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Article on AGP by Lorelei

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TinselAngel · 15/04/2022 12:02

This is a really excellent article, in which AGP males, in their own words, describe much of the behaviour outlined in the trans widows threads over the last 5 years.

Many people don't believe trans widows, maybe they'll believe the men themselves? (nb Mods this article is based on source material old enough that the men in it did not identify as women as far as I'm aware)

loreleihatpin.substack.com/p/autogynephilia?s=r

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viques · 24/02/2023 18:33

RufustheFloralmissingreindeer · 24/02/2023 09:43

She obviously didnt want her posts deleted, hence the disclaimer.

not an apology and certainly not an apology on someone else’s behalf, at least thats how i read it

Fair enough, I withdraw my remark.

RufustheFloralmissingreindeer · 24/02/2023 14:05

Absurdle · 24/02/2023 09:59

That’s exactly what I meant. Thank you.

This is an old thread. It used to be that almost any mention of AGP would get deleted. I didn’t want to jeopardise the thread’s survival chances with insufficiently pedantic expressions of disgust.

Yes

id not noticed it was from last year and you are right the rules were very very different back then

macj1 · 24/02/2023 10:39

"Know thy enemy and know yourself; in a hundred battles, you will never be defeated. When you are ignorant of the enemy but know yourself, your chances of winning or losing are equal. If ignorant both of your enemy and of yourself, you are sure to be defeated in every battle."

Thanks so much for this article. Every MP, NHS manager and Educator needs to read it. And Nicola Sturgeon.

'The best revenge is not to be like your enemy.' Marcus Auerlius
We've already got that part, because they can never, ever, ever be us.

BernardBlacksMolluscs · 24/02/2023 10:17

BernardBlackMissesLangCleg · 15/04/2022 17:45

do you think we're allowed to say how fucking creepy autogynaephilia is?

Other things that have aroused me are [......] sitting with a bunch of women as the only male and listening to 'girl talk'

urgh. women as props. again

it's part of the reason I try not to engage with the people who post here and announce themselves as transwomen. I strongly suspect some of them get off on getting their arse handed to them by women

I’d forgotten I’d posted this, but I’m pleased to see I’m being reasonably consistent

this was the reason I didn’t post on the ‘trans and losing my mind’ thread until the OP had flounced. I’m just not up for being used by some internet random for his weird gratification

Absurdle · 24/02/2023 09:59

RufustheFloralmissingreindeer · 24/02/2023 09:43

She obviously didnt want her posts deleted, hence the disclaimer.

not an apology and certainly not an apology on someone else’s behalf, at least thats how i read it

That’s exactly what I meant. Thank you.

This is an old thread. It used to be that almost any mention of AGP would get deleted. I didn’t want to jeopardise the thread’s survival chances with insufficiently pedantic expressions of disgust.

RufustheFloralmissingreindeer · 24/02/2023 09:44

Thank you for posting this tinsel

enlightening

RufustheFloralmissingreindeer · 24/02/2023 09:43

viques · 24/02/2023 09:40

Whats with the “ not all” apology. I don’t care if it is 1% , 10% or 99% cross dressing perverts in my space getting an erection from being in a space with women going about their normal everyday lives. I really don’t want to be an unaware, unpaid extra in someone else’s porn scenario.

She obviously didnt want her posts deleted, hence the disclaimer.

not an apology and certainly not an apology on someone else’s behalf, at least thats how i read it

viques · 24/02/2023 09:40

Absurdle · 15/04/2022 12:25

obligatory i am not generalising, not all men, not all transwomen, not all AGPs, footnote.

Whats with the “ not all” apology. I don’t care if it is 1% , 10% or 99% cross dressing perverts in my space getting an erection from being in a space with women going about their normal everyday lives. I really don’t want to be an unaware, unpaid extra in someone else’s porn scenario.

oakleaffy · 24/02/2023 09:30

Annaissleeping · 23/02/2023 16:21

Lorelei is a legend. I know she gets attacked a lot but she continues to post incredible stuff. I'm glad to see her getting mentioned here. She deserves the recognition.

The link is far, far worse than I ever imagined.
But it makes sense as to why some women have their inner “Alarm” triggered.

Something not quite right about someone in their “Women only” spaces who is oddly unsettling.

