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Kids accusing their parents of being homophobic or terfs

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LittleWhingingWoman · 02/04/2022 09:25

DD says that several of her friends are doing this on social media.

I've also heard it in person from two girls in two different classes who have made comments in front of me about how either their parents or their friends parents are horrible homophobic transphobic people. When questioned they double down and say things like "well my friend came out to her parents and they weren't supportive of her going to Pride" (this was from a 13 year old!)

Another girls mum who is an old friend of mine said to me that her dd does it all the time about other kids parents and that she suspects this child is also saying it about them.
The child is - the child has been at our house saying it and when I said "you realise that your mum has loads of gay friends don't you?" The child basically looked a bit blank and went red and mumbled into her Doritos.

Apparently next day in class she was at it again. In front of teachers!

DD says one of the latest things on TikTok is to complain about parents being phobic - massive oppression points for middle class kids!

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LittleWhingingWoman · 02/04/2022 09:38

Given that many women I know who are fellow parents had gay best men instead of bridesmaids at their weddings, gay godfathers to their kids, lesbian friends... ie not homophobic at all - seeing them being accused of being homophobic by their gender obsessive kids is extreme brainwashing.

But it does has the effect of creating in the child's head, the "hostility" that suddenly enables them to shout that the alphabet people are the most oppressed ever ever.

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Hasselhoffsheadband · 02/04/2022 09:38

@tabbycatstripy

Kids are always looking for ways to differentiate themselves from their parents. This is normal. What’s not normal is the way other adults react to it as if the parents have done something wrong.
This!

It's completely normal for young people to think that their parents are totally uncool, totally wrong about everything, that they are not the same as their parents. This has always happened and is part of normal stage of development of young people.

What is not normal is other adults exploiting this, saying 'yes, your parents are awful people, come and join our rainbow family, we will be your new family now'.

Motnight · 02/04/2022 09:33

My dd and I have had discussions around this. We have agreed not to anymore. I refused her labelling of me as a cis woman. I am hoping that she is seeing what is happening in this country and will come to a different conclusion soon enough.

Onionpatch · 02/04/2022 09:31

Part if being a teen is seperating from your parents and holding them in contempt dor a few years.

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LittleWhingingWoman · 02/04/2022 09:30

@tabbycatstripy

Kids are always looking for ways to differentiate themselves from their parents. This is normal. What’s not normal is the way other adults react to it as if the parents have done something wrong.
Yes. Kids complaining about parents is one thing and we have all done it - but the targeting of parents as homophobic and transphobic has a more sinister edge to it which can get people in trouble in this day and age. It's a close knit community. Some of these parents being accused are business owners.
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tabbycatstripy · 02/04/2022 09:27

Kids are always looking for ways to differentiate themselves from their parents. This is normal. What’s not normal is the way other adults react to it as if the parents have done something wrong.