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To wonder why an MP is lying about womens bathrooms?

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TeaKlaxon · 28/03/2022 09:33

Lucy Allen has tweeted that the Barbican has mens bathrooms and gender neutral bathrooms, but no womens bathrooms.

Lots of twitter users told her that was wrong.

The Barbican itself told her it's wrong.

But the tweet remains. AIBU to think that if an MP gets something wrong, they should apologise and remove the lie? Or to think that this is deliberate misinformation to further the myth of women being 'erased'?

twitter.com/lucyallan/status/1507076111871713282?s=20&t=D_TGgQBlnKkKZ6NEIjnzsw

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AlisonDonut · 28/03/2022 11:54

What makes you think that 51% of the population have to go to a bit more effort.

Well, in toilets generally, there are less female ones so it is par for the course.

I've never been anywhere where they were queuing out the door of the mens' whilst the ladies' was free flowing so to speak. Ever.

TeaKlaxon · 28/03/2022 11:53

@bellinisurge

"The point is there will be places in the building where it takes a bit more effort to find out where the toilet you need is. That is just a fact of life that there will never be sign posts within eyeline everywhere."

Hence my reference to Hitchhiker's and Beware of the Leopard.

I expect there to be a sign for disabled toilets, men's toilets and women's toilets in sight of each other. As they are in most places. Particularly large entertainment venues. Why isn't it "women's and gender neutral "?
Why should 51% of the population have to go to "a bit more effort" to find a sex specific toilet. It took women so long to get sex specific public toilets in the first place. Why should it be a Taskmaster challenge to find one now.

What makes you think that 51% of the population have to go to a bit more effort.

If a man happened to be near the women's bathrooms, and the men's bathroom was not clearly signposted from there, he might also have to go to a bit more effort to find where he needs to go.

The nature of building design means its not always possible to have all bathrooms right next to each other.

It's generally not particularly difficult to find yourself to a place in the Barbican where the toilet you are looking for is clearly signposted - there are a lot of signs in the Barbican. Someone complaining there isn't a sign in the very specific place they happen to be stood at one particular time is being a bit pathetic IMO.

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DdraigGoch · 28/03/2022 11:52

So are you comfortable with an MP spreading lies or not?
@TeaKlaxon David Lammy said that men can grow a cerxix, did you make a thread about that?

AlisonDonut · 28/03/2022 11:52

@334bu

So how many female toilets are there in the Barbican ? Are they hidden away or readily accessible? Are they signposted or not?
This.

The Barbican is so big, I can imagine them putting one female only toilet in, hidden away in the depths of the building, needing a map and compass to find it just so that they can sy 'we do have female toilets'...

But what are the facts? How many toilets and what are their 'titles'? There is no point actually banging on about liars/non liars etc until the actual situation is understood.

Pluvia · 28/03/2022 11:49

Not sure what this has to do with the topic of the thread, which is Lucy Allen's false claim (or implication...) that the Barbican doesn't have women's bathrooms

Dodging my questions? Now there's a surprise...

As several women have pointed out, there don't seem to be any specifically labelled Women's loos (not bathrooms) at the Barbican. Or if they are they are so hidden away that even the staff there aren't sure where they are.

Helleofabore · 28/03/2022 11:49

Again, I will just keep reposting the actual tweet:

I received this message today: “I was at the Barbican yesterday where there were male toilets, disabled toilets, and gender neutral toilets. I asked where were the female toilets as I am not gender neutral I am a woman and they laughed in my face. Women are being erased.”

So, to repeat, a woman asked where the female toilets were and was laughed at!

It seems the complainer was laughed at and may have not been told where the supposedly many, but not necessarily easy or quick to find for some people, female toilets were.

And we have OP calling people liars and insisting the MP is lying.

I am not sure how a person complaining to their MP is helped in this instance by a blanket statement as to how many toilets of what kind the Barbican has.

The right thing to actually have done as the Barbican would be (and I assume they must have as they are supposed to be a professional lot) to say, we are sorry to hear that the woman visiting our venue was laughed at and not helped by our staff. We will investigate this situation and get back to her.

bellinisurge · 28/03/2022 11:48

"The point is there will be places in the building where it takes a bit more effort to find out where the toilet you need is. That is just a fact of life that there will never be sign posts within eyeline everywhere."

Hence my reference to Hitchhiker's and Beware of the Leopard.

I expect there to be a sign for disabled toilets, men's toilets and women's toilets in sight of each other. As they are in most places. Particularly large entertainment venues. Why isn't it "women's and gender neutral "?
Why should 51% of the population have to go to "a bit more effort" to find a sex specific toilet. It took women so long to get sex specific public toilets in the first place. Why should it be a Taskmaster challenge to find one now.

oakleaffy · 28/03/2022 11:48

@HoveringDonkeyofKnock

I asked where were the female toilets as I am not gender neutral

That’s a bit pathetic. What are disabled people supposed to do, disabled toilets are usually gender neutral.

I don’t hear disabled people saying excuse me Jan but I’m a woman not a gender neutral.

Disabled Lavatories tend to be SINGLE. Only one person ( Or more if known to them) goes in at a time.

It’s not like shared space where a penis wielder can be, to alarm women.
I have been disconcerted by a male body usingba female lavatory in A Library .

The “Mens” was next door.
This person didn’t even shut the cubicle door.

gogohm · 28/03/2022 11:47

There was mens and womens last year when I went plus a block of gender neutral ones elsewhere in the complex.

girlmom21 · 28/03/2022 11:47

@HoveringDonkeyofKnock

I asked where were the female toilets as I am not gender neutral

That’s a bit pathetic. What are disabled people supposed to do, disabled toilets are usually gender neutral.

I don’t hear disabled people saying excuse me Jan but I’m a woman not a gender neutral.

