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Boris has nailed colours to mast

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Ridcully82 · 23/03/2022 12:41

On gender transition at PMQs:" biology overwhelmingly important", preceded by urging respect for those feeling they need to transition. Sounded calm, respectful,and kinda where we were on course before the TRA actions.

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tabbycatstripy · 23/03/2022 20:19

'I would struggle to vote for TWAW Caroline Nokes or TWAW Penny Mordaunt were it a General Election.'

We should crowdfund a sensible human to stand against Nokes as an independent. Any good GC women near the New Forest?

Iwassonaive · 23/03/2022 20:15

@MidsomerMurmurs

Some hilariously England-centric posts in this long thread. You want to try working out the political situation here in Scotland. (Spoiler: Nicola and the SNP are not the progressive types you probably think they are if you’re basing your view on simplistic Guardian coverage).

I’m under no illusions: I know that the Tories are the party of Nokes, Blunt, Miller et al as well as the party of Badenoch and Truss. But all this “I could never vote Tory” is a bit Hmm from up here. Careful what you wish for.

Yes I first starting voting Conservative in Scotland to stop Indyref2.
Iwassonaive · 23/03/2022 20:14

@99pronouns

So in May how should I vote?

I believe in biology. Personally this is my no1 interest/issue politically because I think we are such a crucial generation regarding women's rights.

My local MP (at present) is Duffield, I usually vote Labour or Lib Dem.
The area has always been blue until Duffield.

As it is a council election you should vote for any councillor you like who appears to agree with you on this. That is most likely to be a Tory which is what Duffield's seat (Canterbury) usually votes anyway. There are obvious exceptions, I would struggle to vote for TWAW Caroline Nokes or TWAW Penny Mordaunt were it a General Election.
MidsomerMurmurs · 23/03/2022 20:13

Some hilariously England-centric posts in this long thread. You want to try working out the political situation here in Scotland. (Spoiler: Nicola and the SNP are not the progressive types you probably think they are if you’re basing your view on simplistic Guardian coverage).

I’m under no illusions: I know that the Tories are the party of Nokes, Blunt, Miller et al as well as the party of Badenoch and Truss. But all this “I could never vote Tory” is a bit Hmm from up here. Careful what you wish for.

tabbycatstripy · 23/03/2022 20:11

FOJN - You think he'll row it back eventually, then?

FOJN · 23/03/2022 20:09

My reason for pointing it out is to show that Starmer isn't lying, or stupid.

Ah I see. No we do disagree on this. I don't think he believes a word of the gender nonsense but will repeat it because he's been told it's progressive but he parrots TWAW with zero conviction. He is not stupid which is why I don't think he believes what he says. He knows it's wrong to incarcerate women with rapists, however they identify, because he knows they are men.

MyLittlePhonyPony · 23/03/2022 20:07

My local MP (at present) is Duffield

Duffield may yet end up representing the conservatives. There have been rumbles about her being invited to the back benches.

And whilst Duffield herself gets it, I read on here she is surrounded by gender zealots in her team, certainly that seemed to be the flavour talking to people who helped her to campaign. I've also seen numerous posts where she's been sent letters and received no reply so I expect even her underlings have their own agenda.

I really hope she jumps ship, she's been treated appallingly by Labour and owes them no loyalty. She's also a moderate left voice so I think she'd do well in a conservative government shifting to a more central position.

Trainbear · 23/03/2022 20:02

Yes you can vote for them. They don't eat babies (raw).

MsTSwift · 23/03/2022 19:58

Yes I really relate to that post too. Brought up that left were “good” and Tories “bad” but the issues are so complex and diverse now and the way the left wing parties have rushed to throw away womens rights has frankly sickened me. I cannot in all conscience vote for them.

Waitwhat23 · 23/03/2022 19:56

@littlbrowndog thank you for that link about the petition - I hadn't seen the update.

It's absolutely astounding the situation up here - it seems so beyond rationality as to be ridiculous. Police Scotland insisting that someone who has raped women with his penis has to be recorded as a woman because he says so. Equality Impact Statements filled out which consider only one of the 9 protected characteristics. Research showing that men are self iding into the female prison estate to gain sexual access to women ignored by the SPS. The word woman removed from maternity policies. And the Scottish Government wasting £150,000 of taxpayers money to defend their unlawful redefining of the word woman.

It's utterly staggering.

Unsure33 · 23/03/2022 19:49

@MyLittlePhonyPony

To be honest I don't like the way people who vote conservative and ministers are villainised. It's this whole good versus evil narrative that is really unpalatable.

See for me, the seed this planted was that I was doing very black and white tribal thinking. I wasn't looking at the nuance of why people believed differently to me. Same with Brexit. I'm ashamed to say that I viewed anyone who voted leave as a rcaist ignorant. And I'm sure that was some people's motivation. But a lot of people had good reasons for thinking being put of the EU was preferable, and some of them were even selfless. Like people who wanted more control on foreign labour so people from other countries weren't explored into working for less than minimum wage in appalling conditions and English people weren't being overlooked as possiblities to be trained and do the jobs.

