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I’ve joined Stonewall’s last (?) stronghold. 😫

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OnceAgainWithFeeling · 11/05/2022 21:53

Changed jobs earlier this year. I’m in HR. Have had several run ins with the EDI lead about not collecting any data on sex to inform eg need for menopause support and it being the actual protected characteristic. She agreed. Or so I thought.

New boss started a couple of months back and today I’ve been subjected to pronouns at the start of every meeting, talk of the Women’s network, menopause, misogyny and everyday sexism but then also Stonewall, pride network, the gender identity policy being developed.

I feel like it’s closing in on me. An interview candidate led with an example of someone complaining about pronouns on badges - they did not wish to have them (nor do I) but instead of making that an option, an additional pop up box was developed to “educate dissenters”. I left the NHS to come here, which has distanced itself from SW. I felt so positive about the role, which is demanding enough as it is.

I’ve updated my CV today. :(

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DomesticatedZombie · 11/05/2022 23:21

Also, I'm sorry about your DH. That's rough. Flowers

DomesticatedZombie · 11/05/2022 23:20

Plenty sectors/industries mostly unaffected by these issues, OP. Although I suppose if you're working with EDI people you're more likely to be up against it.

Thanks re the DOH article, AnyFucker - it doesnt' seem to have filtered through yet?

TickTockItsToughGuyOClock · 11/05/2022 23:05

Due to an imminent restructure at work it looks like I am going to be moved into EDI and I am dreading it for exactly these reasons.

Kenwouldmixitup · 11/05/2022 23:04

@ComtesseDeSpair a “well, moving on” sort of bemusement. 😏

ComtesseDeSpair · 11/05/2022 22:59

Reinsurance and runoff seems to have remained remarkably untainted, thank goodness.

OnceAgainWithFeeling · 11/05/2022 22:56

I left financial services for the NHS. Old boss is completely on the GI bandwagon. :-/

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ComtesseDeSpair · 11/05/2022 22:54

Join us in financial services. I’m trying to imagine a situation in any of the organisations I interact with where a colleague or client tried to announce their pronouns, or wanted to discuss their gender identity, or explain that sometimes they felt like a man and sometimes like a woman and we all had to use our intuition to work out how to respond to them on a given day, and was met with anything other than a quizzical look and a “well, moving on” sort of bemusement.

OnceAgainWithFeeling · 11/05/2022 22:51

I won’t want to work there soon enough. :(

But where else is there that’s safe from this utter madness?

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tabbycatstripy · 11/05/2022 22:37

This sounds awful. The silver lining is that they can no longer sack you for telling them your thoughts.

OnceAgainWithFeeling · 11/05/2022 22:08

All my local Trusts have left SW.

Had a humongous argument with my DH a few weeks back about the whole thing - he called me prejudiced and a bigot and said it’s something he will never ever discuss with me again. We have a daughter, FFS.

Genuinely feel like everyone around me has gone insane. My sister even tried to make excuses about DQSH and that monkey dildo show the other week. 😫

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DomesticatedZombie · 11/05/2022 21:59

to “educate dissenters”.

Holy moly!

I'm sorry, OP, what a hellish situation. Has the NHS distanced itself from Stonewall?!