Well that's because the toilets say 'disabled' not 'gender neutral'...

Disabled toilets tend to be for use one a time - there's not normally a communal area.

DdraigGoch · 28/03/2022 11:45

if I saw gents and gender neutral bathrooms in a venue as large as the Barbican, I would just assume the women's bathroom is somewhere else.

@TeaKlaxon you'd be able to find the women's quite easily, because the queue for the remaining female-only facilities will be zig-zagging around the building. Such is an inevitable consequence of reducing the female facilities available in a type of venue already known for long queues for the women's toilets.

The men (who hardly needed to queue in the first place) have the choice of using the men's, the "gender-neutral with urinals" (so also the men's), and the "gender-neutral with cubicles" (which few women feel comfortable using).

The women meanwhile will mostly feel uncomfortable using toilets shared with men and will certainly be too uncomfortable to use the ones with urinals. So most of the women will be left queuing for the remaining single-sex toilets.

DiscontentedWoman · 28/03/2022 11:40

I don't have a bloody gender. Which bogs should I use? And stop calling them bloody bathrooms ffs.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 28/03/2022 11:39

I think she is calling liars liars not women liars

If you say so. I wouldn't assume this person's gender, either.

Helleofabore · 28/03/2022 11:38

And from the sounds of this thread, plenty 'gender critical' people have no problem with lies

And yet, the tweet was about a woman who asked for the directions to the female single sex toilet and was laughed out. Not actually given the information.

And you are the one talking about spreading misinformation but not addressing the actual subject of the tweet.

334bu · 28/03/2022 11:37

So how many female toilets are there in the Barbican ? Are they hidden away or readily accessible? Are they signposted or not?

SeasonFinale · 28/03/2022 11:37

@Ereshkigalangcleg

Is calling women liars on the internet, your thing, OP? Each to their own.
I think she is calling liars liars not women liars Hmm
HoveringDonkeyofKnock · 28/03/2022 11:37

I asked where were the female toilets as I am not gender neutral

That’s a bit pathetic. What are disabled people supposed to do, disabled toilets are usually gender neutral.

I don’t hear disabled people saying excuse me Jan but I’m a woman not a gender neutral.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 28/03/2022 11:34

Is calling women liars on the internet, your thing, OP? Each to their own.

Blossomtoes · 28/03/2022 11:34

And from the sounds of this thread, plenty 'gender critical' people have no problem with lies.

You mean we live in the real world where lying by the government is so commonplace we don’t believe them when they say the sky is blue?

TeaKlaxon · 28/03/2022 11:32

@NewPanDrawer

You are very clearly not being unreasonable *@TeaKlaxon*, the tweet is misinformation. I live very near the Barbican and visit frequently, and the tweet is just wrong. An MP hiding behind the excuse of "I'm just passing on what I've been told" is almost worse than the original lie. Once we start tolerating that there's no end to it, and I'd urge those defending it to think where that leads.

(You'll spend all day playing whack-a-mole with the ladies from the sex-and-gender board, the tweet fits the erasure-of-women trope, and they won't relinquish it easily Grin)

I thought it was interesting that it came the same couple of days that the reported from GB News tweeted a similar lie about a pub in Belfast.

Is this now just what Gender Critical people do?

Make claims that are blatantly untrue? And if that is the case, doesn't that prove that their case against trans people is pretty hollow - if they have to lie about the consequences of wokery (or whatever they're railing against this week...) then that suggests the actual real world consequences aren't all that bad...

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TeaKlaxon · 28/03/2022 11:28

@RufusthefIoraImissingreindeer

Oops should answer the OP

I don't know too much about the ins and outs of this particular situation but even if this is an outright lie or an honest mistake it should be corrected if wrong

Indeed. I saw this a couple of days ago, but assumed she'd have deleted the tweet by now. I wasn't massively hopeful that she'd apologise or acknowledge she got it wrong, but thought 'surely, she won't be so shame faced as to leave this blatant misinformation up' even after the Barbican itself corrected her.

I only started this thread as she has left it up - there is no way this is now just an 'honest mistake'. It is a choice to lie.

And from the sounds of this thread, plenty 'gender critical' people have no problem with lies.

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Ereshkigalangcleg · 28/03/2022 11:28

Don't worry, TeaKlaxon is perfectly familiar with us ladies of the sex and gender board.

NewPanDrawer · 28/03/2022 11:27

You are very clearly not being unreasonable @TeaKlaxon, the tweet is misinformation. I live very near the Barbican and visit frequently, and the tweet is just wrong. An MP hiding behind the excuse of "I'm just passing on what I've been told" is almost worse than the original lie. Once we start tolerating that there's no end to it, and I'd urge those defending it to think where that leads.

(You'll spend all day playing whack-a-mole with the ladies from the sex-and-gender board, the tweet fits the erasure-of-women trope, and they won't relinquish it easily Grin)

Helleofabore · 28/03/2022 11:26

The point is there will be places in the building where it takes a bit more effort to find out where the toilet you need is. That is just a fact of life that there will never be sign posts within eyeline everywhere.

Hence the person complaining to their MP asked and was laughed at.

And obviously not told where the single sex toilets they asked for was.

That was the tweet, wasn't it?

TeaKlaxon · 28/03/2022 11:26

@Clymene

Stop calling them bathrooms

Can you explain why @TeaKlaxon - if there are butch women being challenged in women's toilets that your solution is to make them mixed sex?

Because I'm really struggling to understand the logic.

Firstly, the point about butch women being challenged was an aside to a pp who wondered what gender neutral bathrooms were.

Second, I'm not sure what your post has to do with the misinformation being spread by 'gender critical' people who are now just blatantly lying about toilets (better?!) available to women.

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