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Help wording an email to manager re: gender

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HunterHearstHelmsley · 29/04/2022 21:56

I have a rough draft of an email already but could do with some help wording it...

I am a gender critical. Recently, a trans woman has joined by team at work. Several emails have been received about their pronouns and how they expect to be addressed, with added articles.

I'm fine with addressing them however they fancy. I need to contact our mutual manager to remind them I am gender critical and this belief is protected under the Equality Act. I don't intend to misgender anyone. I don't want the ideology forced upon me. I want my beliefs to be respected.

Can anyone help me pen an email please?

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feministqueen · 29/04/2022 22:11

Ignore it. If your manager asks why you haven't added your pronouns tell them that you have no intention to. Then carry on with life.

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HunterHearstHelmsley · 29/04/2022 22:10

LauraNicolaides · 29/04/2022 22:08

Yes, I'm not sure what you want to achieve by this email. You say that you are happy to use your colleague's preferred pronouns. (I don't know what you mean by articles). What are you objecting to, or what line in the sand do you want to draw?

Articles - I mean she has sent news articles for us to read.

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ResisterRex · 29/04/2022 22:10

I would not raise this. If they're political or biased or lacking in evidence, then the articles would irritate me. But no point raising those now - if you end up being sent lots of those kinds of things then that would be different. And it would need to form a pattern for me to want to raise it. At that point, you'd probably be advised to get an independent view as to what to raise, why, and what you want out of it.

The point in the email about pronouns though isn't something you can say anything about. If someone has transitioned or is in the process of doing so, they're protected under the law.

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HunterHearstHelmsley · 29/04/2022 22:09

There has been four emails relating to it so far. Her start date was 1st April. It just makes me feel unsafe. The team already know I am gender critical. I feel like I need to remind management in writing that my views are protected.

I don't intend on upsetting anyone purposefully. Equally, I want my views to be respected.

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LauraNicolaides · 29/04/2022 22:08

Yes, I'm not sure what you want to achieve by this email. You say that you are happy to use your colleague's preferred pronouns. (I don't know what you mean by articles). What are you objecting to, or what line in the sand do you want to draw?

PonyPatter44 · 29/04/2022 22:05

Why do you need to stress the fact that you are gender critical at this point? My advice would be to keep your powder dry for now.

Are you realistically going to need to use your colleagues pronouns very often? I would wait and see how they behave first. If she just comes in and gets on with her job, then its not an issue. If she comes in with an obvious agenda, you can challenge it then.

Fupoffyagrasshole · 29/04/2022 21:58

honestly I’d just let it go why cause hassle for yourself act work. Sounds like this email is going to have zero effect of your life at all.