At the time I saw it as good versus evil but actually reading others' views without resorting to calling them gammons has meant I understand more that they are real people with real concerns and not evil selfish privileged prats.

And I have listened to gender ideology and I do get there's a sense of longing and sadness for wanting to belong; yet I can recognise this without wanting to harm the women who will be excluded by inviting gender ideology into policy.

Anyway, my point is, that instead of feeling sad that I can't vote Labour, I need to stop demonising myself or others for voting Conservative if they feel it's the right thing to do. I need to accept they are motivated by other things and not just simply evil.

Sadly, I can't come out and say any of this in real life because of the risk, which is a shame as I realised how intolerant I was in the guise of tolerance.

A wise women once told me we vote for the path of life we're on. At the time I dismissed her as a invisible middle aged woman.

I like to think I'm working towards being a little wiser now.

One of the best posts I have seen for ages.

Life is not black and white . ..

There are plenty of philanthropists who vote Tory .

MangyInseam · 23/03/2022 19:48

@Grumpyoldpersonwithcats

I find it very odd that people here are happy to vote for someone who does not support misogyny being made a hate crime. www.google.com/amp/s/www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-politics-58800328.amp Also as an MP, he has always abstained from Westminster votes on abortion. But this is clearly a man who is to be trusted & deserves women's votes?
Lots of women, including feminists, do not think that hate crime legislation is a good idea.

And women are actually more likely than men to take a more pro-life stance on abortion.

I think maybe you are working from an incorrect premise.

JoodyBlue · 23/03/2022 19:48

@Rosit

Do you not worry - especially those of you expressing horror at agreeing with BoJo/Tories - that the fact that your view is shared by him and the tories is, perhaps, a signifier that you might be on the wrong side of history here?
The "wrong side of history" has become another of those stock mantras, that are supposed to frighten people into not thinking. History is a record told by those who hold the power to tell the story. It does not denote the successful and progressive march of time. Human history is leading to climate change - do you support that as "the right side of history"? GC women are making arguments about encouraging people uncomfortable in their bodies to find ways of accepting and loving themselves, rather than becoming lifelong profit for drug companies. There's a narrative worth telling. A history worth recording. Away with your thought terminating cliches.
99pronouns · 23/03/2022 19:46

So in May how should I vote?

I believe in biology. Personally this is my no1 interest/issue politically because I think we are such a crucial generation regarding women's rights.

My local MP (at present) is Duffield, I usually vote Labour or Lib Dem.
The area has always been blue until Duffield.

littlbrowndog · 23/03/2022 19:37

Also petition that police Scotland accuratly describe the sex of rapists

As now if a rapist in Scotland says they are a woman it’s recorded as a woman’s crime

murrayblackburnmackenzie.org/2022/03/23/update-petition-on-accurately-recording-the-sex-of-people-charged-or-convicted-of-rape-or-attempted-rape/

Iwassonaive · 23/03/2022 19:31

@littlbrowndog

For me this is the biggest fight ever for women and girls.

Scotland falling with self id.

We will be like Canada or some parts of USA where it’s a hate crime to misgender a man

I'm hoping it will get rolled back as I think it is also outside the remit of Holyrood.
littlbrowndog · 23/03/2022 19:28

For me this is the biggest fight ever for women and girls.

Scotland falling with self id.

We will be like Canada or some parts of USA where it’s a hate crime to misgender a man

Alltheprettyseahorses · 23/03/2022 19:25

The rights and existence of half the population is the most fundamental red line imaginable. I'm not actually going to vote Tory, I live in one of Labour's safest seats so no point, but nothing would possess me to vote Labour.

I also think we need to examine the rhetoric that Labour will look after people more. If you look at the 2019 Labour manifesto there was not a single penny more for welfare etc than the Tories had. Current shadow chancellor Rachel Reeves has a long history of hardline and inflammatory statements concerning people on low incomes. Labour would have cut vat on fuel to help mitigate rocketing costs, total circa £80 pa, but complained the Tory packages of £200 plus another £150 for most wasn't enough, no doubt terrified in case they didn't make enough noise to bury their own much smaller offer. There are many other things like projected minimum wage which also fall short of Tory plans. Easy wins like the £20 UC reversal are ignored and Labour had nothing to do with Marcus Rashgord's FSM campaign apart from trying to claim the credit when it was sorted. Please don't insult me by telling me Labour care more when they don't actually give a toss, I'm not stupid.

