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2 year old boy 'hates girls'

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angryhummungbird · 03/05/2022 15:33

So recently I've met a mum who has just moved into our area. She mentioned that she was struggling a bit and was lonely as she didn't know many people locally. She has a son who is 2 which is the same age as my daughter. I invited them over and she said 'I would love to but unfortunately my son 'hates girls' and wouldn't want to play with her'. I was really shocked and quite angry at this as how can a 2 year old hate anyone? How can she be ok with this and think this is normal? Where has he picked this up, where has he learnt that playing with girls is somehow wrong and it is ok to hate girls? I mean should a 2 year old really even know what a girl and a boy is? It just seems so ridiculous. A 2 year old just shouldn't care about that stuff. This is why there is so much mysogyny in our society, because children as young as 2 are being taught it is ok for boys to hate girls. This is the reason why so many men think we are weak and below them. Most of the men out there assaulting and abusing women started as innocent 2 year olds who were taught that it was ok to 'hate girls'. And boys like him spread these ideas that it is ok and normal to hate girls and wrong to want to play or be friends with them to other boys. This is why some children as young as 3 or 4 are identifying as trans, imagine if he had not been a typically masculine boy and had the same upbringing and these same attitudes taught to him. Why is this considered okay? Why are we normalising gender ideology rather than trying to change attitudes like this?

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MargaritaPie · 03/05/2022 16:13

I agree, I don't think a 2 year old would come up with something like that all on their own. He's got it from somewhere.

Tsuni · 03/05/2022 15:56

Sounds like the mother just doesn't like you and made up a bs excuse as to why your children couldn't have a playdate.

Hardbackwriter · 03/05/2022 15:52

The mum sounds awful and bonkers - but you also seem to be spiralling into a pretty weird place as your post goes on. You both need to stop putting so much on a 2 year old. She obviously shouldn't be giving him that message and reinforcing it but there isn't much you can do about it and deciding now that he's going to be an abuser hardly helps.

Franca123 · 03/05/2022 15:47

Totally. The mum just sounds a bit away with the fairies. I wouldn't even try to imagine what's going on there.

Tryhard40 · 03/05/2022 15:37

I think you are reaching a bit here.

The mum just sounds batshit and to be avoided from now on. Job done. Of course a 2yo doesn't "hate girls" ffs!

BernadetteRostankowskiWolowitz · 03/05/2022 15:36

And boys like him spread these ideas that it is ok and normal to hate girls and wrong to want to play or be friends with them to other boys

"Boys like him"? He is 2. I think it's his mother which is perpetuating this problem.

I imagine it's code (from her) for "my child is boisterous and dominating in play and the girls he has played with aren't like that so I prefer him to play with boisterous boys so he doesn't look as naughty"