"What happened when my banker husband became a woman: inside our trans marriage"

My god, that poor woman.That’s really hard to watch.

Despite all the gushing about how great and solid their relationship is, I didn’t see any evidence of Leenen’s love for Sarah at all, or even any real interest in her as a person. None. Not even a tiny bit. Leenen seemed to be totally wrapped up in Leenen, and Leenen’s journey. A strikingly cold person, was my impression.

How much cognitive dissonance Sarah must be living with, to convince herself this is OK and what she really wants. I presume her top in the “trans colours” was a deliberate choice as well - signalling allegiance, like the pronoun policing she does. It put me in mind of the greengrocer with his sign in the shop window in Václav Havel’s The Power of the Powerless essay.

hac.bard.edu/amor-mundi/the-power-of-the-powerless-vaclav-havel-2011-12-23

I hope she has good people around her if/when it all comes tumbling down.

I'm short on patience with this sort of argument having done it thoroughly a week ago on Twitter and in the deleted thread. See my link up thread.

@tinselangel
I am offering my opinion on a specific woman based on my reading, not all women who find themselves in these difficult relationships. Dont put words in my mouth. It is not a very clever or honest tactic.

@Clymene I agree. It also reminded me a bit of the early interviews of Charles and Diana. The "whatever love is..." comment. The power imbalance is very clear.

Quite. It's Alexandra who is the bad person.

The bit that got me in the video was at 2:28 when he said Sarah "is not a bad person". I mean... WHAT.

Sarah looks devastated and while I feel pity - that relationship is doomed given the man's smugness, oily self-confidence and the not so subtle ways he puts her down- I also want to scream in exasperation : what did you expect? When he stood next to you in a dress at the wedding? When you held his hand through the castration operation and you virtue signalled to all and sundry? And you know what? Lots of women, many of them liberal feminist, will have no qualms taking Sarah's place, making the same arguments Sarah made.

Well just call me Mystic Tinsel

twitter.com/transwidows/status/1502974186276507652?s=21

And sorry too. I thought they hadn't had that conversation but looks like they did. Terrible power imbalance there though

Alexandra adds, “I remember then saying, ‘But I think it will go all the way.’ ” Sarah nods. “I thought about it for three months. I didn’t fully realise every implication. All I knew was that, whatever was going to happen, I wanted to be with her.”
I don't think

Apologies, I thought from the first article (now deleted, if that thread has gone?) that she knew he was planning to transition.

It was obvious from the original article that this was a grossly inequitable relationship, and from watching the interview it was clear that Sarah was very distressed. Entirely understandably.

www.transwidowsvoices.org/

Alexandra has a new girlfriend

Who would have predicted that

I feel very sorry for Sarah, but why she ever got involved in this situation in the first place - apparently knowing what it entailed - is something I find hard to understand.

Couldn't watch it till the end. That poor woman just wanted to cry and was in desperate need of a hug. Whilst Alexandra was gloating on her happiness. It was uncomfortable.

I found Trisha's assertions incredibly saccharine. On what basis does she assume that 80 to 90% of regular marriages are dishonest. Utter drivel. Sarah looks devastated and her husband looks smug.

Some of the men probably do.

I read an article that said in their last few months at work Harold used to wear frilly underwear and stockings under his suit.

I have no idea what my fellow 40-something friends wear under their clothes but I’m willing to be few of them wear fancy pants and stockings to work. I know I don’t!

Poor woman :(

Oh I had to stop watching that. She looks like she wants to cry. Poor Sarah

The compromises all seem to be borne on one side of that relationship, don't they?

How modern.

Also that Alexandra would be “the very woman” to break the glass ceiling for women in banking. Errr, no ....

I suspect Sarah and her family might get turfed out when the new gf wants to move in.

The impression I get is that Sarah thought she’d found a love for life.

Now she’s clinging to the half-life that’s all that is left of that love.

She’s trying to sound enthusiastic over the idea of a permitted lover, whereas what she probably wants is her much loved husband back. And she can’t have that, because he no longer exists.