Iwassonaive · 23/03/2022 19:24

This Bill passed by a vote of 88 for and 28 against, 0 abstentions. It became law on 8 March 2018.

littlbrowndog · 23/03/2022 19:23

In the English census did you get asked what your sexuality was or if you were trans gender

In the Scottish census advisors said you can choose the sex of your kids 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️☹️

MangyInseam · 23/03/2022 19:23

@mudgetastic

Why is it more likely that we can persuade labour to understand biology than we can persuade the tories to have a greater awareness of poverty ?
I've never fit politically into the modern divisions, neoliberal right or liberal left. So that's where I'm coming from. I used to, on balance, mostly vote on the left. For a while I was a member of the Greens.

But in general, at the moment, I think the Conservatives are more open to change and influence, and there is a lot more interesting stuff going on among the conservative public intellectuals as well. Conservatives have not always been neoliberal or unconcerned by poverty, and in a lot of ways that kind of conservative governance seems to be on the wane. (And the left has not in the past been perfect on this issue either, tending to put too much weight on social programs and globalism as an answer without considering the role of good jobs and the role of agency of individuals in the culture.)

The real problem on the left at the moment is a completely closed down orthodoxy of identity politics, which seems unbreakable and inescapable. There is just no sign of any way to make a dent in it, and no self-awareness. In terms of public intellectuals on the left, while there are still some they are thinker on the ground - probably because a lot have myteriously been moved to the "alt-right".

So, yeah, I do think that on balance, persuading the Tories might be the better bet. I can't see any way to get through to Labour.

Artichokeleaves · 23/03/2022 19:23

Labour and all those supporters of this ideology are usually hand wringing and weeping about the plight of these women

I think this is the part that sickens me the most.

You'll get passionate speeches about fervency of care and tolerance for those of minority cultures and religions, for the value of inclusion, for the disabled, for homosexuality, for VAWG, for child safeguarding, for women's services and health and refuges, for breast cancer, for the importance of accessible cervical screening -

and then point out that these things clash with the absolute freedoms and primacy of interest of male people, and watch the speaker turn on a dime. You'll get whiplash.

They cannot balance their views or interests in any way. You'll immediately start hearing how homosexuality is transphobic, that women need to reframe their trauma, that it's unacceptable to participate in a faith or culture that is incompatible with mixed sex spaces, that safeguarding is transphobic and NAMALT -

they only ever care about these vulnerable populations they can wax so very sentimentally and passionately on so long as those people are obediently serving the speaker's own political agenda. They will decry and rubbish them and come out with intolerance that can make your jaw drop the minute these people and their needs become inconvenient.

Don't take my word for it, go and look for yourself. Go and talk to a few. But just because someone shouts the word 'equality' and 'inclusion' a lot really does not mean they have any real belief or value for it, has the faintest idea or commitment of what it means, or that they are not doing it purely as good marketing.

Iwassonaive · 23/03/2022 19:20

[quote littlbrowndog]Full piece here , it’s a shite show in Scotland for women 🤦‍♀️

www.holyrood.com/news/view,scottish-government-lose-court-battle-over-redefinition-of-women[/quote]
It's great that Scottish SNP Government lost though. I love it when my donations go to the legal cases which win.
How sad that we women have to donate to these legal challenges/cases, when the existing law was already clear. They just chose to wilfully misinterpret it for whatever is driving this 'trans identity ideology' insanity in western countries right now.
Why aren't MSPs representing the sex-based rights of 50% of their constituents i.e. women?

FancyAFlapjack · 23/03/2022 19:16

@Rosit

Ok, so many of you have vehemently refused to vote for Tory for years and have stated that every other stance they have taken has been completely in opposition to your own principles and beliefs - you believe that their views/actions have been amoral (at best), cruel, unethical, corrupt etc. Pretty much everything else they have done has been repugnant to you and your sensibilities and you will never ever vote for them.

This one issue though, you agree with them. You are aligned in viewpoints with the party whose views and actions you otherwise find abhorrent…that doesn’t give you any pause for thought?

It’s okay. I’m not expecting anything other than straw man arguments and hyperbole in response. Just maybe hoping to plant a seed.

Would you expect black people to vote Labour if Keir Starmer didn't know what a black person was?

Would you expect a gay man to vote for Labour, if Keir Starmer didn't know what a homosexual was?

Thought not.

So why aren't women allowed to put their sex-based rights first?

VestofAbsurdity · 23/03/2022 19:12

@ohfook

I think Labour are beginning to listen. I received this reply from my local Labour mp who said Labour will be upholding single-sex exemptions.
Did you hear the mess the Labour MP made on Julia Hartley-Brewer's show made of this today?

You cannot uphold single sex spaces if you accept TWAW then add in self-id where people change their biological sex on their Birth Certificate, how the hell can you? It's totally contradictory and JHB made that clear but still the Labour MP obfuscated and blustered.

We are having enough trouble upholding single sex spaces without self id being made law due to the lobbying and misrepresentation of the current safeguards by Stonewall et al, there will be no chance if that gets through.