Annaissleeping · 23/02/2023 16:21

Lorelei is a legend. I know she gets attacked a lot but she continues to post incredible stuff. I'm glad to see her getting mentioned here. She deserves the recognition.

oakleaffy · 23/02/2023 14:00

BernardBlackMissesLangCleg · 15/04/2022 17:45

do you think we're allowed to say how fucking creepy autogynaephilia is?

Other things that have aroused me are [......] sitting with a bunch of women as the only male and listening to 'girl talk'

urgh. women as props. again

it's part of the reason I try not to engage with the people who post here and announce themselves as transwomen. I strongly suspect some of them get off on getting their arse handed to them by women

It’s appalling that women only spaces aren’t guarded and only XX people are
allowed to use them.
“Women’s Group “ has a person with a penis in, giving out really creepy vibes ( In my opinion)
It was advertised as a “ Safe space” as “ Only Women”
But clearly not.
Very unsettling.

MangyInseam · 18/04/2022 14:19

@Ameanstreakamilewide

I have an incredibly low opinion of AGPs, but I won't elaborate on those opinions - for obvious reasons.

However, I have heard people say that AGP doesn't automatically mean that it's abusive and offensive to women.

But, surely that's a contradiction in terms? You cannot grossly parody a pornified mockery of a woman and it be truly benign?

I just know that I'm sick of the fucking sight of them.

Maybe i'm being unfair with that view, but i'll live with that.

AGP just refers to a paraphilia that develops in some men.

I suspect if we dipped too far in the sexual fantasies of many people you might find that it involved thinking of people as sexual objects in a way that didn't really see them as whole persons.

PearPickingPorky · 18/04/2022 13:10

@Ameanstreakamilewide

I have an incredibly low opinion of AGPs, but I won't elaborate on those opinions - for obvious reasons.

However, I have heard people say that AGP doesn't automatically mean that it's abusive and offensive to women.

But, surely that's a contradiction in terms? You cannot grossly parody a pornified mockery of a woman and it be truly benign?

I just know that I'm sick of the fucking sight of them.

Maybe i'm being unfair with that view, but i'll live with that.

Same.
Ameanstreakamilewide · 18/04/2022 12:22

I have an incredibly low opinion of AGPs, but I won't elaborate on those opinions - for obvious reasons.

However, I have heard people say that AGP doesn't automatically mean that it's abusive and offensive to women.

But, surely that's a contradiction in terms? You cannot grossly parody a pornified mockery of a woman and it be truly benign?

I just know that I'm sick of the fucking sight of them.

Maybe i'm being unfair with that view, but i'll live with that.

MangyInseam · 16/04/2022 19:18

@Roseglen84

MangyInseam

You can tell that to people I suppose, that they should keep sexual things at home, but the fact is that often we don't know what is going on in the mind of someone in a public space. What is the difference between some guy wearing a dress because he wants to subvert gender norms, and one who is playing a role for a thrill?

I think most women don't actually care too much about why men do this, nor is it strictly our business why. In the end, the result for women is pretty much the same. Therefore what we do very much care about is that men are using this as an excuse to breach our spaces.

That is why I said -
I would think the line should be drawn when those fantasies are taken into a public space, particularly one that is designated for a particular group they are not part of. That's why we have to have a solid 'no men in women's spaces, end of!' It's the only way.

I didn't think we were talking just about women's spaces though, but public spaces in general where simply interacting in public may be used as an affirmation in someone's fantasy.

Which is a perfectly possible scenario. But so is a gay male cross-dresser who has no interest in that, and some guy wearing a dress might look quite similar as well. Do we react to them all similarly? Does allowing the less problematic instances make it difficult to shut down the problematic ones?

I suppose my thinking with all of this is that our society teaches that while there are valid and important physical boundaries around sexual behaviour, mental boundaries around it, what we all do in our own minds, are not important and may even be unhealthy.

But this seems to assume that the mental landscape isn't strongly linked to manifestation, which I think is incorrect.

Someone upthread mentioned that these boys that develop AGP could be anyone, our sons, brothers, nephews, students, just otherwise normal little boys. And by allowing these kids, who are not yet of an age to be sexually active, to believe that whatever sexual thoughts they have, it is harmless and nothing to worry about - we are putting them in a position where they will totally unwittingly indulge and reinforce the attraction and arousal derived from that kind of thinking. By they time they are twenty they could have eight years of that reinforcement behind them. And no tools to try and repress what may have become a very significant obsession.

