Elaine Fuchs
Overall, and I think this is the main point though, you underestimate the degree of shared misogyny that trans women and cis women share. You do accept that trans women can experience sexism and misogyny, but they are still unwelcome, what degree of misogyny does a trans woman have to face before she is allowed the title of woman? Do all cis women exceed this?
I never wrote that trans women are unwelcome or are not allowed to have the title of woman in most social contexts. More about that further down. But first:
My beef is with the fact that all names for the female biological sex are being erased, while the MRAs and incels and so on attack the female biological sex directly and while the evolutionary psychology justifications for the subjugation of women are based on that concept. And I am extremely worried about the erasure of terms we can use to explain why girls over twelve still cannot go to school in Afghanistan.
If the two biological sexes indeed were truly equally treated, then it wouldn't matter what identity people pick for themselves.
But that is NOT the case, and the new gender ideology makes it extremely hard, if not impossible, to continue the work that is needed. Those who try to do that are accused of transphobia or at least of not being inclusive. Inclusiveness here actually means erasing the identities of every single woman (and, in theory, man, though in practice very few are re-defining men which in itself suggests the sexist aspect to the new way of thinking) when that identity is directly based on biological sex. This is not allowed.
I also have problems with the many theoretical contradictions within the gender identity concept and the current impossibility of even discussing them online.
One of the major questions I have is how a replacement categorisation based on femininity rather than on female biological sex can ever result in equality of the new genders, given that femininity seems to mean being passive, submissive, emotional and nurturing, while masculinity seems to mean being active, dominant, rational and competitive. Those are all adjectives that have been used to justify women's lower placement in societies.
Ten years ago I created a framework (just for myself) for including trans women in feminist work. That was based on the idea that if they present as women in all aspects of their lives, then they are going to face the same mistreatment as most women do, and so much of feminism is directly applicable to them. The exception was female reproductive rights, but at that time I was incredibly naive and assumed that trans people have surgeries which would make this question moot.
From the same angle, trans men would be grouped with men as they would partly share in what some call male privilege. Once again, I assumed that reproduction would not be a relevant question here.
I was incredibly naive, as I noted, and the advent of the nonbinary category caused the whole framework to collapse as nobody knows how others see them and so how others would treat them. Mostly, I suspect, nonbinary people looking female to others would be treated with the same sexism etc. as women experience, while nonbinary people looking like male would benefit from that the way men do.
But where I was truly naive was in assuming that the basic idea of feminism as centrally focused on combating sex-based discrimination was not going to be challenged. In my original framework trans men where treated like biological men and trans women like biological women, and that was the way they were slotted into my system. I had no idea that the demands were for the definition of 'woman' to be completely dismantled and biological sex removed from it!
Once you do that, then fighting sex-based oppression becomes almost impossible, only doable by pretending that each example is a completely separate problem: Pregnant people, menstruators, birthers, and people experiencing menopause actually largely are the same people, but now they would be treated as separate groups.
And once you do that, you certainly erase my 'identity' as a woman which is embodied and based on what it is like to live with a female body.
As an aside, I doubt that 'identity' is the correct term here, as I possess no abstract gender identity. So I don't identify as a woman in some female-soul sense, but I certainly identify with other women when it comes to reproductive rights and experiences of sex discrimination, sexual violence, and general contempt towards female-bodied people so many on this planet demonstrate.