make sense. For me it reinforces the false idea that there is a binary - feminine and masculine and people fall into one or both or neither. It disallows the idea that people change. It also gaslights people and young people in particular in disbelieving what they see and being able to articulate that. Which is a safeguarding risk. I have been flabbergasted by the number of women I have previously held respect for rolling over for this. When I see pronouns announced now, to me it indicates an inability to think through a complex argument I'm afraid.