Roseglen84 · 16/04/2022 18:21

MangyInseam

You can tell that to people I suppose, that they should keep sexual things at home, but the fact is that often we don't know what is going on in the mind of someone in a public space. What is the difference between some guy wearing a dress because he wants to subvert gender norms, and one who is playing a role for a thrill?

I think most women don't actually care too much about why men do this, nor is it strictly our business why. In the end, the result for women is pretty much the same. Therefore what we do very much care about is that men are using this as an excuse to breach our spaces.

That is why I said -
I would think the line should be drawn when those fantasies are taken into a public space, particularly one that is designated for a particular group they are not part of. That's why we have to have a solid 'no men in women's spaces, end of!' It's the only way.

lemonchilli · 16/04/2022 15:59

@TinselAngel thanks for the link

Just checked out the first 10 minutes and it looks interesting, basically a young woman whose husband had a porn addiction and was then exposed to SHP and has now transitioned, left the family and moved across the country.

TinselAngel · 16/04/2022 15:33

@lemonchilli

Didn't Glinner do a video deep dive into the connection between AGP and sissy hypno porn?

Actually, it might have been on his blog.

There's a YouTube interview of a trans widow talking about it.

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lemonchilli · 16/04/2022 15:31

Didn't Glinner do a video deep dive into the connection between AGP and sissy hypno porn?

Actually, it might have been on his blog.

duskyspringfield · 16/04/2022 13:18

There is an obsession around linking it to deviant behaviour, trans widows and single sex spaces,

Erm no-one really knows about AGP though, do they? - so on the face of it an ‘obsession’ seems pretty unlikely…

Besides this expert researcher has identified a rather large link. Numbers like this matter -whether you like it or not.

Personally I think it should be more widely known.

TinselAngel · 16/04/2022 12:13

There is an obsession around linking it to deviant behaviour, trans widows and single sex spaces,

Who are you saying is obsessed with linking AGP to trans widows? There's barely any awareness at all let alone an "obsession".

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EmbarrassingHadrosaurus · 16/04/2022 11:51

They suggested identifying AGP boys and castrating them before puberty! (Quite horrifying).

If you mean this podcast, it's clear that the hosts were not in agreement with Lawrence on a number of points.

The end of the conversation took an unexpected turn when she described mindset, the intensity, and the desperate measures that seem so reasonable when you’re tortured with severe autogynephilia. For the record, Anne has not been involved in the field for many years and her reflections do not encompass the ROGD phenomenon. Stella and I feel it’s important to listen to people’s experiences so we can understand all the manifestations of GD. However, we believe in the power of therapeutic intervention and we don’t think a nihilistic approach is helpful to deeply distressed individuals.

podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/67-pioneers-series-men-trapped-in-mens-bodies-with/id1542655295?i=1000554455773

BootsAndRoots · 16/04/2022 11:32

In a previous thread on here someone suggested listening to a podcast where Anne Lawrence was interviewed. It seemed to be clear that AGP develops long before puberty, so I believe the links with porn and AGP to be false. They suggested identifying AGP boys and castrating them before puberty! (Quite horrifying).

Another interesting thing that was said was that some men fully surgically transition, but still maintain a male persona in public and still present as male in public. I found that really interesting as it's something I've never thought about before, the single-sex spaces issue wouldn't come up with that.

The problem with all behaviour when you give it an identity, rather than a clinical definition is that the behaviour becomes acceptable and that people have to accept it. Mislabelling AGP as trans is what allows these behaviours to manifest, and also for sufferer to think that it's not sexual arousal behind the motivation, but gender dysphoria.

There is an obsession around linking it to deviant behaviour, trans widows and single sex spaces, but my main concern (as I've seen it happen) is with boys with AGP who are sent on a route to transition. This could be your son, nephew etc, and at an age where there is still innocence and the hormones aren't raging around their bodies.

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morningstart · 16/04/2022 09:17

I don't think sissy hypno porn is the cause for most men who suffer from AGP, I do think that a lot of men experiment with watching transgender porn and as they get addicted to that they are gradually exposed to increasing amounts of SHP, the suggestive nature of which leads to them questioning themselves and their sex for the first time and may put them on the journey to transition.

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